Anonymous wrote:A butler? A governess?

Butlers do.not take care of Children of any age and they are not chauffeurs. Governesses are for children older than four and under 13.

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Anonymous wrote:Why did you bother having children?

+1000. The children need a parent.

Exactly. I have wonderful memories of helping my mom sort laundry into colors, grocery shopping, etc. My mom subtly made these educational activities. I told my mom all our life what those memories meant to me. She passed recently, and those memories are more vibrant than ever. She worked too, but time with her kids took equal importance. We outsourced nothing. We all learned to cook and do yard work together. It's called *family activities.*

What part of parenting is the OP doing?

She worked FT? And did all that? BS.

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Anonymous wrote:Why did you bother having children?

+1000. The children need a parent.

Exactly. I have wonderful memories of helping my mom sort laundry into colors, grocery shopping, etc. My mom subtly made these educational activities. I told my mom all our life what those memories meant to me. She passed recently, and those memories are more vibrant than ever. She worked too, but time with her kids took equal importance. We outsourced nothing. We all learned to cook and do yard work together. It's called *family activities.*

What part of parenting is the OP doing?

Anonymous wrote:Why did you bother having children?

+1000. The children need a parent.

Teens do their own laundry, of course.

I didn't cook for the parents or do laundry, but I had a job kinda like this in college. I picked the kids up from school, brought them home, did their homework with them, made them dinner, and got them ready for some sort of extracurricular. Then I dropped them off at the activity and I was done, their mom or dad picked them up.

At the time I thought it was a pretty sweet gig, now that I'm a mom I realize I should have been charging more

I understand the need for help for after school transportation, but isn't there a way they can get TO school other than by being driven--school bus, walk, bike, public transport, etc?

Eliminating the run to school makes the schedule considerably more flexible. But yes, you are asking for 2 different skill sets.

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Anonymous wrote:You need a mothers helper and or household manager(driving to and from activities, meal prep and laundry) I hired a lady that comes to our house from
2-7PM (25 hours a week at $30 hourly plus mileage reimbursement, 5 days PTO and holidays paid.)

A mother's helper will be younger than OP's kids.

Yeah a mothers helper is typically a name for a teen who is too young to drive

You may be able to find driving nanny / housekeeper, but it’s the combination of driving / cooking that I found the toughest to find. Those who are willing to do laundry / cook did not drive, and those who drove were not willing to cook.

You could Place an ad with these requirements and see what you find. Otherwise, you may want to separate the driving from the housekeeper (laundry/ cooking) part. The housekeeper could come 1-2 times per week for the cooking / laundry, and the part time person for shuttling kids would also be there for the driving.

A butler? A governess?

Anonymous wrote:What kind of childcare do we need?

Our kids are tweens/teens and we mainly need someone to get them to and from school, drive to activities, cook and do laundry for the family.

We've had aupairs, liveins, live outs and it seems that the kids are older now and mainly need driving but we also need household help.

They can cook for themselves & do their own laundry. Since you have the means, make sure they have their own cars & are ready to drive independently as early as they’re eligible to.

Whoa to the digs at OP. At least she's trying to figure out a way to make her life work better. Not much else to add other than "good luck, OP."