New job stat

Nice rant. I agree.

Anonymous wrote:For crying out loud, when did people become such babies?

+1. Grow up, OP.

And get off DCUM. You're back in the real world now.

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Anonymous wrote:Many of us have been going back to work since 2021 and enduring wearing masks for a period of time and getting Covid checks at work. This is 2023. It’s time to get back to normalcy. Good luck, off, finding your next job. I hope they don’t give you a writing test.

Sorry you chose the wrong career.

Some of us never EVER worked from home throughout the entire pandemic - and still have to wear masks at work.

I went back to the office this week too. It is only one day a week, not a big deal for me. I am least productive that day for sure, but they probably expect that.

some of us never stopped going into the office, thankfully,

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Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry, OP, I really am. I’m saying this gently because I know it really, really sucks to have to return to the office, but you *need* to work on reframing the situation in your mind. You will have to adjust your bedtime. Try to do it gradually. Keep your bedtime the same on weekdays regardless of whether you’re staying home or going into the office. It’s cold and windy today, but overall, we’ve had a warm winter and it’s generally good to get outside for part of the day. Focus on solutions, not your feelings. How can you arrange to drink good coffee? How can you prep healthy breakfasts ahead of time? Bear in mind that the silver lining of a deadly worldwide pandemic was getting to work from home. That was the aberration. Returning to the office is the norm. Remind yourself that you were lucky to get to WFH for *years.* Find something you actually enjoy doing in 5 minute increments and do it while you wait for virtual meetings to start. If you keep stewing about how miserable it all is, you will only feel worse.

Why should a mind reframing be needed?

Are you compensating employees for commutes and all the money they spend on it? No? Then maybe the company needs to reframe their thinking of they're going to force emplyees unnecessarily into the office and aren't compensating employees for all of the personal time they burn getting to and from the office, and compensating employees for all of the money they spend unnecessarily in order to get to and from the office.

Before the pandemic, it was understood that part of what they were compensating you for was to show up. They gave you a break on that due to the pandemic. They’re done doing that. You can perform your job within the parameters they set for the compensation they’re offering or you can negotiate for what you want or you can quit or you can be let go or you can quiet quit and see how long it takes them to play bad cop. Be as miserable as you want while this plays out.

so before the pandemic you were ok waking up and polluting the environment and all that but now that your company is brining people back into the office and inconveniencing you -you don't like it?

Just confirming that you are showing your true colors.

Anonymous wrote:Many of us have been going back to work since 2021 and enduring wearing masks for a period of time and getting Covid checks at work. This is 2023. It’s time to get back to normalcy. Good luck, off, finding your next job. I hope they don’t give you a writing test.

That's right, it IS 2023. Time to start using technology to do work. Time to use technology to get rid of commutes that create gigantic amounts of pollution that destroys the environment and wastes inordinate amounts of time. Time to use technology to get rid of 20th century office culture mindset they also wastes tremendous amounts of energy heating, lighting, and cooling gigantic office buildings for no reason.

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Anonymous wrote:Were you this incapable of functioning pre-pandemic, or is it a long Covid thing?

Were you not employed before 2020? Suck it up buttercup. It’s call real life.

But pre-pandemic there were very few people who knew how beneficial working from home could be for their health, wellness, family life, etc. Most people who had a WAH grumbled about not having face time or being disconnected since WAH infrastructure wasn't as robust as it is now. Or they said they felt isolated or went house crazy if they didn't have a system in place for getting out of the house daily.
With COVID people had to adjust to being in the house more often, WAH, etc. They got new routines, new priorities, more time/less time, some marriages fell apart, some got stronger, and some families readjusted their priorities after realizing how LITTLE time they get with their kids. Companies invested in WAH capabilities and many of us were WAH- even when we would have transitioned back to the office at any earlier time- for 1-2.5 years. Of course I wanted to go into the office when I had a toddler at home part-time and my job was always taking a back seat to my DH's fed job, which always seems to somehow be in emergency mode.

Now people are being asked to revert back to the office but all the benefits of the office no longer feel like benefits. I get to control my house temp, I have a fantastic setup at home that I personally paid for, all my meetings are virtual, I save money on gas, I can work outside on a pretty day, I walk on my treadmill 2-3x day for 10-15 minutes, etc. Managers act like they want people to work but all I hear about are companies paying out the wazoo for return-to-office parties and office "culture" events, which are not working.

Progress was never made by going backwards and that's what many companies are asking people to do. There are some jobs that will never be able to, and were never able to, work from home. That is not the point of WAH vs WOH discussions. Those jobs are nothingburgers because they never had to transition to/from WAH and WOH. But I can assure you that the WOH people would rather have the WAH at home. All of my teacher friends complain about how much earlier they have to leave because of traffic. WAH people are also more likely to make mid-day appointments, thereby, reducing the amount of people who require early morning and late afternoon appointments.

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry, OP, I really am. I’m saying this gently because I know it really, really sucks to have to return to the office, but you *need* to work on reframing the situation in your mind. You will have to adjust your bedtime. Try to do it gradually. Keep your bedtime the same on weekdays regardless of whether you’re staying home or going into the office. It’s cold and windy today, but overall, we’ve had a warm winter and it’s generally good to get outside for part of the day. Focus on solutions, not your feelings. How can you arrange to drink good coffee? How can you prep healthy breakfasts ahead of time? Bear in mind that the silver lining of a deadly worldwide pandemic was getting to work from home. That was the aberration. Returning to the office is the norm. Remind yourself that you were lucky to get to WFH for *years.* Find something you actually enjoy doing in 5 minute increments and do it while you wait for virtual meetings to start. If you keep stewing about how miserable it all is, you will only feel worse.

Why should a mind reframing be needed?

Are you compensating employees for commutes and all the money they spend on it? No? Then maybe the company needs to reframe their thinking of they're going to force emplyees unnecessarily into the office and aren't compensating employees for all of the personal time they burn getting to and from the office, and compensating employees for all of the money they spend unnecessarily in order to get to and from the office.

Anonymous wrote:This is exactly how everyone in my office feels. They are actually changing the policy soon to decrease the days you come in but require more coordinated days so everyone is in the office at the same time. I'm fine with that. Nothing makes me angrier than teams meetings from my office.

I wish my company would do the coordinated days. I actually prefer working in the office, but only if the people l work with are also there.

Anonymous wrote:But think of all the collaborating you’re doing

I don't know if you meant this as a joke but you made me laugh out loud. Also OP helped spread the "culture" of her work place too

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Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry, OP, I really am. I’m saying this gently because I know it really, really sucks to have to return to the office, but you *need* to work on reframing the situation in your mind. You will have to adjust your bedtime. Try to do it gradually. Keep your bedtime the same on weekdays regardless of whether you’re staying home or going into the office. It’s cold and windy today, but overall, we’ve had a warm winter and it’s generally good to get outside for part of the day. Focus on solutions, not your feelings. How can you arrange to drink good coffee? How can you prep healthy breakfasts ahead of time? Bear in mind that the silver lining of a deadly worldwide pandemic was getting to work from home. That was the aberration. Returning to the office is the norm. Remind yourself that you were lucky to get to WFH for *years.* Find something you actually enjoy doing in 5 minute increments and do it while you wait for virtual meetings to start. If you keep stewing about how miserable it all is, you will only feel worse.

Why? There is absolutely zero reason why I need to be in-person for my job.

I haven’t invested in commercial real estate, though.

Oh, are you quitting today? I was under the impression you’d be going in again after today, until you find a new job.

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Hey, People, OP is just venting and this is his or her first day back in the office!

Have some sympathy. We've all been there after a vacation or similar.

For real. People are being super harsh when 90% of my friends IRL feel this way about the office

They are just jealous OP worked WFH until now. OP, I feel your pain. It's as stupid as it gets...