Anonymous
Post 03/14/2023 12:38     Subject: Re:Taking adult child’s boyfriend on vacation - sleeping arrangement???
Split by gender- DH and I were engaged and 30 and were separated even when visiting our same aged cousins and sibs as they all had families.


Don’t crowd source this. Do what you feel is the right thing.
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2023 12:38     Subject: Taking adult child’s boyfriend on vacation - sleeping arrangement???
Anonymous wrote:What are the ages and genders of the other 2 kids?


As a teenage girl I’d have been fine sharing a room with my siblings or parents and siblings, but would have HATED having to share with my older sister’s boyfriend.
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2023 12:35     Subject: Taking adult child’s boyfriend on vacation - sleeping arrangement???
What are the ages and genders of the other 2 kids?
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2023 12:34     Subject: Taking adult child’s boyfriend on vacation - sleeping arrangement???
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How awkward for the boyfriend to have to share a room with another family member.


If he comes alone on the FAMILY vacation then he's treated like family!


I don't even share a room with my IL's. Weirdo.
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2023 12:34     Subject: Taking adult child’s boyfriend on vacation - sleeping arrangement???
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I didn't have sex until I married at 31 and would have been uncomfortable being forced to share a room by his parents with my boyfriend at 21. At the same time, it's weird to force her to stay with same-sex strangers she likely doesn't know.

A large vacation rental solves this problem (and many others).


No one is making you have sex just by sharing a room. I'm gonna bet you share a room with your husband but don't screw every night.


I wasn't sharing a bed, either. Yes, I would have been uncomfortable doing that at 21. Would have stayed home over it.
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2023 12:33     Subject: Taking adult child’s boyfriend on vacation - sleeping arrangement???
Anonymous wrote:Dd is 21, and we are taking her boyfriend on vacation with us this summer. If you have done this, what was the sleeping arrangement? We are a family of 5, so he will be the 6th. We are getting 2 hotel rooms. Do we go ahead and let them have one of the rooms? Or do we put girls in one and guys in the other? We all know that they obviously spend the night together all the time, so it kinda seems futile to separate them. But also not sure if it sends the wrong signal to my other kids who are teenagers. What do most people do in this situation? I see people on sm taking their kids’ boyfriends/girlfriends on trips and always wondered how that was handled!


Girls in one and guys in another.
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2023 12:32     Subject: Taking adult child’s boyfriend on vacation - sleeping arrangement???
How may nights away? Is this a two-three night trip or a two-week trip?

Cackling over "Four people can't POSSIBLY share one single room!" My gosh. Y'all are something else.
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2023 12:28     Subject: Taking adult child’s boyfriend on vacation - sleeping arrangement???
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How awkward for the boyfriend to have to share a room with another family member.


If he comes alone on the FAMILY vacation then he's treated like family!


+1 this is a family vacation that he’s been invited to tag along, not a romantic getaway sponsored by his gf’s parents.
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2023 12:26     Subject: Taking adult child’s boyfriend on vacation - sleeping arrangement???
Anonymous wrote:How awkward for the boyfriend to have to share a room with another family member.


He can decline or he and GF can pay for their own.
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2023 12:25     Subject: Taking adult child’s boyfriend on vacation - sleeping arrangement???
Anonymous wrote:How awkward for the boyfriend to have to share a room with another family member.


If he comes alone on the FAMILY vacation then he's treated like family!
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2023 12:24     Subject: Re:Taking adult child’s boyfriend on vacation - sleeping arrangement???
They never get their own room at our expense.

So unless they pay for their own, they share!
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2023 12:23     Subject: Taking adult child’s boyfriend on vacation - sleeping arrangement???
How awkward for the boyfriend to have to share a room with another family member.
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2023 12:23     Subject: Taking adult child’s boyfriend on vacation - sleeping arrangement???
At 21 they are old enough to share a room. In this scenario I don't think it's appropriate for parents to be split up and rooms to be divided by gender. You wouldn't do this if the boyfriend wasn't there, would you? Either you spring for the 3rd room so you have a kids/parents/college couple setup or you sacrifice your comfort and your teens' comfort so the college couple can have some privacy. I know what I would do.
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2023 12:18     Subject: Re:Taking adult child’s boyfriend on vacation - sleeping arrangement???
My family took my now husband and I to Disney World in college. One of us slept with my sister and BIL, and one of us slept with my parents (we swapped at some point because sister & BIL were obviously more relaxing to be with).

Years later I found out my brother and his college girlfriend always got put together, but only when I wasn't around. Hmmmmph!

To be fair, I was really religious in college and actually wasn't sleeping with my boyfriend yet.

All this is to say that you should offer as casually as possible for your DD and her partner to stay together. If they say, oh no, that's weird, then put the kids all together.
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2023 12:17     Subject: Taking adult child’s boyfriend on vacation - sleeping arrangement???
If they can't afford their own room and you can't afford a third room for them, then they don't go.