Anonymous wrote:I belong to a community-type gym. Everyone helps and encourages, we all work out at the same times, and I’ve been going for nearly a year. I was depressed and pretty overweight when I started, lacking confidence. Like I said, it’s a community. But there is one guy who gives me the cold shoulder. He thinks he’s a god and openly flirts with all the other women. I really let it bother me in the beginning, when I wasn’t feeling confident. I think he knew this and it was his superior way of messing with me.
I’ve been consistently losing weight, but within the last three months I’ve really changed a lot! I’m feeling super confident and pretty, and it’s showing. Now all of a sudden this guy wants my attention. I’m feeling so angry and spiteful! A typical case of ‘you didn’t want me at my worst so you don’t deserve me at me best’. Part of me wants to act like he did when I was trying to be kind, like everyone else, and he chose to blatantly ignore me. But I’m bigger than that.
How would you handle this?
Wow, he really lives rent free in your head.
Doesn’t sound like there’s anything to “handle.”