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Anonymous wrote:Doodle puppy is 6 months old. And we have two big issues I desperately need help with or I don’t know how we’ll survive.

1. Dog barks constantly when we leave him on our main level and go upstairs (we have a gate at the bottom of the stairs, or sometimes we leave him in his play pen though lately he’s learned to escape). We need to go upstairs without him every evening when we put our 3 kids to bed. He cannot follow us around or the kids get worked up and won’t go to sleep themselves. But he barks and barks. The only solution we’ve found is putting him in the backyard during bedtime so his barking is quieter, but I’m obviously being a terrible neighbor by doing that.

2. Dog goes to sleep in his crate in the family room at 11 pm. He wakes around 4 am and barks until we come down at 6. It’s terrible. We’re not sleeping. DH and I are fighting. My kids are exhausted. Everyone says “just have him in your room” but we ALSO have a 3 year old who comes into our room at night and I’m worried about the 3 year old making the dog bark, or being too playful at night, etc. Al see I long term I know I’ll feel less resentful and of the dog if he sleeps downstairs.

What do I do???? I asked the vet and she didn’t seem to care. I feel like my mental health is at stake. This dog cannot keep barking at 4 am (and being a pain during bedtime).

PLEASE help!

I say this kindly, but I don't think you have a dog problem, you have a kid problem. Why are your kids getting worked up just by having the dog on the second floor? And why is your 3 year old coming into your bedroom at night, and even if he is, why does he think it's ok to be play with the dog at that time? The dog is going to be in your house for many years, your kids need to be taught to interact with it normally. I would try a crate on the second floor landing. Dogs are part of the pack and like to be with the family. Also, the dog may need more exercise. Tired dog = happy dog.

Oh, come ON. Three-year-old humans are just contrary; you can be as consistent as you want (and I am all for consistency), but they will still come up with new, annoying behavior all the time. Then they'll settle down and turn into humans, but OP can't wait that long.

I do agree that more exercise (and more mental stimulation) would go a long way towards wearing the dog out. And while my dogs are not Everydog, I think a six-month-old doodle is plenty old enough to be sleeping through the night -- take away the water four hours before bedtime so it doesn't need to pee in the middle of the night. Make sure to provide plenty of water during the other 12 hours of the day. Your dog will be fine.

Which is why it’s stupid to get a puppy when you have a three year and have a low tolerance for noise/sleep disruption.

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Bark collar. DCUM is passionately against them, but they are NOT cruel - they will save your sanity and your dog's sanity. It's not fun for him either, to bark endlessly! This is anxiety barking, not barking to communicate "beware, stranger at the door" or "I just saw my friend, I'm so excited". This is repetitive anxious barking that is really bad for dogs.

Always test the collar on yourself first, to see how mild the electric shock is. Try it at the lowest setting first. It took my dog TWO barks to understand he wasn't supposed to bark. He received plenty of praise and treats when he stopped barking. I've never used the collar since, and it's been so many years, I don't even know where it is!

Don't kill yourself with sleep deprivation for some unreasonable "shocks are cruel" principle. Dogs don't learn the same way we do, especially for anxiety barking. The collar will save your life.

This is a lazy copout. It's a baby!!! You're asking too much of him. And yes, "shocks" are cruel esp for a baby.

Leaving him alone so much is why he's barking. Dogs are pack animals. The crate should be in your bedroom. And there is no reason the dog cannot be with you upstairs so long as you're letting him out a lot. And, you should be running him or taking him to the dog park or something.

OP, I say this not to be mean: What did you think you were getting when you got a puppy? They are work. They are babies. Put in the time and work. And quit complaining.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Doodle puppy is 6 months old. And we have two big issues I desperately need help with or I don’t know how we’ll survive.

1. Dog barks constantly when we leave him on our main level and go upstairs (we have a gate at the bottom of the stairs, or sometimes we leave him in his play pen though lately he’s learned to escape). We need to go upstairs without him every evening when we put our 3 kids to bed. He cannot follow us around or the kids get worked up and won’t go to sleep themselves. But he barks and barks. The only solution we’ve found is putting him in the backyard during bedtime so his barking is quieter, but I’m obviously being a terrible neighbor by doing that.

2. Dog goes to sleep in his crate in the family room at 11 pm. He wakes around 4 am and barks until we come down at 6. It’s terrible. We’re not sleeping. DH and I are fighting. My kids are exhausted. Everyone says “just have him in your room” but we ALSO have a 3 year old who comes into our room at night and I’m worried about the 3 year old making the dog bark, or being too playful at night, etc. Al see I long term I know I’ll feel less resentful and of the dog if he sleeps downstairs.

What do I do???? I asked the vet and she didn’t seem to care. I feel like my mental health is at stake. This dog cannot keep barking at 4 am (and being a pain during bedtime).

PLEASE help!

I say this kindly, but I don't think you have a dog problem, you have a kid problem. Why are your kids getting worked up just by having the dog on the second floor? And why is your 3 year old coming into your bedroom at night, and even if he is, why does he think it's ok to be play with the dog at that time? The dog is going to be in your house for many years, your kids need to be taught to interact with it normally. I would try a crate on the second floor landing. Dogs are part of the pack and like to be with the family. Also, the dog may need more exercise. Tired dog = happy dog.

Oh, come ON. Three-year-old humans are just contrary; you can be as consistent as you want (and I am all for consistency), but they will still come up with new, annoying behavior all the time. Then they'll settle down and turn into humans, but OP can't wait that long.

I do agree that more exercise (and more mental stimulation) would go a long way towards wearing the dog out. And while my dogs are not Everydog, I think a six-month-old doodle is plenty old enough to be sleeping through the night -- take away the water four hours before bedtime so it doesn't need to pee in the middle of the night. Make sure to provide plenty of water during the other 12 hours of the day. Your dog will be fine.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Doodle puppy is 6 months old. And we have two big issues I desperately need help with or I don’t know how we’ll survive.

1. Dog barks constantly when we leave him on our main level and go upstairs (we have a gate at the bottom of the stairs, or sometimes we leave him in his play pen though lately he’s learned to escape). We need to go upstairs without him every evening when we put our 3 kids to bed. He cannot follow us around or the kids get worked up and won’t go to sleep themselves. But he barks and barks. The only solution we’ve found is putting him in the backyard during bedtime so his barking is quieter, but I’m obviously being a terrible neighbor by doing that.

2. Dog goes to sleep in his crate in the family room at 11 pm. He wakes around 4 am and barks until we come down at 6. It’s terrible. We’re not sleeping. DH and I are fighting. My kids are exhausted. Everyone says “just have him in your room” but we ALSO have a 3 year old who comes into our room at night and I’m worried about the 3 year old making the dog bark, or being too playful at night, etc. Al see I long term I know I’ll feel less resentful and of the dog if he sleeps downstairs.

What do I do???? I asked the vet and she didn’t seem to care. I feel like my mental health is at stake. This dog cannot keep barking at 4 am (and being a pain during bedtime).

PLEASE help!

I say this kindly, but I don't think you have a dog problem, you have a kid problem. Why are your kids getting worked up just by having the dog on the second floor? And why is your 3 year old coming into your bedroom at night, and even if he is, why does he think it's ok to be play with the dog at that time? The dog is going to be in your house for many years, your kids need to be taught to interact with it normally. I would try a crate on the second floor landing. Dogs are part of the pack and like to be with the family. Also, the dog may need more exercise. Tired dog = happy dog.

Anonymous wrote:Doodle puppy is 6 months old. And we have two big issues I desperately need help with or I don’t know how we’ll survive.

1. Dog barks constantly when we leave him on our main level and go upstairs (we have a gate at the bottom of the stairs, or sometimes we leave him in his play pen though lately he’s learned to escape). We need to go upstairs without him every evening when we put our 3 kids to bed. He cannot follow us around or the kids get worked up and won’t go to sleep themselves. But he barks and barks. The only solution we’ve found is putting him in the backyard during bedtime so his barking is quieter, but I’m obviously being a terrible neighbor by doing that.

2. Dog goes to sleep in his crate in the family room at 11 pm. He wakes around 4 am and barks until we come down at 6. It’s terrible. We’re not sleeping. DH and I are fighting. My kids are exhausted. Everyone says “just have him in your room” but we ALSO have a 3 year old who comes into our room at night and I’m worried about the 3 year old making the dog bark, or being too playful at night, etc. Al see I long term I know I’ll feel less resentful and of the dog if he sleeps downstairs.

What do I do???? I asked the vet and she didn’t seem to care. I feel like my mental health is at stake. This dog cannot keep barking at 4 am (and being a pain during bedtime).

PLEASE help!

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like this is my future, complete with the three year old who LOVES coming into our room at night! Our standard poodle is only 9 weeks (we just got her yesterday) and obviously we are very early into crate-training, potty training, all the training. She's quite content to be in the same room as us, but she whines and barks a lot in the crate and her pen. If we leave the house she settles in the crate okay, but if she knows we're here she whimpers and barks. We are also going to try to keep her only on the main level and not let her upstairs in bedrooms or in basement where all the kid toys live. I know I need to stay consistent for this long road ahead of us, but it's really daunting.

Obviously she wouldn’t be unsupervised but I’m curious as to why you don’t want her on any other level of your home. When ours was a puppy we had crates on different levels. So at night she was in her crate in our bedroom. She felt near us and we could hear her if she needed to go to the bathroom.

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Not OP. People like you are so annoying. You have no training with dogs, but own one, so you think you know everything. Our breeder stated in the contract that the dog must be crate trained. You are Anthropomorphizing - the crate is not like a prison cell to dogs! Talk to any trainer. And stop being so self righteous.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t believe in crating dogs, just like I don’t believe in CIO. Just because we in the developed world do things for our own convenience doesn’t make them right.
You should have never gotten a dog with 3 young kids imo. Involve your dog in your life. It’s cruel to train someone to like their prison cell.