Anonymous
02/01/2023 21:20
Subject: In child custody dispute, breastfeeding mom is ordered to use bottle
Anonymous wrote:I think this decision is appalling. Truly.
The only thing appalling is that Dad has to wait months to get visits longer than an hour or two in mom's home under mom's supervision as there is no documented abuse or neglect.
Anonymous
02/01/2023 21:19
Subject: In child custody dispute, breastfeeding mom is ordered to use bottle
I think this decision is appalling. Truly.
Anonymous
02/01/2023 21:16
Subject: In child custody dispute, breastfeeding mom is ordered to use bottle
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don't see why the mom has to do anything. If she wants breastmilk, she can provide it and dad can use a bottle. And a feeding schedule? Baby should be sttn but feeding on demand still.
As a breastfeeding mom I wouldn't want to pump and feed a bottle during my time with the baby. Plus, none of my kids would take a bottle from me, but took it from nanny.
Since he has less time with the baby I think judge wants mom to introduce bottle or have bottle introduced so that its not completely miserable.
Many babies will accept a bottle from anyone else other than the breastfeeding mother. If mom is away and dad is there with the bottle the baby will eventually accept it. Many people go through this struggle when other caregivers have to feed a nursing infant. It's hardly uncharted territory and they all get through it. Mom can say she tried and failed but that doesn't mean dad won't have more success.
This. And fwiw some kids aren’t into solids as steady food source until 1. Mine would snack a bit but still primarily nursed for nutrition. Thankfully I had good supply and a very flexible minded boss.
The dad could use what mom pumps, supplement with formula, and try solids. If needed and they both agree to it donor milk is an option as well.
Wow what a lucky baby. Formula, solids, unnecessary donor milk, all to save dad a few bucks
Wait, so you think Dad's should not be involved in their kids lives SO they can pay mom the max amount of child support. Where is the logic in that? So, mom refuses to pump or use formula to maximize her child support payment by your logic. What does that say about her?
How hard is it for you to get some men are good people and good fathers and deserve to have a relationship with their kid.
Anonymous
02/01/2023 21:03
Subject: Re:In child custody dispute, breastfeeding mom is ordered to use bottle
If you carefully read the article, mom wants dad to spend time with her as she ebf. How is that not emotional manipulation? How would you feel if wife wanted to divorce but husband withheld children unless she spent time with him? The evidence from doctor just says she ebf, not that has medical need to be.
Anonymous
02/01/2023 21:02
Subject: In child custody dispute, breastfeeding mom is ordered to use bottle
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don't see why the mom has to do anything. If she wants breastmilk, she can provide it and dad can use a bottle. And a feeding schedule? Baby should be sttn but feeding on demand still.
As a breastfeeding mom I wouldn't want to pump and feed a bottle during my time with the baby. Plus, none of my kids would take a bottle from me, but took it from nanny.
Since he has less time with the baby I think judge wants mom to introduce bottle or have bottle introduced so that its not completely miserable.
If the judge looked at any of the data for nursed babies many of them will not accept a bottle from a nursing mother— mine certainly didn’t— and plenty of people struggle to get enough milk when pumping even under less stressful circumstances than the article described.
The recommendation is to exclusively breastfeed to one. Dad would suck it up for four more months if his priority was his kid, which it clearly isn’t.
Recommendation by who for this particular child? The WHO recommends it as in many areas/countries there is not access to formula, clean drinking water and things like breast pumps.
Dad should not have to suck it up. Mom should work with the child on a bottle. If she works or leaves the child with anyone else, child has to use a bottle.
Dad should not have to suck it up, instead his child who did. It ask to be brought into the world and cannot understand what is happening should. If you asked the baby what do you think she’d want?
She'd want to be fed. Breastmilk, formula, solids, etc. It's all good for a baby that age.
She’d rather be breastfed than forced to drink from an unfamiliar plastic device which is alien to her (if in fact she’s been EBF). But sure force the baby to accommodate her selfish father— this will be the first of many times.
GMAFB. She will learn soon enough to drink from those alien devices. Are you still drinking from a breast? All good things come to an end, even for babies.
Anonymous
02/01/2023 21:02
Subject: In child custody dispute, breastfeeding mom is ordered to use bottle
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don't see why the mom has to do anything. If she wants breastmilk, she can provide it and dad can use a bottle. And a feeding schedule? Baby should be sttn but feeding on demand still.
As a breastfeeding mom I wouldn't want to pump and feed a bottle during my time with the baby. Plus, none of my kids would take a bottle from me, but took it from nanny.
Since he has less time with the baby I think judge wants mom to introduce bottle or have bottle introduced so that its not completely miserable.
If the judge looked at any of the data for nursed babies many of them will not accept a bottle from a nursing mother— mine certainly didn’t— and plenty of people struggle to get enough milk when pumping even under less stressful circumstances than the article described.
The recommendation is to exclusively breastfeed to one. Dad would suck it up for four more months if his priority was his kid, which it clearly isn’t.
Recommendation by who for this particular child? The WHO recommends it as in many areas/countries there is not access to formula, clean drinking water and things like breast pumps.
Dad should not have to suck it up. Mom should work with the child on a bottle. If she works or leaves the child with anyone else, child has to use a bottle.
Dad should not have to suck it up, instead his child who did. It ask to be brought into the world and cannot understand what is happening should. If you asked the baby what do you think she’d want?
She'd want to be fed. Breastmilk, formula, solids, etc. It's all good for a baby that age.
She’d rather be breastfed than forced to drink from an unfamiliar plastic device which is alien to her (if in fact she’s been EBF). But sure force the baby to accommodate her selfish father— this will be the first of many times.
DP. This is kind of looney. Are you projecting something?
Anonymous
02/01/2023 21:00
Subject: Re:In child custody dispute, breastfeeding mom is ordered to use bottle
The article doesn’t point to any alternative proposals by the mother to accommodate the father’s visitation and breastfeeding, which suggests that she hasn’t made any. “My way or the highway” generally isn’t the appropriate of a fair and rational person.
Anonymous
02/01/2023 21:00
Subject: In child custody dispute, breastfeeding mom is ordered to use bottle
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don't see why the mom has to do anything. If she wants breastmilk, she can provide it and dad can use a bottle. And a feeding schedule? Baby should be sttn but feeding on demand still.
As a breastfeeding mom I wouldn't want to pump and feed a bottle during my time with the baby. Plus, none of my kids would take a bottle from me, but took it from nanny.
Since he has less time with the baby I think judge wants mom to introduce bottle or have bottle introduced so that its not completely miserable.
If the judge looked at any of the data for nursed babies many of them will not accept a bottle from a nursing mother— mine certainly didn’t— and plenty of people struggle to get enough milk when pumping even under less stressful circumstances than the article described.
The recommendation is to exclusively breastfeed to one. Dad would suck it up for four more months if his priority was his kid, which it clearly isn’t.
Recommendation by who for this particular child? The WHO recommends it as in many areas/countries there is not access to formula, clean drinking water and things like breast pumps.
Dad should not have to suck it up. Mom should work with the child on a bottle. If she works or leaves the child with anyone else, child has to use a bottle.
Dad should not have to suck it up, instead his child who did. It ask to be brought into the world and cannot understand what is happening should. If you asked the baby what do you think she’d want?
She'd want to be fed. Breastmilk, formula, solids, etc. It's all good for a baby that age.
She’d rather be breastfed than forced to drink from an unfamiliar plastic device which is alien to her (if in fact she’s been EBF). But sure force the baby to accommodate her selfish father— this will be the first of many times.
Anonymous
02/01/2023 20:58
Subject: In child custody dispute, breastfeeding mom is ordered to use bottle
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don't see why the mom has to do anything. If she wants breastmilk, she can provide it and dad can use a bottle. And a feeding schedule? Baby should be sttn but feeding on demand still.
As a breastfeeding mom I wouldn't want to pump and feed a bottle during my time with the baby. Plus, none of my kids would take a bottle from me, but took it from nanny.
Since he has less time with the baby I think judge wants mom to introduce bottle or have bottle introduced so that its not completely miserable.
If the judge looked at any of the data for nursed babies many of them will not accept a bottle from a nursing mother— mine certainly didn’t— and plenty of people struggle to get enough milk when pumping even under less stressful circumstances than the article described.
The recommendation is to exclusively breastfeed to one. Dad would suck it up for four more months if his priority was his kid, which it clearly isn’t.
Recommendation by who for this particular child? The WHO recommends it as in many areas/countries there is not access to formula, clean drinking water and things like breast pumps.
Dad should not have to suck it up. Mom should work with the child on a bottle. If she works or leaves the child with anyone else, child has to use a bottle.
The mom is in NoVA and dad in PG county - I am sure all the formula fed children in the DMV have been failed.
Anonymous
02/01/2023 20:55
Subject: Re:In child custody dispute, breastfeeding mom is ordered to use bottle
Dumb woman should not have had kid with this man. Kid's life is already messed up having these two morons as parents. BF vs FF is the least of its problem.
Anonymous
02/01/2023 20:54
Subject: In child custody dispute, breastfeeding mom is ordered to use bottle
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don't see why the mom has to do anything. If she wants breastmilk, she can provide it and dad can use a bottle. And a feeding schedule? Baby should be sttn but feeding on demand still.
As a breastfeeding mom I wouldn't want to pump and feed a bottle during my time with the baby. Plus, none of my kids would take a bottle from me, but took it from nanny.
Since he has less time with the baby I think judge wants mom to introduce bottle or have bottle introduced so that its not completely miserable.
If the judge looked at any of the data for nursed babies many of them will not accept a bottle from a nursing mother— mine certainly didn’t— and plenty of people struggle to get enough milk when pumping even under less stressful circumstances than the article described.
The recommendation is to exclusively breastfeed to one. Dad would suck it up for four more months if his priority was his kid, which it clearly isn’t.
Recommendation by who for this particular child? The WHO recommends it as in many areas/countries there is not access to formula, clean drinking water and things like breast pumps.
Dad should not have to suck it up. Mom should work with the child on a bottle. If she works or leaves the child with anyone else, child has to use a bottle.
Dad should not have to suck it up, instead his child who did. It ask to be brought into the world and cannot understand what is happening should. If you asked the baby what do you think she’d want?
She'd want to be fed. Breastmilk, formula, solids, etc. It's all good for a baby that age.
Anonymous
02/01/2023 20:53
Subject: In child custody dispute, breastfeeding mom is ordered to use bottle
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don't see why the mom has to do anything. If she wants breastmilk, she can provide it and dad can use a bottle. And a feeding schedule? Baby should be sttn but feeding on demand still.
As a breastfeeding mom I wouldn't want to pump and feed a bottle during my time with the baby. Plus, none of my kids would take a bottle from me, but took it from nanny.
Since he has less time with the baby I think judge wants mom to introduce bottle or have bottle introduced so that its not completely miserable.
Many babies will accept a bottle from anyone else other than the breastfeeding mother. If mom is away and dad is there with the bottle the baby will eventually accept it. Many people go through this struggle when other caregivers have to feed a nursing infant. It's hardly uncharted territory and they all get through it. Mom can say she tried and failed but that doesn't mean dad won't have more success.
This. And fwiw some kids aren’t into solids as steady food source until 1. Mine would snack a bit but still primarily nursed for nutrition. Thankfully I had good supply and a very flexible minded boss.
The dad could use what mom pumps, supplement with formula, and try solids. If needed and they both agree to it donor milk is an option as well.
Wow what a lucky baby. Formula, solids, unnecessary donor milk, all to save dad a few bucks
Anonymous
02/01/2023 20:52
Subject: In child custody dispute, breastfeeding mom is ordered to use bottle
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don't see why the mom has to do anything. If she wants breastmilk, she can provide it and dad can use a bottle. And a feeding schedule? Baby should be sttn but feeding on demand still.
As a breastfeeding mom I wouldn't want to pump and feed a bottle during my time with the baby. Plus, none of my kids would take a bottle from me, but took it from nanny.
Since he has less time with the baby I think judge wants mom to introduce bottle or have bottle introduced so that its not completely miserable.
If the judge looked at any of the data for nursed babies many of them will not accept a bottle from a nursing mother— mine certainly didn’t— and plenty of people struggle to get enough milk when pumping even under less stressful circumstances than the article described.
The recommendation is to exclusively breastfeed to one. Dad would suck it up for four more months if his priority was his kid, which it clearly isn’t.
Recommendation by who for this particular child? The WHO recommends it as in many areas/countries there is not access to formula, clean drinking water and things like breast pumps.
Dad should not have to suck it up. Mom should work with the child on a bottle. If she works or leaves the child with anyone else, child has to use a bottle.
Dad should not have to suck it up, instead his child who did. It ask to be brought into the world and cannot understand what is happening should. If you asked the baby what do you think she’d want?
Anonymous
02/01/2023 20:51
Subject: Re:In child custody dispute, breastfeeding mom is ordered to use bottle
Seems reasonable to me. What’s unreasonable is to prevent the father from spending time with his baby because the mother will only breastfeed.
Anonymous
02/01/2023 20:50
Subject: In child custody dispute, breastfeeding mom is ordered to use bottle
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don't see why the mom has to do anything. If she wants breastmilk, she can provide it and dad can use a bottle. And a feeding schedule? Baby should be sttn but feeding on demand still.
As a breastfeeding mom I wouldn't want to pump and feed a bottle during my time with the baby. Plus, none of my kids would take a bottle from me, but took it from nanny.
Since he has less time with the baby I think judge wants mom to introduce bottle or have bottle introduced so that its not completely miserable.
Many babies will accept a bottle from anyone else other than the breastfeeding mother. If mom is away and dad is there with the bottle the baby will eventually accept it. Many people go through this struggle when other caregivers have to feed a nursing infant. It's hardly uncharted territory and they all get through it. Mom can say she tried and failed but that doesn't mean dad won't have more success.
This. And fwiw some kids aren’t into solids as steady food source until 1. Mine would snack a bit but still primarily nursed for nutrition. Thankfully I had good supply and a very flexible minded boss.
The dad could use what mom pumps, supplement with formula, and try solids. If needed and they both agree to it donor milk is an option as well.