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Anonymous wrote:Every time any of my kids scream they are put outside. Even the 15 month old. They sit on the porch or very safe fenced in yard. If you act like you’re playing outside, outside you go.

Rain, snow, wind. Outside. Stops the screaming.

I have no tolerance for screaming in our tiny house.

Smart

No, sounds like it’s unacceptable to have big feelings…an 18 month old has no way of using words to say what they need/what’s wrong. Sending them outside to manage anything on their own tells them YOU can’t handle it and can’t be trusted to help them sort it out.

God, you bIg fEeliNgS people are so absurd. You can have feelings. Since you are not a wordless infant, SCREAMING (not normal crying) is an unacceptable way to communicate those feelings. If you persist, your life will be made very boring until you stop.

And before you bother, yes, I have multiple kids, from a freshman in college to upper elementary. Yes, we have good relationships. Yes, they would tell you the same. Have we covered all the predictable retort bases?

Stop raising coddled children. The world doesn’t need more coddled adults.

+1. I get really tired of that phrase on here. It's important to teach kids they can't do things like screaming when they are upset and that they need to calm down and use words to communicate.

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Anonymous wrote:Every time any of my kids scream they are put outside. Even the 15 month old. They sit on the porch or very safe fenced in yard. If you act like you’re playing outside, outside you go.

Rain, snow, wind. Outside. Stops the screaming.

I have no tolerance for screaming in our tiny house.

Smart

No, sounds like it’s unacceptable to have big feelings…an 18 month old has no way of using words to say what they need/what’s wrong. Sending them outside to manage anything on their own tells them YOU can’t handle it and can’t be trusted to help them sort it out.

God, you bIg fEeliNgS people are so absurd. You can have feelings. Since you are not a wordless infant, SCREAMING (not normal crying) is an unacceptable way to communicate those feelings. If you persist, your life will be made very boring until you stop.

And before you bother, yes, I have multiple kids, from a freshman in college to upper elementary. Yes, we have good relationships. Yes, they would tell you the same. Have we covered all the predictable retort bases?

Stop raising coddled children. The world doesn’t need more coddled adults.

new pp - I disagree. I hear you that some parents take "gentle" parenting to a place it is not intended (forgetting the boundaries piece), but that isn't how it should be and it isn't what people are telling the op to do. it's not coddling to not give a kid what they want when they scream but also choose not to put them outside alone. That is a huge jump to say you will raise coddled children unless you're willing to put them outside alone when they do something you don't like/want to stop - if the child isn't given what they want it's not coddling. Its a different approach to stay with the child while they are upset but it still holds the same boundary that you are holding.

Your tone is dismissive, rude, and talking to other people like they are an idiot - all things I don't want to teach my kid to do when they disagree with someone so it really is tainting the advice you are giving.

NP. I didn’t find her tone dismissive or rude (talking to other people like an idiot is covered under dismissive and rude, bless your heart). But I’m sure your kids suck based on your post and I’d rather be around hers.

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Anonymous wrote:Every time any of my kids scream they are put outside. Even the 15 month old. They sit on the porch or very safe fenced in yard. If you act like you’re playing outside, outside you go.

Rain, snow, wind. Outside. Stops the screaming.

I have no tolerance for screaming in our tiny house.

Smart

No, sounds like it’s unacceptable to have big feelings…an 18 month old has no way of using words to say what they need/what’s wrong. Sending them outside to manage anything on their own tells them YOU can’t handle it and can’t be trusted to help them sort it out.

God, you bIg fEeliNgS people are so absurd. You can have feelings. Since you are not a wordless infant, SCREAMING (not normal crying) is an unacceptable way to communicate those feelings. If you persist, your life will be made very boring until you stop.

And before you bother, yes, I have multiple kids, from a freshman in college to upper elementary. Yes, we have good relationships. Yes, they would tell you the same. Have we covered all the predictable retort bases?

Stop raising coddled children. The world doesn’t need more coddled adults.

new pp - I disagree. I hear you that some parents take "gentle" parenting to a place it is not intended (forgetting the boundaries piece), but that isn't how it should be and it isn't what people are telling the op to do. it's not coddling to not give a kid what they want when they scream but also choose not to put them outside alone. That is a huge jump to say you will raise coddled children unless you're willing to put them outside alone when they do something you don't like/want to stop - if the child isn't given what they want it's not coddling. Its a different approach to stay with the child while they are upset but it still holds the same boundary that you are holding.

Your tone is dismissive, rude, and talking to other people like they are an idiot - all things I don't want to teach my kid to do when they disagree with someone so it really is tainting the advice you are giving.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Every time any of my kids scream they are put outside. Even the 15 month old. They sit on the porch or very safe fenced in yard. If you act like you’re playing outside, outside you go.

Rain, snow, wind. Outside. Stops the screaming.

I have no tolerance for screaming in our tiny house.

Smart

No, sounds like it’s unacceptable to have big feelings…an 18 month old has no way of using words to say what they need/what’s wrong. Sending them outside to manage anything on their own tells them YOU can’t handle it and can’t be trusted to help them sort it out.

God, you bIg fEeliNgS people are so absurd. You can have feelings. Since you are not a wordless infant, SCREAMING (not normal crying) is an unacceptable way to communicate those feelings. If you persist, your life will be made very boring until you stop.

And before you bother, yes, I have multiple kids, from a freshman in college to upper elementary. Yes, we have good relationships. Yes, they would tell you the same. Have we covered all the predictable retort bases?

Stop raising coddled children. The world doesn’t need more coddled adults.

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Anonymous wrote:You need a plan for screaming. It could be that you immediately go to his room with the door closed. It could be that you immediately go outside (not to play, just to wait until he’s done screaming). Whatever it is needs to be boring and unpleasant. You can still validate his emotions and help him communicate while you’re there. “You really want a tablet. It’s not tablet time, and you’re disappointed.”

This. Dr. Becky Kennedy has scripts for this in Good Inside (book/podcast).

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Anonymous wrote:Every time any of my kids scream they are put outside. Even the 15 month old. They sit on the porch or very safe fenced in yard. If you act like you’re playing outside, outside you go.

Rain, snow, wind. Outside. Stops the screaming.

I have no tolerance for screaming in our tiny house.

Smart

No, sounds like it’s unacceptable to have big feelings…an 18 month old has no way of using words to say what they need/what’s wrong. Sending them outside to manage anything on their own tells them YOU can’t handle it and can’t be trusted to help them sort it out.

God, you bIg fEeliNgS people are so absurd. You can have feelings. Since you are not a wordless infant, SCREAMING (not normal crying) is an unacceptable way to communicate those feelings. If you persist, your life will be made very boring until you stop.

And before you bother, yes, I have multiple kids, from a freshman in college to upper elementary. Yes, we have good relationships. Yes, they would tell you the same. Have we covered all the predictable retort bases?

Stop raising coddled children. The world doesn’t need more coddled adults.

Anonymous wrote:I'm nearing a breaking point. I had full intention of limiting screens to zero but we leave in a townhouse and my toddler has a habit of screaming when he doesn't get what he wants. The other important part of the conundrum is that my husband works from home and he has very low tolerance for screaming so I find myself just giving our kid a tablet. I don't know how to break the cycle

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Anonymous wrote:Every time any of my kids scream they are put outside. Even the 15 month old. They sit on the porch or very safe fenced in yard. If you act like you’re playing outside, outside you go.

Rain, snow, wind. Outside. Stops the screaming.

I have no tolerance for screaming in our tiny house.

Smart

No, sounds like it’s unacceptable to have big feelings…an 18 month old has no way of using words to say what they need/what’s wrong. Sending them outside to manage anything on their own tells them YOU can’t handle it and can’t be trusted to help them sort it out.

It's giving them space to calm down.

We can’t know how the PP does it. There’s nothing wrong with taking a toddler outside to calm down, and there’s nothing wrong with sitting quietly with them to give them time/space to do it. I also think going outside is just helpful for regulating emotions for humans. But sending a toddler outside alone as “punishment” is not for me.

I’m the one who posted that. You’re right, I can’t tolerate it. But if they’re outside I won’t yell at them. Also, a change of scenery does a lot of attitudes. None are ever unsafe. I won’t sit quietly will them. They have to know where the boundaries are.

Wow. I don't even know where to start with this. Your poor kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Every time any of my kids scream they are put outside. Even the 15 month old. They sit on the porch or very safe fenced in yard. If you act like you’re playing outside, outside you go.

Rain, snow, wind. Outside. Stops the screaming.

I have no tolerance for screaming in our tiny house.

Smart

No, sounds like it’s unacceptable to have big feelings…an 18 month old has no way of using words to say what they need/what’s wrong. Sending them outside to manage anything on their own tells them YOU can’t handle it and can’t be trusted to help them sort it out.

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Every time any of my kids scream they are put outside. Even the 15 month old. They sit on the porch or very safe fenced in yard. If you act like you’re playing outside, outside you go.

Rain, snow, wind. Outside. Stops the screaming.

I have no tolerance for screaming in our tiny house.

Smart

No, sounds like it’s unacceptable to have big feelings…an 18 month old has no way of using words to say what they need/what’s wrong. Sending them outside to manage anything on their own tells them YOU can’t handle it and can’t be trusted to help them sort it out.

I disagree. The outdoors serves to calm and regulate people. Taking a toddler outside to help them calm down is a fantastic strategy.
US Doctors are Prescribing Nature in 35 States https://natureconnectionguide.com/us-doctors-are-prescribing-nature-in-34-states/

There is a massive difference between taking your kid on a hike as a bonding activity and literally sending your child outside in the cold because you can't handle their emotions.

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Every time any of my kids scream they are put outside. Even the 15 month old. They sit on the porch or very safe fenced in yard. If you act like you’re playing outside, outside you go.

Rain, snow, wind. Outside. Stops the screaming.

I have no tolerance for screaming in our tiny house.

Smart

No, sounds like it’s unacceptable to have big feelings…an 18 month old has no way of using words to say what they need/what’s wrong. Sending them outside to manage anything on their own tells them YOU can’t handle it and can’t be trusted to help them sort it out.

I disagree. The outdoors serves to calm and regulate people. Taking a toddler outside to help them calm down is a fantastic strategy.
US Doctors are Prescribing Nature in 35 States https://natureconnectionguide.com/us-doctors-are-prescribing-nature-in-34-states/

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Every time any of my kids scream they are put outside. Even the 15 month old. They sit on the porch or very safe fenced in yard. If you act like you’re playing outside, outside you go.

Rain, snow, wind. Outside. Stops the screaming.

I have no tolerance for screaming in our tiny house.

Smart

No, sounds like it’s unacceptable to have big feelings…an 18 month old has no way of using words to say what they need/what’s wrong. Sending them outside to manage anything on their own tells them YOU can’t handle it and can’t be trusted to help them sort it out.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Every time any of my kids scream they are put outside. Even the 15 month old. They sit on the porch or very safe fenced in yard. If you act like you’re playing outside, outside you go.

Rain, snow, wind. Outside. Stops the screaming.

I have no tolerance for screaming in our tiny house.

Smart

+1