Anonymous
03/07/2023 15:37
Subject: Beach week house rules contract
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No permanent mistakes:
1) No arrests
2) No pregnancy and/or STD
3) No addiction
4) No tattoos
And if any rules are broken?
Stop, this is so freaking funny. You see people like this down in OCMD too. It is such a trash city
Anonymous
03/07/2023 15:34
Subject: Re:Beach week house rules contract
Anonymous wrote:^. You have kid is disrespectful and doesn't follow the rules? What a laugh.
Yes, you are right. None of the kids going to beach week drink, do drugs, party, have sex, etc.... They just go for the boardwalk rides
Anonymous
03/07/2023 15:30
Subject: Re:Beach week house rules contract
You should TOTALLY ban any underage drinking, weed, or having premarital sex.
They will totally follow those rules.
Has everyone forgotten what happens at Beach Week ??
They will totally follow those rules.
Has everyone forgotten what happens at Beach Week ??
Anonymous
03/07/2023 14:56
Subject: Beach week house rules contract
Anonymous wrote:Here’s an idea, if you’re worried enough about what will happen at beach week that you want to draw up an unenforceable and non-binding contract with your kid, don’t sign the effing lease for the house and don’t send them to beach week. It is not some kind of right for 18 year olds to spend a week at the beach partying and drinking and wrecking rental houses, to say nothing of ruining the vacations of others who are unwittingly renting the home next door.
This.
Anonymous
03/07/2023 14:55
Subject: Beach week house rules contract
Anonymous wrote:No permanent mistakes:
1) No arrests
2) No pregnancy and/or STD
3) No addiction
4) No tattoos
A bunch of these aren't actually permanent, you know...
Anonymous
03/07/2023 14:54
Subject: Re:Beach week house rules contract
My 17yo can go to the beach with 2/3 friends anytime except beach week. Teenagers don’t make good decisions about alcohol and it’s just not worth it to me.
Anonymous
03/07/2023 14:50
Subject: Beach week house rules contract
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I wrote the rules you all say are unenforcable. We parents will enforce them as their is at least one sometimes two adults staying in the house every night (rotates). That was the rule for our group of kids if they wanted to attend beach week. All parents had to read/sign/agree.
If you are letting your child attend with no chaperone, that's up to you. But in our house, if that's what a teen wanted, they would not be attending beach week
So you have to stay up until 2am and do a bed check? Roam the house looking to see who is there before then? Watch kids headed out of the house after dark and see if they are in pairs?
Yes, this sounds like a great way to deal with adult children that are weeks away from independence.
Anonymous
03/07/2023 14:25
Subject: Beach week house rules contract
Thank you for starting this threat OP. I have a group of 18 year olds going on a weekend trip to a friend’s beach house after graduation (I won’t call it beach week because that seems to trigger many people on this thread) and we do want to talk through expectations and safety precautions in advance. Its not a hard partying group (full of nerds that will be going to highly selective colleges) but I also get that those who worked the hardest in high school may also be ready to blow off some steam. I don’t have anything constructive to offer at this point but I appreciate all of the constructive responses so far.
Anonymous
03/07/2023 14:10
Subject: Beach week house rules contract
Anonymous wrote:I wrote the rules you all say are unenforcable. We parents will enforce them as their is at least one sometimes two adults staying in the house every night (rotates). That was the rule for our group of kids if they wanted to attend beach week. All parents had to read/sign/agree.
If you are letting your child attend with no chaperone, that's up to you. But in our house, if that's what a teen wanted, they would not be attending beach week
I don’t understand why beach week for new high school graduates is a thing and why parents have allowed it to become a thing. If you are having to make up fake contracts that revolve around alcohol use and safety for 18 year olds and a parent needs to stay in the party house every night, this just shouldn’t be happening. You want your kids and their friends to spend a week partying, then let them all crash with you for a week that way your irresponsibility isn’t impacting other people.
Anonymous
03/07/2023 14:06
Subject: Beach week house rules contract
Anonymous wrote:I wrote the rules you all say are unenforcable. We parents will enforce them as their is at least one sometimes two adults staying in the house every night (rotates). That was the rule for our group of kids if they wanted to attend beach week. All parents had to read/sign/agree.
If you are letting your child attend with no chaperone, that's up to you. But in our house, if that's what a teen wanted, they would not be attending beach week
So you have to stay up until 2am and do a bed check? Roam the house looking to see who is there before then? Watch kids headed out of the house after dark and see if they are in pairs?
Anonymous
03/07/2023 13:16
Subject: Beach week house rules contract
I wrote the rules you all say are unenforcable. We parents will enforce them as their is at least one sometimes two adults staying in the house every night (rotates). That was the rule for our group of kids if they wanted to attend beach week. All parents had to read/sign/agree.
If you are letting your child attend with no chaperone, that's up to you. But in our house, if that's what a teen wanted, they would not be attending beach week
If you are letting your child attend with no chaperone, that's up to you. But in our house, if that's what a teen wanted, they would not be attending beach week
Anonymous
03/07/2023 13:03
Subject: Beach week house rules contract
I agree that unenforceable contracts and rules are not realistic AT ALL but some of the safety guidance mentioned is really helpful. Instilling the sense of responsibility for their actions and to look out for their friends, too, is so important. I think it's a good idea to give concrete examples like always use the buddy system, talking with friends ahead of time about external/overnight guests, etc. These are good life skills. I have thought of some of the ones mentioned, but not others. So, thank you (sincerely).
Anonymous
03/07/2023 12:18
Subject: Re:Beach week house rules contract
OP honestly a contract is a stupid idea. Ideally send an adult sibling.
Anonymous
03/07/2023 12:17
Subject: Beach week house rules contract
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No permanent mistakes:
1) No arrests
2) No pregnancy and/or STD
3) No addiction
4) No tattoos
And if any rules are broken?
Anonymous
03/07/2023 12:13
Subject: Beach week house rules contract
Anonymous wrote:None of this is helpful to OP. Here you go:
Make use every adult of every student, and every student, has a copy of an emergency contact list with cell numbers for each student and each parent
Make sure every adult has a copy of a list of who is driving to and from the beach with whom
Legal (I am not a lawyer!):
All parties agree to share equally in the costs (rental fee, shared food and beverages)
All parties agree to indemnify and hold harmless all parties from all claims, costs liabilities, loses, damages and expenses, including but not limited to court ot arbitration costs, attorneys fees, etc.
The exception to the above is "you break it, you pay for it" if one parties acts, activities, accidents, negligent or intentional acts cause damage, that person pays
Waiver and release of claims against the rentor (adult who signed lease) for personal injury, bodily harm or death
Rules that all must agree to:
-Buddy system when in the ocean and after dark
-Driving under the influence will not be tolerated - no one gets into a car with someone they know or suspect is under the influence
-no swimming in the ocean after dark
-no going on the roof or jumping off anything
-no cigarettes, vaping, vaping devices, drugs, or fireworks in the house or on the premises
-all must be back in the house for the night by 2am
-no additional guests in the house after 2am/no sleepovers
-no large gatherings/parties at the house
-any guests must follow the rules of the house or will he asked to leave
-guests in common areas of the house only
-no destructive behavior to the house or its contents. If damage occurs an no one claims responsibility, costs will be divided equally among families in the house
-noise levels kept to a minimum
-every morning students must clean up any trash, spills or dishes
-fighting of any kind will not be tolerated and will be grounds for dismissal from the house (no refunds or partial refunds)
--on the last day, all must clean the house until it is in the condition it was upon arrival
-no one leaves without checking in with chaperone to confirm they have cleaned up after themselves and contributed to the overall cleanup efforts of the group, and to confirm to chaperone they are departing for home
None of what you have bolded will matter if they shit really hits the fan.