Anonymous
02/26/2023 14:58
Subject: Re:How can I stop this from bothering me?
As a professional, you likely have access to highly technical websites, lots of maps with isobars, isotherms, etc. Open one for her on your laptop next time she raises the issue, sit her next to you, and go as deep as your Ph of D allows. After a few sessions, she may rather discuss the Nationals or the Lanham Ladies.
Anonymous
02/23/2023 20:00
Subject: How can I stop this from bothering me?
It is totally wrong to think this is a power play by mom. This is 100% OP being her child self and challenging her mom non stop to prove she is an adult. But her synopsis disagree and she acts her teen self, petulant and rebellious at mom.
We all do this, when you go visit your parents as an adult, you revert to thinking like a child. We can’t help it, brain does it automatically.
It takes effort to recognize that you are doing this and a lot of introspection. Then you start seeing your own patterns and start treating your parents like other human beings.
We all do this, when you go visit your parents as an adult, you revert to thinking like a child. We can’t help it, brain does it automatically.
It takes effort to recognize that you are doing this and a lot of introspection. Then you start seeing your own patterns and start treating your parents like other human beings.
Anonymous
02/23/2023 14:33
Subject: How can I stop this from bothering me?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I come from a culture where this dynamic is totally normal. You could be an aerospace engineer and an entire group of elders will debate how airplanes should be constructed while you sit in a corner. And if you try to chime in they will pretend to believe you and then carry on for another 45 minutes.
Honestly, if you can, try to see the humor in it. It’s easier if you have an objective third party that knows you know, if that makes sense. If your coworkers or hobby friends trust you, then you know it’s not a you problem.
As to why? My guess is partially bc old people debate out if boredom, partially bc they will never see younger family members (who they’ve known since babyhood) as fully formed adults. It’s not about you.
Huh? Why do you assume this is just an old person thing? Young people definitely can argue and debate as well.
I did not say that young people cannot argue and debate. What I did say is that old people are more likely to argue and debate **over a given topic when there is someone in the room who is an authority on said topic and who can provide a clear and definitive answer.”
You don’t have to agree, but at least get what I was saying right…
Anonymous
02/23/2023 12:53
Subject: How can I stop this from bothering me?
"Gosh, you better take the umbrella if you are planning to go to the grocery store."
The end.
The end.
Anonymous
02/22/2023 14:42
Subject: How can I stop this from bothering me?
Anonymous wrote:I come from a culture where this dynamic is totally normal. You could be an aerospace engineer and an entire group of elders will debate how airplanes should be constructed while you sit in a corner. And if you try to chime in they will pretend to believe you and then carry on for another 45 minutes.
Honestly, if you can, try to see the humor in it. It’s easier if you have an objective third party that knows you know, if that makes sense. If your coworkers or hobby friends trust you, then you know it’s not a you problem.
As to why? My guess is partially bc old people debate out if boredom, partially bc they will never see younger family members (who they’ve known since babyhood) as fully formed adults. It’s not about you.
Huh? Why do you assume this is just an old person thing? Young people definitely can argue and debate as well.
Anonymous
02/22/2023 14:41
Subject: How can I stop this from bothering me?
Anonymous wrote:I have an above-average level of understanding of meteorology due to my line of work. I know I shouldn’t let this bother me, I really know I shouldn’t, but when I tell you this makes my blood pressure raise I’m not exaggerating. I speak with my parents about once a week. My mother will look out the window and see clouds and say “It’s going to rain/snow.” I will tell her that just because clouds are present or dark isn’t always an indicator that they will produce precipitation. She doesn’t argue with me but I can tell she doesn’t believe me, and will tell me over and over again how she thinks it is going to snow based on a cloud she sees when snow isn’t even in the forecast.
How do I let this not bother me. Somehow I allow it to feel so dismissive.
Please please tell me this is a troll post?? No same human could actually get this bothered over a quick throwaway small talk comment that someone else makes. Must be nice to have such an easy life there something like this bothers you so badly you take the time to sit there and think about it and post about it