Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women focused soley on financial wealth in the US are so unappealing!

What do you think of men who flash $10,000 wrist watches?

NP. My first thought is "target acquired."

Men who collect guns, cars, watches and boats aren’t materialistic?

Anonymous wrote:For those of you who are super materialistic, please explain it to me as someone who values the simple things in life.

Does the bag, clothes give you happiness? Does it make you think you are better than someone else who can't afford it and that makes you happy? Or is it just collecting something? Are you happier than me who has much less and values times, experiences, etc..? Just curious.

Good quality clothes that tailored well do make me happy. It sets a mood of the day when I put on silk, no polyester lingerie, good quality wool or cashmere well tailored clothes. I love niche perfumes that usually costs from $350-$600. It makes me super happy. I don't think I am better than someone else, that is a stupid thing to say. I don't like collecting things, I only buy the things that I use a lot. I don't know if I am happier than you without knowing your level of happiness, but I am overall a happy person (never been depressed in my life, no diagnoses, no pills, etc.). I also value time and experiences. I have traveled to more than 100 countries and lived in Europe, Latin America, Middle East and Africa.

Anonymous wrote: I feel that owning a beautiful, well-designed object IS an experience. You get to experience it every time you use it. I don't really understand the distinction between things and experiences in this context. I have at least 100 dresses in my closet. Many of them cost more than $200. Each one brings to mind the experience of seeking and discovering it, the fun of trying it on and finding it flattering, the daily joy of wearing it and feeling pretty, the pride my husband feels when he watches me appear in the kitchen each morning dressed beautifully for the day. Do I need another dress? No. Will I keep buying them? Yes. Do I consider myself materialistic? Absolutely not.

Lol - hi Donna Reed.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women focused soley on financial wealth in the US are so unappealing!

What do you think of men who flash $10,000 wrist watches?

I am a woman with a $9,000 watch. I don’t flash it though… I’d say I wear it.

Isn’t “materialistic” a term that shows you’ve already judged the person negatively?

I have some very expensive items and enjoy them, but I am not obsessed with them and don’t flash them around. I do have some nice custom jewelry, a luxury car, and some items like $1000+ coats and purses. However, I also spend about $30 on a haircut and wear Costco sneakers and Target sweaters. I pay a lot of money for organic underwear. I’m thinking of spending $20k on a custom musical instrument.

I don’t think of myself as materialistic, but as a down to earth person who owns some nice things.

Anonymous wrote:For those of you who are super materialistic, please explain it to me as someone who values the simple things in life.

Does the bag, clothes give you happiness? Does it make you think you are better than someone else who can't afford it and that makes you happy? Or is it just collecting something? Are you happier than me who has much less and values times, experiences, etc..? Just curious.

As someone with a lot of nice bags/shoes/dresses/jewelry/etc honestly I don’t think about you at all. When I’m in public I do look at other women’s fashions but if it’s boring or ugly they just fade into the scenery for me. My eye is only really drawn to things I like or find interesting.

Anonymous wrote: I feel that owning a beautiful, well-designed object IS an experience. You get to experience it every time you use it. I don't really understand the distinction between things and experiences in this context. I have at least 100 dresses in my closet. Many of them cost more than $200. Each one brings to mind the experience of seeking and discovering it, the fun of trying it on and finding it flattering, the daily joy of wearing it and feeling pretty, the pride my husband feels when he watches me appear in the kitchen each morning dressed beautifully for the day. Do I need another dress? No. Will I keep buying them? Yes. Do I consider myself materialistic? Absolutely not.

ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha

Anonymous wrote:As long as people don't look down on others who either can't afford or don't want high-ticket items, I don't care what they do. They smug ones that do, I want nothing to do with.

Of most of them look down on others.

How else do you suppose DCUM came up with the term “the poors?”

Well I never spend $200 on the outfits I buy at lots of designer stores - chicos, Anne Taylor, etc. everyone loves my outfits.

Anonymous wrote: I feel that owning a beautiful, well-designed object IS an experience. You get to experience it every time you use it. I don't really understand the distinction between things and experiences in this context. I have at least 100 dresses in my closet. Many of them cost more than $200. Each one brings to mind the experience of seeking and discovering it, the fun of trying it on and finding it flattering, the daily joy of wearing it and feeling pretty, the pride my husband feels when he watches me appear in the kitchen each morning dressed beautifully for the day. Do I need another dress? No. Will I keep buying them? Yes. Do I consider myself materialistic? Absolutely not.

I'm happy for you that you like your dresses, but pretty much any dress that isn't from Shein costs more than $200.

As long as people don't look down on others who either can't afford or don't want high-ticket items, I don't care what they do. They smug ones that do, I want nothing to do with.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women focused soley on financial wealth in the US are so unappealing!

What do you think of men who flash $10,000 wrist watches?

I’m not OP but I just men with flashy crap way more than women. Women are conditioned from childhood to see fancy stuff as a measure of their inner worth (princesses have tiaras, successful birthers get push presents, etc.)—its prehistoric and hard to shake. Men who want flashy cars and watches just seem like they are trying to compensate for physical or intellectual shortcomings.

I dunno. A lot of guys with flashy cars have big dongs as well.

I feel that owning a beautiful, well-designed object IS an experience. You get to experience it every time you use it. I don't really understand the distinction between things and experiences in this context. I have at least 100 dresses in my closet. Many of them cost more than $200. Each one brings to mind the experience of seeking and discovering it, the fun of trying it on and finding it flattering, the daily joy of wearing it and feeling pretty, the pride my husband feels when he watches me appear in the kitchen each morning dressed beautifully for the day. Do I need another dress? No. Will I keep buying them? Yes. Do I consider myself materialistic? Absolutely not.

What kind of a woman puts “material success” / wealth, this high on her lifetime priority list?