Anonymous wrote:Sidwell 10+

I graduated a few years ago but even then it was a 10+. I played a sport every season or was in a play/musical, was on the yearbook, and did community service outside of school and did 4 hours of homework a night and then 6-10 hours of homework on the weekend. I did well, and while I wouldn't say I was unhappy, it was a huge slog. I never felt like I could have a day off or take a break because I'd get behind and not be able to catch up.

It just seems unnecessary. Are they training you to be an associate?

Sidwell 10+

I graduated a few years ago but even then it was a 10+. I played a sport every season or was in a play/musical, was on the yearbook, and did community service outside of school and did 4 hours of homework a night and then 6-10 hours of homework on the weekend. I did well, and while I wouldn't say I was unhappy, it was a huge slog. I never felt like I could have a day off or take a break because I'd get behind and not be able to catch up.

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Anonymous wrote:DCUM parents on these threads seem to sort into two groups:

1. Kids are raw dough to be shaped, pounded, and cooked into the right shape under high heat. The best kids thrive. The others fall back. Too bad. It's a competitive world.

2. Where can my kids have the best life experience and still do well enough academically to succeed in life later on?

The two camps DO NOT share any common ground, apparently.

This is spot-on and one of the most insightful posts I've seen on DCUM in years.

Pure pablum.

Most DCUM parents want a challenging school with a rigorous curriculum but also want their kids to be well-rounded and happy.

You can get a good education without 3 hours of homework.

Anonymous wrote:Too many kids showing up to college burnt out because of these extremely rigorous high school work load. Going to bed at midnight because you are up doing homework is not healthy! The kids feel like they have to take on a course load like this to be competitive with their peers but it’s sad and unhealthy.

I am a college professor, and I do see kids from competitive private schools who arrive at college with some burn out. They are generally ahead of their peers in terms of preparation, so they do have the ability to coast through freshman year if they choose to (depending upon area of study.). Some do this throughout college, while others do eventually get back into the grind.

Then there are the kids who were driven in high school and arrive at college equally driven. I have had a few advisees who have been like this, and I can just feel the pressure they are putting on themselves. In my opinion, it is just not healthy, and I try to identify a variety of options of course study, internships, work, etc. to achieve their goals. In the end, it is their choice, but the whole experience has been enlightening for me as a parent, and it did inform our school choices for our own kids.

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Anonymous wrote:DCUM parents on these threads seem to sort into two groups:

1. Kids are raw dough to be shaped, pounded, and cooked into the right shape under high heat. The best kids thrive. The others fall back. Too bad. It's a competitive world.

2. Where can my kids have the best life experience and still do well enough academically to succeed in life later on?

The two camps DO NOT share any common ground, apparently.

This is spot-on and one of the most insightful posts I've seen on DCUM in years.

Pure pablum.

Most DCUM parents want a challenging school with a rigorous curriculum but also want their kids to be well-rounded and happy.

But some want a school that will shape their child into the highest achieving diamond and others want the school that will shape a well adjusted human with a solid education.

Glass houses, PP.

Anonymous wrote:You first OP

Please work on reading comprehension and re-read OP's post.

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Anonymous wrote:DCUM parents on these threads seem to sort into two groups:

1. Kids are raw dough to be shaped, pounded, and cooked into the right shape under high heat. The best kids thrive. The others fall back. Too bad. It's a competitive world.

2. Where can my kids have the best life experience and still do well enough academically to succeed in life later on?

The two camps DO NOT share any common ground, apparently.

This is spot-on and one of the most insightful posts I've seen on DCUM in years.

Pure pablum.

Most DCUM parents want a challenging school with a rigorous curriculum but also want their kids to be well-rounded and happy.

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Anonymous wrote:NCS 100

NCS is stressful for some girls and not stressful at all for others.

Fit is very important for this school.

Can you elaborate on this? What makes it stressful for some?

The level of academics is a great fit for some and a very poor fit for others. If your daughter enjoys learning and working very hard--3 hours of homework a night---GREAT fit. I'm not being sarcastic.
This is a dream school for this type of girls.
For others, it's a poor fit. There are easier schools.

It's not about intelligence--it's about diligence and being the kind of kid who just likes to study, study, study. They exist and they thrive at NCS.

I have two daughters. One is absolutely thriving at NCS (high school). She gets straight As. She enjoys learning for learning's sake.
We are sending our second daughter to a different school. She needs more down time.

Reading this me makes me stressed! I was that kid who loved school and learning but I could have never done 3 hours every night.

Public school AP/IB kids do that.

I don’t care who is doing it, it’s unhealthy for a kid to be doing 3 hours of homework every night and going to be at midnight. How much sleep is this child getting?

Anonymous wrote:DCUM parents on these threads seem to sort into two groups:

1. Kids are raw dough to be shaped, pounded, and cooked into the right shape under high heat. The best kids thrive. The others fall back. Too bad. It's a competitive world.

2. Where can my kids have the best life experience and still do well enough academically to succeed in life later on?

The two camps DO NOT share any common ground, apparently.

This is spot-on and one of the most insightful posts I've seen on DCUM in years.

Too many kids showing up to college burnt out because of these extremely rigorous high school work load. Going to bed at midnight because you are up doing homework is not healthy! The kids feel like they have to take on a course load like this to be competitive with their peers but it’s sad and unhealthy.

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Anonymous wrote:NCS 100

NCS is stressful for some girls and not stressful at all for others.

Fit is very important for this school.

Can you elaborate on this? What makes it stressful for some?

The level of academics is a great fit for some and a very poor fit for others. If your daughter enjoys learning and working very hard--3 hours of homework a night---GREAT fit. I'm not being sarcastic.
This is a dream school for this type of girls.
For others, it's a poor fit. There are easier schools.

It's not about intelligence--it's about diligence and being the kind of kid who just likes to study, study, study. They exist and they thrive at NCS.

I have two daughters. One is absolutely thriving at NCS (high school). She gets straight As. She enjoys learning for learning's sake.
We are sending our second daughter to a different school. She needs more down time.

Reading this me makes me stressed! I was that kid who loved school and learning but I could have never done 3 hours every night.

Public school AP/IB kids do that.

Sleep is priority And lack of it problematic for teens and tweens. Three hours of homework is not acceptable. And we should be doing better for our kids. And anyone say that they can handle it and puts their kids into stressful situations to compete with others for a haze and IVs it’s not doing them a service. Shame on you.

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Anonymous wrote:NCS 100

NCS is stressful for some girls and not stressful at all for others.

Fit is very important for this school.

Can you elaborate on this? What makes it stressful for some?

The level of academics is a great fit for some and a very poor fit for others. If your daughter enjoys learning and working very hard--3 hours of homework a night---GREAT fit. I'm not being sarcastic.
This is a dream school for this type of girls.
For others, it's a poor fit. There are easier schools.

It's not about intelligence--it's about diligence and being the kind of kid who just likes to study, study, study. They exist and they thrive at NCS.

I have two daughters. One is absolutely thriving at NCS (high school). She gets straight As. She enjoys learning for learning's sake.
We are sending our second daughter to a different school. She needs more down time.

My DD is not like this even though she is academically gifted, she hates school work and gets stressed easily. She also suffers with anxiety and depression - having to rethink our choices for HS.

Good for you that you're able to indentify your daughter's needs early. I have friends whose daughters are already in HS, two different notoriously challenging schools, and the wheels are popping off the bus. It's so hard to move these kids when their social lives are established and going well, but the academics are a killer and triggering anxiety/depression.

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Anonymous wrote:NCS 100

NCS is stressful for some girls and not stressful at all for others.

Fit is very important for this school.

Can you elaborate on this? What makes it stressful for some?

The level of academics is a great fit for some and a very poor fit for others. If your daughter enjoys learning and working very hard--3 hours of homework a night---GREAT fit. I'm not being sarcastic.
This is a dream school for this type of girls.
For others, it's a poor fit. There are easier schools.

It's not about intelligence--it's about diligence and being the kind of kid who just likes to study, study, study. They exist and they thrive at NCS.

I have two daughters. One is absolutely thriving at NCS (high school). She gets straight As. She enjoys learning for learning's sake.
We are sending our second daughter to a different school. She needs more down time.

Reading this me makes me stressed! I was that kid who loved school and learning but I could have never done 3 hours every night.

Public school AP/IB kids do that.

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Anonymous wrote:NCS 100

NCS is stressful for some girls and not stressful at all for others.

Fit is very important for this school.

Can you elaborate on this? What makes it stressful for some?

The level of academics is a great fit for some and a very poor fit for others. If your daughter enjoys learning and working very hard--3 hours of homework a night---GREAT fit. I'm not being sarcastic.
This is a dream school for this type of girls.
For others, it's a poor fit. There are easier schools.

It's not about intelligence--it's about diligence and being the kind of kid who just likes to study, study, study. They exist and they thrive at NCS.

I have two daughters. One is absolutely thriving at NCS (high school). She gets straight As. She enjoys learning for learning's sake.
We are sending our second daughter to a different school. She needs more down time.

Is it the same at sta? Sidwell? My kid loves school but these are big law hours