OP here - thanks for the different perspectives. We test weekly before we see Grandparent and nephew. DD is very diligent with masking and does not need reminders and does not do the "hanging off face" thing. She really wears it. So no need for the host to have to worry about it.

She masks every day around these kids so I don't think anyone will be surprised to see her masked. She does eat at the normal lunch table but then remasks. It is not a perfect system but better. I think she can do the same at cake time.

To the pp who asked about illness, yes she gets sick a lot less than ever before and other kids in her class. We are also diligent about hand washing.

Thanks for reassuring me that her wearing a mask will not bother the host.

If you are in person work and school then going to this party isn't going to make a difference. The logic makes no sense to me.

OP, your reasons for forever-masking your children don’t make
any sense. Please discuss this with your pediatrician. Masking for short periods in certain scenarios can be helpful. Having a healthy young child mask through school and all social settings forever is harmful.

Anonymous wrote:An infant sibling out of NICU is one thing, but an infant nephew? Just hold off on visits for now. I’m sure mom and dad have it covered.

+1. This is a no brainer.

I also wouldn’t visit grandma without testing/masks for a few weeks either. I know a lot of people with COVID right now, none of them associated with each other. Only one other time in the last 3 years I knew this many people with it at the same time. It’s great that your kid masks, but now is the time to be extra careful.

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Anonymous wrote:There isn't really a way to participate in an indoor birthday party with a mask on. We haven't gone to one.

Why isn't it possible? I don't get it. Is going to a birthday party different than going to school? I know the answer: no.

Many people have answered this - it’s about the pizza, cake etc. This is a contained home party, not a large school cafeteria where the masking kid can space away from others to have lunch.

I get that it's about eating. But social distancing is not happening in school anymore. Maybe op made special accomodations for her kid to eat in the classroom or something, but I seriously doubt it. OP's child is eating in a crowded cafeteria with other kids. If she does that 5 days a week, let the poor kid do it one extra day occasionally for a birthday party.

Anonymous wrote:Yes, absolutely I would mask at the birthday party. And no I would not be offended by the mask and I don’t think others should be either. If they are, good riddance.

There’s no reason why a home indoor birthday party is less dangerous than a classroom.

+1

I’m going to go against most and suggest skipping the party. Unless your daughter is diligent on her own about wearing the mask, I don’t want to be responsible if it slips or she takes it off to eat cake and you find out later.

I really don’t mind who wears a mask and who doesn’t. It’s a little different going to an in home house party. Most kids I see wearing masks aren’t that careful.

An infant sibling out of NICU is one thing, but an infant nephew? Just hold off on visits for now. I’m sure mom and dad have it covered.

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Anonymous wrote:Cake to go. ☹️

How about wear a good mask around grandma and baby and let the kid live his life.

Not the OP (I am the PP who wrote that). My kids think grandma is a more important part of their life then the location they eat cake in. If your kids bake family so little you can’t relate that’s really sad.

The whole “they need to live their lives just stop seeing the disabled people!” Nastiness completely ignore the fact that people with disabilities are part of other people’s lives.

Enough with the you don't care about grandma histrionics. You're not the only one with a grandma. There is a way to see vulnerable people in your life and still allow a child to go about daily activities without a mask on. Wear a mask around the person and the other person masks and test before you see them. It's a pretty obvious answer.

The obvious answer is to have the newborn right of the NICU mask? Really?

No the obvious answer there is don’t let the kid near the newborn which would be quite easy to do. The newborn out of a NICU shouldn’t be around people anyway.

Yeah I would be careful and either wear a mask around the newborn or just hold off on visits for now. Unless your child has sone special lunch arrangements at school they’re exposed every time they eat anyway, and masks IRL are rarely 95% effective anyway, especially over the course of a long school day. I’ve known plenty of families who still got Covid despite regularly wearing masks.

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Anonymous wrote:Cake to go. ☹️

How about wear a good mask around grandma and baby and let the kid live his life.

Not the OP (I am the PP who wrote that). My kids think grandma is a more important part of their life then the location they eat cake in. If your kids bake family so little you can’t relate that’s really sad.

The whole “they need to live their lives just stop seeing the disabled people!” Nastiness completely ignore the fact that people with disabilities are part of other people’s lives.

At this phase in the pandemic, I think it makes more sense for the child to mask when seeing grandma and test before seeing her, than to have the child mask during his daily activities.

+1.

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Anonymous wrote:I would never be offended if you wore a mask, but I would prefer that you explain why, just casually to put my mind at ease. Some people are masking because they are a close contact or because they are on day six of covid themselves for example, and I’d greatly appreciate knowing that’s not the case for your child!

Masking is not going to work to protect your nephew or grandmother if your child removes his mask to eat cake and ice cream. You’ll need to talk to your child about keeping the mask on - maybe you can ask for cake to go.

It’s none of yo business dear

? It’s my house. Of course it’s my business.

It my DD personal health busy body

It’s your daughter’s body in my house. Get it?

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Anonymous wrote:Cake to go. ☹️

How about wear a good mask around grandma and baby and let the kid live his life.

Not the OP (I am the PP who wrote that). My kids think grandma is a more important part of their life then the location they eat cake in. If your kids bake family so little you can’t relate that’s really sad.

The whole “they need to live their lives just stop seeing the disabled people!” Nastiness completely ignore the fact that people with disabilities are part of other people’s lives.

Enough with the you don't care about grandma histrionics. You're not the only one with a grandma. There is a way to see vulnerable people in your life and still allow a child to go about daily activities without a mask on. Wear a mask around the person and the other person masks and test before you see them. It's a pretty obvious answer.

The obvious answer is to have the newborn right of the NICU mask? Really?

No the obvious answer there is don’t let the kid near the newborn which would be quite easy to do. The newborn out of a NICU shouldn’t be around people anyway.

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Anonymous wrote:Cake to go. ☹️

How about wear a good mask around grandma and baby and let the kid live his life.

Not the OP (I am the PP who wrote that). My kids think grandma is a more important part of their life then the location they eat cake in. If your kids bake family so little you can’t relate that’s really sad.

The whole “they need to live their lives just stop seeing the disabled people!” Nastiness completely ignore the fact that people with disabilities are part of other people’s lives.

Enough with the you don't care about grandma histrionics. You're not the only one with a grandma. There is a way to see vulnerable people in your life and still allow a child to go about daily activities without a mask on. Wear a mask around the person and the other person masks and test before you see them. It's a pretty obvious answer.

The obvious answer is to have the newborn right of the NICU mask? Really?

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Anonymous wrote:I would never be offended if you wore a mask, but I would prefer that you explain why, just casually to put my mind at ease. Some people are masking because they are a close contact or because they are on day six of covid themselves for example, and I’d greatly appreciate knowing that’s not the case for your child!

Masking is not going to work to protect your nephew or grandmother if your child removes his mask to eat cake and ice cream. You’ll need to talk to your child about keeping the mask on - maybe you can ask for cake to go.

It’s none of yo business dear

? It’s my house. Of course it’s my business.

It my DD personal health busy body

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Anonymous wrote:Cake to go. ☹️

How about wear a good mask around grandma and baby and let the kid live his life.

Not the OP (I am the PP who wrote that). My kids think grandma is a more important part of their life then the location they eat cake in. If your kids bake family so little you can’t relate that’s really sad.

The whole “they need to live their lives just stop seeing the disabled people!” Nastiness completely ignore the fact that people with disabilities are part of other people’s lives.

Enough with the you don't care about grandma histrionics. You're not the only one with a grandma. There is a way to see vulnerable people in your life and still allow a child to go about daily activities without a mask on. Wear a mask around the person and the other person masks and test before you see them. It's a pretty obvious answer.