Anonymous
Post 01/22/2023 18:06     Subject: What age do you consider someone a young mother?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My ILs were 20 and 22 when DH was born.

That’s young!


50 years ago it was not.


My mom had me at 27 and she was considered AMA in the late 1970s

Yeah, where? My mother had me at 29 also in that timeframe and was definitely not AMA.


Yeah, that’s a weird comment because tons of women were having kids in their 30s in the 50s and 60s. My mom had 4 kids in her thirties in that time frame. She has her first at 24 and I don’t think anyone thought she was particularly old then.
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2023 18:01     Subject: What age do you consider someone a young mother?
I think of a young mother as anyone for whom all of her kids are not yet kindergarten age.
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2023 17:47     Subject: Re:What age do you consider someone a young mother?

Anonymous wrote:
<25yo. I had my first at 29/30 in NYC and felt like an outlier as a young mom there. Jokes on me because now I’m having another at 42yo. So l guess I get to experience the modern umc versions of both.


Good luck to you! My girls are 8.5 years apart-one in my late 20s and one at 37. I stopped then because I didn’t want to have a child in 3 different decades ;p


My parents had kids in 3 different decades! (69, 70s, 80). I came close to a 09, 10s, early 20s repeat but came to my senses before actually getting pregnant. Part of me still wants it though.

<= 25 is young mom to me
I was 29 with my first and the youngest of my friends at the time
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2023 16:44     Subject: Re:What age do you consider someone a young mother?
Anonymous wrote:Still studying, not making a livable wage, not launched, not married.


Is that list and or or?
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2023 16:42     Subject: Re:What age do you consider someone a young mother?
Anonymous wrote:Under 22 if on the college track. Under 18 if on the non-college track.


Yeah that sounds right to me (and I’m an average DC first baby at 31 type).
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2023 16:30     Subject: What age do you consider someone a young mother?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My ILs were 20 and 22 when DH was born.

That’s young!


50 years ago it was not.


My mom had me at 27 and she was considered AMA in the late 1970s

Yeah, where? My mother had me at 29 also in that timeframe and was definitely not AMA.


My mom had me at 26, and she was the oldest first time mom at the hospital. Maybe that’s what PP meant?
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2023 16:05     Subject: What age do you consider someone a young mother?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My ILs were 20 and 22 when DH was born.

That’s young!


50 years ago it was not.


My mom had me at 27 and she was considered AMA in the late 1970s

Yeah, where? My mother had me at 29 also in that timeframe and was definitely not AMA.
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2023 16:04     Subject: What age do you consider someone a young mother?
Yeah, I was told I was a young mom at 30 when I had my kid. For me, my definition of young mom is benchmarked on where I grew up (<21, “some” college).

However, I’m happy I’ll be 48 when my only finishes high school and I am still a little jealous when my friends from elementary school are on their late 30s or early 40s. My one friend who had a kid at 16 - her daughter has been out of college now seemingly forever.

The only downside for me is when the pressure is there like it was on some of them — have kids that early (even at 30) and you feel pressure to have even more, and more with a large age gap. Especially if there is a second marriage.

Though on the other side, another friend of mine from a (very catholic) family only had her first at 42 (and she had been with her husband since 17) and is now having her second at 45.

Anonymous
Post 01/22/2023 15:44     Subject: What age do you consider someone a young mother?
Anonymous wrote:<25yo. I had my first at 29/30 in NYC and felt like an outlier as a young mom there. Jokes on me because now I’m having another at 42yo. So l guess I get to experience the modern umc versions of both.


Good luck to you! My girls are 8.5 years apart-one in my late 20s and one at 37. I stopped then because I didn’t want to have a child in 3 different decades ;p
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2023 15:41     Subject: What age do you consider someone a young mother?
21 and under
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2023 15:40     Subject: What age do you consider someone a young mother?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My ILs were 20 and 22 when DH was born.

That’s young!


50 years ago it was not.


My mom had me at 27 and she was considered AMA in the late 1970s
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2023 15:23     Subject: What age do you consider someone a young mother?
20s, anything under 30 is young to be a mom in my small neighborhood. Maybe a couple of people fit that description but are well to do so maybe that's why they started early.
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2023 15:21     Subject: Re:What age do you consider someone a young mother?
25 and under.
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2023 15:20     Subject: Re:What age do you consider someone a young mother?
I'm in the NYC suburbs and in that area any age under 30 is considered young to have a baby.
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2023 14:04     Subject: Re:What age do you consider someone a young mother?
Still studying, not making a livable wage, not launched, not married.