Anonymous wrote:I never understand kids who give their friends the answers in cases like this. This is only hurting themselves.

I'm let my son come in late to finish homework or study but this has seriously backfired when he's missed a lecture in the class he's skipped. We've backed away from ever doing this.

This is OP. I think my son inadvertently gives clues. He will get a text like this and have the following exchange:

Kid who missed is Jane who has hard class 5th period and let’s call my son Joe who is in 3rd period.
Jane: Hey, how’s it going?
Joe: good, what up?
Jane:I heard Mary started crying during the test and got upset [mary always worries and gets upset].
Joe: yeah it was a tough test
Jane- what part did you think was the hardest?
Joe; well xxxxxx was tough and xxxx
Mary- oh yeah. I Wonder of out classes both had same essay/same question. What did your class get?
Joe- we got xxxxxx

Then my son realizes Mary wasn’t actually at school that day. He is so nice and trusting and it wouldn’t occur to him to cheat like that he is always surprised other kids are and part of him refuses to believe kids in honors/AP cheat.,

If you're not cheating, you're not trying.

Anonymous wrote:I was talking to another mom who has older kids in college. It somehow came up that she let her kids miss school in high school if there was going to be a sub, an assembly, an in class work day, etc. so that her kids could finish work for another class. Her kids were in the most rigorous classes so benefited from that extra time.

I just asked my son who is my oldest and in AP/honors classes and he said that several students do the same. There might be a really hard test on a Friday and subs in other classes or not as much going in like watching a documentary so it seems to him a couple of kids will have their parents report that they are sick. So those students get the weekend to study for hard test, feedback from friends what was on the test, and have more time to complete other assignments.

How common is this?

The bolded part? That's called cheating.

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Anonymous wrote:Giving your kid a flex day because for their mental health here and there I can understand, but strategically doing so because of a difficult test or a sub in class is malicious and not setting a good example from a moral perspective. I don't like it.

What’s wrong with skipping when there’s a sub? You think a sub is teaching BC Calc?

How do you have them skip only one class? The OP said letting them miss school. Even if there's a sub in BC Calc, their other classes likely won't have subs and they'd be missing out on instruction in those classes.

Then it’s a judgment call about what is the better use of the student’s time. If Calc is first or last period, it makes it easier, but I would let the student decide. Missing Spanish and Calc, but signing him in at 10:00 for AP Chemistry, would be fine with me. It doesn’t have to be all or nothing.

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Anonymous wrote:Giving your kid a flex day because for their mental health here and there I can understand, but strategically doing so because of a difficult test or a sub in class is malicious and not setting a good example from a moral perspective. I don't like it.

What’s wrong with skipping when there’s a sub? You think a sub is teaching BC Calc?

How do you have them skip only one class? The OP said letting them miss school. Even if there's a sub in BC Calc, their other classes likely won't have subs and they'd be missing out on instruction in those classes.

Anonymous wrote:Giving your kid a flex day because for their mental health here and there I can understand, but strategically doing so because of a difficult test or a sub in class is malicious and not setting a good example from a moral perspective. I don't like it.

What’s wrong with skipping when there’s a sub? You think a sub is teaching BC Calc?

Anonymous wrote:I have an 11th grader who has a tough schedule and almost always call in “sick” on half days so they can catch up on sleep and school work.

Consider the possibility that your kid's chosen schedule might have been overambitious.

Yeah I’d let mine do this. Mine skipped PE to work on an essay. She gets plenty of exercise with sports, I don’t care.

I’ve also let mine stay home to sleep

The is always some parent who needs to find something to complain about. If kids are constantly missing tests the administration finds out. This is why it doesn’t happen. Missing for sports happens and usually said kids have a note from their league. Move on Karen.