Anonymous
02/17/2023 11:48
Subject: Unpopular relationship opinions
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Marriage is between one man and one woman until death of one party. (Very unpopular, no one in this thread believes this)
Finances should be totally joint and undisentangleable. (See above)
More people should choose celibacy. Marriage is definitely hard but there is at least a point to it; sleeping with people as a single person sounds a lot more fun than it actually ends up being. The juice isn’t worth the squeeze, as they say.
You have to be a very special person to enjoy monogamy. Sleeping with single people is very very fun if you're single.
It’s very very fun to hit fat lines in the bathroom until dawn too. Good luck sustaining that over a lifetime though!
Can you translate please that phrase about fat lines in the bathroom? But I can better understand how someone would rather sustain a mediocre sex in 20 years long marriage than “dating” multiple single people as a single person. It just sounds very unstable and complicated to keep changing partners. Also sexually restricting while I could just have one man without a condom and don’t bother about infections or what he thinks about my cellulite
Anonymous
02/17/2023 11:48
Subject: Re:Unpopular relationship opinions
Anonymous wrote:I think cheating is ok if:
-you don’t engage in a long term affair that entails a ton of deception and resources (time and money) that should be going to your family
-you’re discreet and don’t go for people in your community
-you keep your mouth shut and NEVER tell your spouse
Basically, I think it’s ok to have flings when you’re on work travel. If my DH does this, I don’t want to know and if I do it, I won’t tell him.
I want to stay married I just want to have sex with someone new once in awhile.
I feel similarly.
Anonymous
02/17/2023 11:48
Subject: Re:Unpopular relationship opinions
Anonymous wrote:Marital sex is way better than sex I have as a single divorced person with dates. I don’t perform oral on anybody, men use condoms and I can’t finish with protection or proper oral prep on both sides. I always had a simultaneous O with my ex. Every single time we had sex during our 16 years long marriage.
Why did you divorce? Sounds like the two of you were deeply connected.
Anonymous
02/17/2023 11:47
Subject: Unpopular relationship opinions
I don’t get why some people take issue with spouses being best friends.
Anonymous
02/17/2023 11:47
Subject: Unpopular relationship opinions
Anonymous wrote:There's no reason to wait until the guy proves himself, his feelings and honorable intentions to you and jumps through the hoops before you have sex. You physically want to have sex with him? Then have it. If after several months you still don't want to have sex with him - what do you think will make you want it in the future? You don't give yourself to the man by having sex, there won't be a piece of you missing if it doesn't work out.
Waiting till marriage is pretty up there in terms of stupid ideas, but luckily that isn't popular.
I disagree. There is no reason to have sex at a certain timeline. Especially when you are exploring a relationship.
If you just want sex, choose the hottest ONS that you can find.
Anonymous
02/17/2023 11:45
Subject: Unpopular relationship opinions
Marry young if you want but remain child free for some years until you have a good sense of if your spouse have the traits to be a good parent.
I find people who get pregnant as soon as they marry as shortsighted
I find people who get pregnant as soon as they marry as shortsighted
Anonymous
02/17/2023 11:44
Subject: Re:Unpopular relationship opinions
Most women (and men) choose poorly.
Anonymous
02/17/2023 11:44
Subject: Unpopular relationship opinions
There's no reason to wait until the guy proves himself, his feelings and honorable intentions to you and jumps through the hoops before you have sex. You physically want to have sex with him? Then have it. If after several months you still don't want to have sex with him - what do you think will make you want it in the future? You don't give yourself to the man by having sex, there won't be a piece of you missing if it doesn't work out.
Waiting till marriage is pretty up there in terms of stupid ideas, but luckily that isn't popular.
Waiting till marriage is pretty up there in terms of stupid ideas, but luckily that isn't popular.
Anonymous
02/17/2023 11:43
Subject: Unpopular relationship opinions
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Women should contribute 50% to the relationship, including financially.
I agree
Says the beta low earning male.
Anonymous
02/17/2023 11:41
Subject: Unpopular relationship opinions
I don’t rely on DH for much emotional support. He is a great dad and a good partner, but “it’ll be okay” is not sufficient when I am feeling anxious or stressed out. My mother, sisters, and friends are more helpful.
Anonymous
02/17/2023 11:40
Subject: Re:Unpopular relationship opinions
I think cheating is ok if:
-you don’t engage in a long term affair that entails a ton of deception and resources (time and money) that should be going to your family
-you’re discreet and don’t go for people in your community
-you keep your mouth shut and NEVER tell your spouse
Basically, I think it’s ok to have flings when you’re on work travel. If my DH does this, I don’t want to know and if I do it, I won’t tell him.
I want to stay married I just want to have sex with someone new once in awhile.
-you don’t engage in a long term affair that entails a ton of deception and resources (time and money) that should be going to your family
-you’re discreet and don’t go for people in your community
-you keep your mouth shut and NEVER tell your spouse
Basically, I think it’s ok to have flings when you’re on work travel. If my DH does this, I don’t want to know and if I do it, I won’t tell him.
I want to stay married I just want to have sex with someone new once in awhile.
Anonymous
02/17/2023 11:39
Subject: Unpopular relationship opinions
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Marriage is between one man and one woman until death of one party. (Very unpopular, no one in this thread believes this)
Finances should be totally joint and undisentangleable. (See above)
More people should choose celibacy. Marriage is definitely hard but there is at least a point to it; sleeping with people as a single person sounds a lot more fun than it actually ends up being. The juice isn’t worth the squeeze, as they say.
You have to be a very special person to enjoy monogamy. Sleeping with single people is very very fun if you're single.
It’s very very fun to hit fat lines in the bathroom until dawn too. Good luck sustaining that over a lifetime though!
Anonymous
02/17/2023 11:39
Subject: Unpopular relationship opinions
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Marriage is between one man and one woman until death of one party. (Very unpopular, no one in this thread believes this)
Finances should be totally joint and undisentangleable. (See above)
More people should choose celibacy. Marriage is definitely hard but there is at least a point to it; sleeping with people as a single person sounds a lot more fun than it actually ends up being. The juice isn’t worth the squeeze, as they say.
You have to be a very special person to enjoy monogamy. Sleeping with single people is very very fun if you're single.
Can someone please explain it to me how it’s very very fun? Dating scene sex is very limited in terms of not having oral on multiple partners, changing partners before I can even get into his rhythm, using protection and scare of infections. It takes couple months for me just to adjust my pelvic floor to a new partner, learn to trust them allow certain things etc.
Are you a man who just like PIV in condom with many different women ? Because to me as a woman it’s not nearly as fun as marital unprotected sex of greater variety
No I'm female. I'm a serial long term monogamist.
Anonymous
02/17/2023 11:37
Subject: Re:Unpopular relationship opinions
Most people should not have children.
Anonymous
02/17/2023 11:35
Subject: Unpopular relationship opinions
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Marriage is between one man and one woman until death of one party. (Very unpopular, no one in this thread believes this)
Finances should be totally joint and undisentangleable. (See above)
More people should choose celibacy. Marriage is definitely hard but there is at least a point to it; sleeping with people as a single person sounds a lot more fun than it actually ends up being. The juice isn’t worth the squeeze, as they say.
You have to be a very special person to enjoy monogamy. Sleeping with single people is very very fun if you're single.
Can someone please explain it to me how it’s very very fun? Dating scene sex is very limited in terms of not having oral on multiple partners, changing partners before I can even get into his rhythm, using protection and scare of infections. It takes couple months for me just to adjust my pelvic floor to a new partner, learn to trust them allow certain things etc.
Are you a man who just like PIV in condom with many different women ? Because to me as a woman it’s not nearly as fun as marital unprotected sex of greater variety
Very simple, not every woman needs such a thorough adjustment. Every man has something that the other doesn't, and you can enjoy the variety.