Anonymous wrote:My cousin's dad died. He wanted to be cremated and no ceremony or anything. Cousins are doing a celebration of life anyways. Thoughts? Is it rude to go against his wishes?

I don't see a point in it and don't want to burden grieving family with arranging events either but if family wants one them I don't care.

Is a celebration of life a ceremony? It could be drinks at the bar. The uncle would forbid friendly drinks at the bar?

The cousins should do what they like.

He's dead. He won't know. People get together, his wishes can't stop that. People talk about what's been going on - they'll be talking about him. If he's a good guy, they'll say nice things about him and comfort each other.