Anonymous
02/28/2023 12:30
Subject: If your ACs live with you, how have you benefitted?
Anonymous wrote:My adult DSD lives with us- she is early 20s and works and attends grad school so she is very busy.
The biggest pro is she is able to have a real relationship with her younger half sibling.
The con is that she lives in the basement and spends most of her time there. I always imagined we’d be watching Netflix together or spending more time, but I sometimes feel like we are nothing more to her than free room and board, and occasionally she eats dinner with us out of obligation. I find ways to connect with her in mallet ways, like a Starbucks run or doing a Chick-fil-A night. I know this is precious time.
ideally you are planting seeds for a later time.
Anonymous
02/28/2023 12:28
Subject: Re:If your ACs live with you, how have you benefitted?
Okay, every time I read this title, I think - yes, we live in an old condo building where central air is not possible, have window ACs, and we really benefit when it is super hot.
Anonymous
02/27/2023 20:04
Subject: If your ACs live with you, how have you benefitted?
Daughter is 30 and has never moved out. Gives $500 a month - on her insistence - without fail probably since she was 20. Husband works out of the home and I have some health problems with limiter mobility and have medical appointments a couple times a month. She takes me to all of them. She also does most of the cleaning in the home and runs household errands as needed. She's an independent contractor so had a flexible schedule. We've told her she can stay as long as she wants and when ready to move, will be supportive of course but yes, she's been a great help and family member.
Anonymous
02/25/2023 19:54
Subject: If your ACs live with you, how have you benefitted?
My adult DSD lives with us- she is early 20s and works and attends grad school so she is very busy.
The biggest pro is she is able to have a real relationship with her younger half sibling.
The con is that she lives in the basement and spends most of her time there. I always imagined we’d be watching Netflix together or spending more time, but I sometimes feel like we are nothing more to her than free room and board, and occasionally she eats dinner with us out of obligation. I find ways to connect with her in mallet ways, like a Starbucks run or doing a Chick-fil-A night. I know this is precious time.
The biggest pro is she is able to have a real relationship with her younger half sibling.
The con is that she lives in the basement and spends most of her time there. I always imagined we’d be watching Netflix together or spending more time, but I sometimes feel like we are nothing more to her than free room and board, and occasionally she eats dinner with us out of obligation. I find ways to connect with her in mallet ways, like a Starbucks run or doing a Chick-fil-A night. I know this is precious time.
Anonymous
02/25/2023 16:50
Subject: If your ACs live with you, how have you benefitted?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Depends if they have ever lived on their own. On their own is crucial for development into an independent adult.
Thank you for letting me know. I'm 54, and I've never lived on my own. I own a lucrative business, raised four kids, regularly care for my elderly mom, have two degrees, and enjoy spending time with my husband of 30+ years.
I'm sad to learn that I'm not an independent adult.
My DH also never really lived alone (unless living with 5 other guys in an off- campus house in college counts; after college he moved back in with his parents until our wedding day). And yet he's one of the most "domestic" men I've ever known, in terms of how much he contributes to the domestic work of keeping the home running and caring for children. He also has a successful career and oversees the care of his 90-year-old mother.
Anonymous
02/23/2023 18:19
Subject: Re:If your ACs live with you, how have you benefitted?
My adult son lives with us. Definitely mutually beneficial. He helps around the house by driving siblings places, doing trash, helping with hard work and taking care of the cars. He’s grown up to be such a wonderful young adult and I love that he’s still here with us.
Anonymous
02/23/2023 10:02
Subject: If your ACs live with you, how have you benefitted?
We get to be in the life of grandkids, and help out their parents.