Anonymous wrote:I'd be annoyed (and grossed out, I hate puking) but agree that if it's once a decade you laugh it off. Either cancel the people coming over, or excuse him to the bedroom if they are people who you would see by yourself and the cleaning/cooking doesn't require him. If the birthday parties conflict, focus on getting him well enough to handle one of them.

That said, when we were younger and went out more frequently, our rule was "do what you want with your friends, but get up and have a normal next day." If baby is up at 6:00 AM, tough cookies: take a Tylenol, pitch in, and don't be short tempered just because you feel icky.

This. He needs to power through.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you are over scheduled either way.

100%

If the birthday parties are drop-off, it’s fine. If the whole family is expected to attend both, that’s too much. Overscheduled is more about too many regular commitments, e.g., swimming AND soccer AND basketball AND music, not stuff like birthday parties and having friends over.

OP, tell your DH to get it together. Pedialyte, Coke (helps with nausea), bananas, etc. Chicken soup. Hydrate, rest, and then suck it up.

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Anonymous wrote:DH went out with a college friend last night. He rarely goes out and rarely drinks, so I can't begrudge him, but he came home entirely wasted, dramatically puked his guts out at 6am, and is now on the couch moaning and saying he's too sick to move. We have two kids' bday parties to go to, an indoor soccer practice, and have people coming over tonight (though he's asking if I can cancel). So damn annoyed.

God you're a terrible wife.

Bc she’s picking up the slack? Grown adults with kids don’t drink like teenagers. Adults have responsibilities.

It is so fitting that DCUM is fine with drunken debauchery but on OPs case for being a responsible parent. Very reflective of this town

NP. I do agree with what you said. But I also think that the OP bears some responsibility with being over-scheduled even if her spouse was not hungover.
And to come in here to whine about is not exactly “responsible.”

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Anonymous wrote:DH went out with a college friend last night. He rarely goes out and rarely drinks, so I can't begrudge him, but he came home entirely wasted, dramatically puked his guts out at 6am, and is now on the couch moaning and saying he's too sick to move. We have two kids' bday parties to go to, an indoor soccer practice, and have people coming over tonight (though he's asking if I can cancel). So damn annoyed.

God you're a terrible wife.

Bc she’s picking up the slack? Grown adults with kids don’t drink like teenagers. Adults have responsibilities.

It is so fitting that DCUM is fine with drunken debauchery but on OPs case for being a responsible parent. Very reflective of this town

Grow up

DH should be the one to cancel with the guests.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH went out with a college friend last night. He rarely goes out and rarely drinks, so I can't begrudge him, but he came home entirely wasted, dramatically puked his guts out at 6am, and is now on the couch moaning and saying he's too sick to move. We have two kids' bday parties to go to, an indoor soccer practice, and have people coming over tonight (though he's asking if I can cancel). So damn annoyed.

It’s so easy to overindulge when you don’t routinely drink - it takes less alcohol to make you this sick than it did years ago but you forget that when you’re having a blast. I bet this will be the last time he ever gets that drunk regardless of how you react!

Actually, it is easy to NOT over indulge.

You're both right.

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Anonymous wrote:DH went out with a college friend last night. He rarely goes out and rarely drinks, so I can't begrudge him, but he came home entirely wasted, dramatically puked his guts out at 6am, and is now on the couch moaning and saying he's too sick to move. We have two kids' bday parties to go to, an indoor soccer practice, and have people coming over tonight (though he's asking if I can cancel). So damn annoyed.

It’s so easy to overindulge when you don’t routinely drink - it takes less alcohol to make you this sick than it did years ago but you forget that when you’re having a blast. I bet this will be the last time he ever gets that drunk regardless of how you react!

Actually, it is easy to NOT over indulge.

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Anonymous wrote:If you have that much to do, you wouldn’t be posting on here.

Go away

You first

My husband did this the night before a favorite once a year family outing. I even reiterated with him multiple times the day before that he needs to get up early the next day so don't stay out late. He was 100% on board. He comes in wasted at 4am, way too hung over to function and skipped the family function. I was so pissed. Just knowing that he needed to be capable the next day and getting wasted anyway really pissed me off.

A few years ago I drank too much on NYE. And my husband covered child duty the next day and I was grateful. But we didn't have plans the next day.

I've been on both sides, op. I'd be angry but you have to let it go if it's not a regular thing.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you are over scheduled either way.

100%

Do you have young kids? My Saturday is 3 swim classes, doggy training class and a dinner party tonight.

Yes this is the way to minimize your one on one focused time with your children yet still posture as an involved parent.

Anonymous wrote:DH went out with a college friend last night. He rarely goes out and rarely drinks, so I can't begrudge him, but he came home entirely wasted, dramatically puked his guts out at 6am, and is now on the couch moaning and saying he's too sick to move. We have two kids' bday parties to go to, an indoor soccer practice, and have people coming over tonight (though he's asking if I can cancel). So damn annoyed.

God you're a terrible wife.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH went out with a college friend last night. He rarely goes out and rarely drinks, so I can't begrudge him, but he came home entirely wasted, dramatically puked his guts out at 6am, and is now on the couch moaning and saying he's too sick to move. We have two kids' bday parties to go to, an indoor soccer practice, and have people coming over tonight (though he's asking if I can cancel). So damn annoyed.

You’ll get over it.

Why do you confuse this with a place to vent?

Is this a place to play cribbage? I'm confused.

You are confused.

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Anonymous wrote:DH went out with a college friend last night. He rarely goes out and rarely drinks, so I can't begrudge him, but he came home entirely wasted, dramatically puked his guts out at 6am, and is now on the couch moaning and saying he's too sick to move. We have two kids' bday parties to go to, an indoor soccer practice, and have people coming over tonight (though he's asking if I can cancel). So damn annoyed.

You’ll get over it.

Why do you confuse this with a place to vent?

Is this a place to play cribbage? I'm confused.

Anonymous wrote:I would handle all the kids stuff and tell him he needs to get it together for the party in the evening.

Remind him of all the college tricks---gatorade, some hearty food and a nap.

This.