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Anonymous wrote:Did your invite say “due to space constraints we cannot accommodate siblings”? We just received an invite and everything was so clear. My rule following self loved it.

If the invite is addressed to your kid and it’s drop off them no sibling is invited. Siblings are never k voted unless it explicitly says so.

This. The default is no siblings unless it specifically says “siblings welcome” or sibling is named. Were some of you raised by wolves??

Some of us were raised in places a lot less uptight.

So you would be ok if you planned and paid for your wedding reception based on the guests you want, send an to a couple family, and they email and ask if they could bring their cousin who’s in town? Or to a personal friend and guest and they showed up with 3 people?

An invite to a person or couple or family is an invite to them and them only. What is not clear about that?

Comparing a wedding to a 7 year olds birthday party is laughable. We get it, OP, you planned a high class event and only wanted certain people there.

Lol this wasn’t OP!

I'm sorry you weren't happy to see Baby Lucas. He's just at such a cute stage now and I thought you'd be thrilled to see how he's grabbing things. I know he has a runny nose but who doesn't this winter, right? And sure, he always poops right around the time you were doing cake, but I was very surprised you were upset that I changed him on the table. I mostly contained the mess, but you know how runny it can be. Oh well. Happy birthday to your DS. Both the baby and my son had a great time, especially when Lucas got into the party favors and teethed on them - it really made him feel better. And hey, he finally stopped screaming for a while!

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Anonymous wrote:You need to write in all caps “no siblings”. Otherwise people will play dumb. Was it an evite? If so, no one is reading who the card is made out to. Also, drop off at 7 is still early for some people. Especially at a venue which sounds like yours was at.

They had a whole gym just to themselves at a private venue. Literally every other parent dropped off. Our entire class does drop off parties.

Incredibly rude! I cannot imagine expecting hosts to include siblings and supervise and feed them. People act so entitled!

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Anonymous wrote:Did your invite say “due to space constraints we cannot accommodate siblings”? We just received an invite and everything was so clear. My rule following self loved it.

If the invite is addressed to your kid and it’s drop off them no sibling is invited. Siblings are never k voted unless it explicitly says so.

This. The default is no siblings unless it specifically says “siblings welcome” or sibling is named. Were some of you raised by wolves??

Some of us were raised in places a lot less uptight.

So you would be ok if you planned and paid for your wedding reception based on the guests you want, send an to a couple family, and they email and ask if they could bring their cousin who’s in town? Or to a personal friend and guest and they showed up with 3 people?

An invite to a person or couple or family is an invite to them and them only. What is not clear about that?

Comparing a wedding to a 7 year olds birthday party is laughable. We get it, OP, you planned a high class event and only wanted certain people there.

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Anonymous wrote:Did your invite say “due to space constraints we cannot accommodate siblings”? We just received an invite and everything was so clear. My rule following self loved it.

If the invite is addressed to your kid and it’s drop off them no sibling is invited. Siblings are never k voted unless it explicitly says so.

This. The default is no siblings unless it specifically says “siblings welcome” or sibling is named. Were some of you raised by wolves??

Some of us were raised in places a lot less uptight.

So you would be ok if you planned and paid for your wedding reception based on the guests you want, send an to a couple family, and they email and ask if they could bring their cousin who’s in town? Or to a personal friend and guest and they showed up with 3 people?

An invite to a person or couple or family is an invite to them and them only. What is not clear about that?

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If you cannot accommodate siblings please spell it out, it makes life easier, because there are many cultures at play in this diverse region full of transplants and internationals, and people don't have a common social framework.

I always welcomed siblings and said so in our invitations.

Yep-my husband is from another culture and can’t wrap his head around why siblings wouldn’t be welcome-or any family member really. We actually had friends of his show up with random people, a couple friend of theirs, at our wedding and he didn’t bat an eye.

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Anonymous wrote:You shouldn’t assume drop-off for seven year olds - that’s 1st grade (6 turning 7) and there might be good reasons that I don’t want to drop off my kid at that age - it’s not the same as a party in 3rd grade.

I also don’t think you should be upset if they ask about siblings - just say no. I always assume siblings are NOT invited and then I’m sad when I sometimes see siblings and know one of my other kids would have loved the activity.

Agree. My second grader just attended a party for a classmate and not a single parent dropped off. I would never expect someone to be responsible for my kid at this particular venue (Main Event in Columbia Mall).

But the invite said drop off. Every party in first grade for us has been drop off. Every single one. This wasn’t the parenting asking if they can stay (that would have been completely fine and I made it clear that any parent could stay). This was about adding a sibling into the mix.

Anonymous wrote:You shouldn’t assume drop-off for seven year olds - that’s 1st grade (6 turning 7) and there might be good reasons that I don’t want to drop off my kid at that age - it’s not the same as a party in 3rd grade.

I also don’t think you should be upset if they ask about siblings - just say no. I always assume siblings are NOT invited and then I’m sad when I sometimes see siblings and know one of my other kids would have loved the activity.

Agree. My second grader just attended a party for a classmate and not a single parent dropped off. I would never expect someone to be responsible for my kid at this particular venue (Main Event in Columbia Mall).

If you cannot accommodate siblings please spell it out, it makes life easier, because there are many cultures at play in this diverse region full of transplants and internationals, and people don't have a common social framework.

I always welcomed siblings and said so in our invitations.

Anonymous wrote:I’m totally fine with not including siblings, but I so appreciate when the invite specifies one way or the other. Also with digital invites it’s not always clear who it’s addressed to.

This. I only took my son to a party recently for his friend. The invitation came via text. When we got there, the host asked why I hadn’t brought my daughter too.

You shouldn’t assume drop-off for seven year olds - that’s 1st grade (6 turning 7) and there might be good reasons that I don’t want to drop off my kid at that age - it’s not the same as a party in 3rd grade.

I also don’t think you should be upset if they ask about siblings - just say no. I always assume siblings are NOT invited and then I’m sad when I sometimes see siblings and know one of my other kids would have loved the activity.

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Anonymous wrote:Where do you live OP? This has never happened to us or that I’ve seen at a party. Is this a a lower socioeconomic thing? Maybe the parent is a single parent so they don’t have any other option?

We live outside of DC now (a different state). Very affluent and all in private school. This has zero to do with socioeconomic status.

Take a mental note and never invite these people again. Their lack of social skills doesn’t deserve to be respected in the future. You don’t stoop to these peoples level. Also, put out the word to your inner circle that these people lack the appropriate social awareness needed to be in affluent social circles.

Anonymous wrote:Where do you live OP? This has never happened to us or that I’ve seen at a party. Is this a a lower socioeconomic thing? Maybe the parent is a single parent so they don’t have any other option?

We live outside of DC now (a different state). Very affluent and all in private school. This has zero to do with socioeconomic status.

I’m totally fine with not including siblings, but I so appreciate when the invite specifies one way or the other. Also with digital invites it’s not always clear who it’s addressed to.

Where do you live OP? This has never happened to us or that I’ve seen at a party. Is this a a lower socioeconomic thing? Maybe the parent is a single parent so they don’t have any other option?