Anonymous
Post 03/07/2023 09:20     Subject: “Anti-prom” event
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why do you care Miss Marple? Sounds like you’d love it if these parents got in trouble. I imagine these parents know their risks well and have still decided to do it.

The solution is simple. Drive your kid; stay in front the whole time (out of the view) and everyone is perfectly fine.

But instead you want to be a fly in the ointment.


I think I'm the "Miss Marple" you're addressing. I care for a number of reasons: (1) I would like for kids to be safe and well, even those I don't know, and events such as these carry unnecessary risks of danger; (2) I also care a lot about teens' mental health, which is floundering everywhere, and believe that when kids are too concerned about being "cool" and "seen" at the "cool" events, this is harmful to their mental health and sense of agency and self-worth - and that their self-worth is dangerously tied to these things; and (3) I think parents are negligent in serving alcohol to underaged teens and it is in everyone's best interest for parents to stay out of jail. We are entitled to disagree on any of these points.



It’s not your job. You are meddling. Some of these kids are adults in most countries of the world.


I'm not meddling. I'm not reporting the party. I am simply saying no to my children.
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2023 09:19     Subject: Re:“Anti-prom” event
I’m curious about the pro anti-prom people-what are the benefits (given that kids have smaller parties all the time?) Why the night before the school’s prom? Would you really not worry about liability? Not being snarky I’m really wondering
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2023 09:18     Subject: “Anti-prom” event
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Have any of your kids gone to an unofficial/social media publicized anti-prom? This is the night before prom at a pricy venue-invites are on social media and “everyone” knows the kid whose family is throwing it. My questions are-is this a thing? And, if so, wtf?


If you know where it is and when it is, call the non-emergency police number and let them know that you are aware of this large under-age event going on and that there will likely be under-aged drinking, etc going on. The up-front police presence will go a long way to keeping things from getting out of control.


Wow. I would subpoenae that call if you shut my party down and publish your name on the school chat app. Karen did it!


DP. I would not be shamed in the least if you did that, PP. It's the right thing to do. Are you really supporting the organization of a large party with underage kids with no controls whatsoever? YOU are the problem. If you ever did this, and a kid died, was injured or was assaulted as a direct consequence of your party, how would that make you feel? What if you were sued as a result? And lost, and went to jail?

The shoe is on the other foot here.


You are on. Bring it.

The 19th century saying is a dead giveaway.
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2023 09:17     Subject: “Anti-prom” event
Please someone put me on the invite list for this Russian troll farm organized party! Sounds like fun, vodka and caviar.
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2023 09:17     Subject: “Anti-prom” event
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Have any of your kids gone to an unofficial/social media publicized anti-prom? This is the night before prom at a pricy venue-invites are on social media and “everyone” knows the kid whose family is throwing it. My questions are-is this a thing? And, if so, wtf?


If you know where it is and when it is, call the non-emergency police number and let them know that you are aware of this large under-age event going on and that there will likely be under-aged drinking, etc going on. The up-front police presence will go a long way to keeping things from getting out of control.


Wow. I would subpoenae that call if you shut my party down and publish your name on the school chat app. Karen did it!


DP. I would not be shamed in the least if you did that, PP. It's the right thing to do. Are you really supporting the organization of a large party with underage kids with no controls whatsoever? YOU are the problem. If you ever did this, and a kid died, was injured or was assaulted as a direct consequence of your party, how would that make you feel? What if you were sued as a result? And lost, and went to jail?

The shoe is on the other foot here.
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2023 09:16     Subject: “Anti-prom” event
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why do you care Miss Marple? Sounds like you’d love it if these parents got in trouble. I imagine these parents know their risks well and have still decided to do it.

The solution is simple. Drive your kid; stay in front the whole time (out of the view) and everyone is perfectly fine.

But instead you want to be a fly in the ointment.


I think I'm the "Miss Marple" you're addressing. I care for a number of reasons: (1) I would like for kids to be safe and well, even those I don't know, and events such as these carry unnecessary risks of danger; (2) I also care a lot about teens' mental health, which is floundering everywhere, and believe that when kids are too concerned about being "cool" and "seen" at the "cool" events, this is harmful to their mental health and sense of agency and self-worth - and that their self-worth is dangerously tied to these things; and (3) I think parents are negligent in serving alcohol to underaged teens and it is in everyone's best interest for parents to stay out of jail. We are entitled to disagree on any of these points.



It’s not your job. You are meddling. Some of these kids are adults in most countries of the world.
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2023 09:15     Subject: Re:“Anti-prom” event
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It’s not a regular party-it’s a huge, elaborate event with a couple hundred teens attending with no real knowledge of who is paying for or hosting it and no indication if there will be any type of monitoring for drinking and drugs/driving safety afterwards the way there is a at a school sponsored prom. If a group of teens wants to plan something, fine, but this is not that.


Reminds me of how agitators planned "protests," and then we found out Russians in troll farms were planting the Facebook events. My point is this--Anyone could be planning this. Traffickers, a parent, a kid. We don't know.

Nope. My kid would not want to go that hot mess.

Lol, I love parents like this. Kids want to go to parties if they like the other kids going or think it will be fun. They don’t care who the actual hosts are or about any of the other things parents think are important.


+1

Who are these return to the 50s people?
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2023 09:14     Subject: “Anti-prom” event
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why do you care Miss Marple? Sounds like you’d love it if these parents got in trouble. I imagine these parents know their risks well and have still decided to do it.

The solution is simple. Drive your kid; stay in front the whole time (out of the view) and everyone is perfectly fine.

But instead you want to be a fly in the ointment.


It doesn’t sound like anyone is being a fly in the ointment. It’s just a stupid idea.


Well lots of parents don’t think so. And you definitely come across that way to them. The call the police lady I don’t even know what to say about you.
There’s a concurrent thread where people are admitting in droves they were considered losers at school and now use this website often. Maybe it’s true?
Is this really about your child and not you? Cause risks are easily manageable without ruining it for the rest of us
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2023 09:13     Subject: Re:“Anti-prom” event
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It’s not a regular party-it’s a huge, elaborate event with a couple hundred teens attending with no real knowledge of who is paying for or hosting it and no indication if there will be any type of monitoring for drinking and drugs/driving safety afterwards the way there is a at a school sponsored prom. If a group of teens wants to plan something, fine, but this is not that.


Reminds me of how agitators planned "protests," and then we found out Russians in troll farms were planting the Facebook events. My point is this--Anyone could be planning this. Traffickers, a parent, a kid. We don't know.

Nope. My kid would not want to go that hot mess.

Lol, I love parents like this. Kids want to go to parties if they like the other kids going or think it will be fun. They don’t care who the actual hosts are or about any of the other things parents think are important.
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2023 09:12     Subject: “Anti-prom” event
Anonymous wrote:Why do you care Miss Marple? Sounds like you’d love it if these parents got in trouble. I imagine these parents know their risks well and have still decided to do it.

The solution is simple. Drive your kid; stay in front the whole time (out of the view) and everyone is perfectly fine.

But instead you want to be a fly in the ointment.


I think I'm the "Miss Marple" you're addressing. I care for a number of reasons: (1) I would like for kids to be safe and well, even those I don't know, and events such as these carry unnecessary risks of danger; (2) I also care a lot about teens' mental health, which is floundering everywhere, and believe that when kids are too concerned about being "cool" and "seen" at the "cool" events, this is harmful to their mental health and sense of agency and self-worth - and that their self-worth is dangerously tied to these things; and (3) I think parents are negligent in serving alcohol to underaged teens and it is in everyone's best interest for parents to stay out of jail. We are entitled to disagree on any of these points.
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2023 09:11     Subject: “Anti-prom” event
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Have any of your kids gone to an unofficial/social media publicized anti-prom? This is the night before prom at a pricy venue-invites are on social media and “everyone” knows the kid whose family is throwing it. My questions are-is this a thing? And, if so, wtf?


If you know where it is and when it is, call the non-emergency police number and let them know that you are aware of this large under-age event going on and that there will likely be under-aged drinking, etc going on. The up-front police presence will go a long way to keeping things from getting out of control.


Wow. I would subpoenae that call if you shut my party down and publish your name on the school chat app. Karen did it!
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2023 09:10     Subject: Re:“Anti-prom” event
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It’s not a regular party-it’s a huge, elaborate event with a couple hundred teens attending with no real knowledge of who is paying for or hosting it and no indication if there will be any type of monitoring for drinking and drugs/driving safety afterwards the way there is a at a school sponsored prom. If a group of teens wants to plan something, fine, but this is not that.


Reminds me of how agitators planned "protests," and then we found out Russians in troll farms were planting the Facebook events. My point is this--Anyone could be planning this. Traffickers, a parent, a kid. We don't know.

Nope. My kid would not want to go that hot mess.


WTF?! It’s a trafficker event?! Genius. Oy vey


Op here-I don’t think it’s a trafficker event, I think it’s a “try-hard parent with an annoying child” event (that also is a legal liability.)


Ah, now we have it. Jealousy.


Genuinely feel bad for whatever happened that you are stuck with an adolescent’s worldview.


Genuinely delightful and fun life happened with lots of ill-advised parties. But I had supportive parents and lots of self-control and self-confidence and never had my stomach pumped. There are whole Universities all over the world with student bars! 🙈 Top world university has a bar for undergraduate students and no one other than American college kids is getting their stomachs pumped. I think it’s due to this type of suburban petite bourgeoisie parenting.
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2023 09:10     Subject: “Anti-prom” event
Anonymous wrote:Have any of your kids gone to an unofficial/social media publicized anti-prom? This is the night before prom at a pricy venue-invites are on social media and “everyone” knows the kid whose family is throwing it. My questions are-is this a thing? And, if so, wtf?


If you know where it is and when it is, call the non-emergency police number and let them know that you are aware of this large under-age event going on and that there will likely be under-aged drinking, etc going on. The up-front police presence will go a long way to keeping things from getting out of control.
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2023 09:08     Subject: “Anti-prom” event
Anonymous wrote:Why do you care Miss Marple? Sounds like you’d love it if these parents got in trouble. I imagine these parents know their risks well and have still decided to do it.

The solution is simple. Drive your kid; stay in front the whole time (out of the view) and everyone is perfectly fine.

But instead you want to be a fly in the ointment.


It doesn’t sound like anyone is being a fly in the ointment. It’s just a stupid idea.
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2023 09:05     Subject: “Anti-prom” event
Why do you care Miss Marple? Sounds like you’d love it if these parents got in trouble. I imagine these parents know their risks well and have still decided to do it.

The solution is simple. Drive your kid; stay in front the whole time (out of the view) and everyone is perfectly fine.

But instead you want to be a fly in the ointment.