I also really enjoy popping over to coj every so often- I used to be a dedicated daily reader but now its more like once. week, a few weeks. Its aprovilaged place but I'm also a pretty privileged person and. my kids are the same age an di have depression and anxiety so -shrug- Its good for me?

I think the divorce was probably a long time coming.. and most women I know who divorce feel very free and happy to not have to cater to anyone anymore. The circle she inhabits is also full of pretty successful women who are kinda dorky and insecure and not the cool kids but have somehow become wealthy and successful as thirty somethings and that is a very particular type of life experience. of course people who were always self assured and with it will not truly get it. She is a people pleaser for sure and I think being married is very difficult for people like that- they are super attuned to how they interact with others and are kind of needy ..I'm like that and my relationship is kind of mess b/c I am constantly second guessing and wanting attention and its a lot in the throes of elementary school life so I have to give myself a reality check.

I think she is going to talk about the dating in the subscription only newsletter? I think also when you are struggling to build yourself and then you realize you have finally arrived.. maybe you get bored and getting rid of your spouse to start something new is kind of exciting- thats when a lot of people start being poly? And she is a child of a pretty healthy divorce as is Alex so maybe they think it won't be so bad for their kids either?

Anonymous wrote:I'm admittedly curious about what led to the divorce as I did not see it coming.

I've followed her blog for a long time and generally like it and the comments are great as others have said. But for some reason she's coming across as a little too upbeat about the divorce to me and it's rubbing me the wrong way. Like too eager to talk about the details and starting to date, etc... Maybe that's just me but I can't help but to feel badly for the kids that all of this stuff is out on the internet no matter how much it's spun.

I think it's been awhile that they've been living apart. I also think many women who are financially stable and divorce feel tremendous freedom. Many men are terrible to live or partner with! Not all, but plenty.

Anyhow, I don't know them so IDGAF if she's happy or sad. While I enjoy reading her, I do realize how she can rub people the wrong way. But I generally really enjoy her corner of the internet.

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Anonymous wrote:I always got stealth cheater vibes from him

Oof. I have never understand how she found him attractive, but each to their own.

In her original post about the divorce, didn't she try to head that off?

I gotta give her credit for writing about her divorce, publicly. The PPs about "aren't-we-smart" vibe is tiresome. I have been reading her since her Glamour Days. I wish her well.

My take on the divorce was that he prolly was sick of having his life on the internet? And, also the "parenting style" differences, which could be an umbrella for a lot of issues.

Do you think she had to buy him out of their place in Cobble Hill?

No personal knowledge, obviously, but that's usually what happens in a divorce. Or the person who gives up the house is compensated in some other way (e.g., spouse 1 gets the house and spouse 2 gets the stock portfolio)

I'm admittedly curious about what led to the divorce as I did not see it coming.

I've followed her blog for a long time and generally like it and the comments are great as others have said. But for some reason she's coming across as a little too upbeat about the divorce to me and it's rubbing me the wrong way. Like too eager to talk about the details and starting to date, etc... Maybe that's just me but I can't help but to feel badly for the kids that all of this stuff is out on the internet no matter how much it's spun.

Anonymous wrote:I always got stealth cheater vibes from him

Oof. I have never understand how she found him attractive, but each to their own.

In her original post about the divorce, didn't she try to head that off?

I gotta give her credit for writing about her divorce, publicly. The PPs about "aren't-we-smart" vibe is tiresome. I have been reading her since her Glamour Days. I wish her well.

My take on the divorce was that he prolly was sick of having his life on the internet? And, also the "parenting style" differences, which could be an umbrella for a lot of issues.

Do you think she had to buy him out of their place in Cobble Hill?

Anonymous wrote:Ugh this latest post. Divorce is even better and more curated than she initially revealed!

https://cupofjo.com/2023/09/25/divorce-what-surprised-me/

She seems to me to be a vulnerable person in various ways...highly sensitive and in need of a lot of support and validation. She just does not seem strong overall, she seems undevelooed as a person but over time I suspect she will mature. In reading her periodically I see social anxiety, self esteem issues, shyness, a propensity toward rose colored glasses/denial. I don't think that's just her keeping it positive for the board. I think she has a lot of fears and insecurities tempermentally and needs lots of support. That's fine but I don't see her as having a particularly strong identity. Her sister seems much more solid and I suslect she has relied on her emotionally for much of her life.

Ugh this latest post. Divorce is even better and more curated than she initially revealed!

https://cupofjo.com/2023/09/25/divorce-what-surprised-me/

Ugh, I can't stand her.

Anonymous wrote:She just did a post about her divorce and admits she has the kids 70% of the time. Seems like a lot assuming he’s still in the area writing obits.

My ex has our kids every other weekend and alternating Wednesdays. We knew 50/50 wasn't going to work for our family.

She just did a post about her divorce and admits she has the kids 70% of the time. Seems like a lot assuming he’s still in the area writing obits.

Julia Berolzheimer is married still.

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Anonymous wrote:Instagram/blogger fame is not easy on marriages.

It's so true. How many of the OG "lifestyle bloggers" are still married???

Emily Schuman and Geeeee seem to be going strong

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Anonymous wrote:Instagram/blogger fame is not easy on marriages.

It's so true. How many of the OG "lifestyle bloggers" are still married???

Amalah is! I think…

For everyone claiming Joanna is boring, Dooce was always exciting but hot damn has she gone off the deep end. I’d take bland over that melt down any day.

Anonymous wrote:I like the blog -- it's fun to see it pop up in my email inbox. I like the mix of topics she covers -- not too skewed toward domesticity -- and I like the tone -- not too focused on the perfectly-curated life. I wish her and her family well.

I agree with this. She’s fluffy, but walks the line of not being too frivolous or too serious. I’ve always admired how she managed it. The comment section on her blog is full of INCREDIBLE advice. She has only ever been part of the draw for me; but her readers are smart and funny and wise.

I will admit I was shocked they are splitting, but it only serves to remind us all how you really don’t know someone through their social media presence. So, eh, whatever. They are rich and white; their kids will be fine.

Anonymous wrote:I always got stealth cheater vibes from him

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