This thread reminds me of an interaction I had with my mom in the 80's

We were in Montgomery Mall walking behind another mom and daughter. The daughter had blue hair.

My mom said "did you see that"
I said, "you mean that mom and daughter who are holding hands"
My mom said, "Oh i meant the blue hair, who let's their daughter do that"
I said, "I guess a mom who holds hands"

I was 7 of 9 kids, I can't think of a time my mom held my hand or even hugged me actually. LOL blue hair was her concern.

My nephew also wore a dress to homecoming, and I'd be happy this kid had the love and support to be whoever he needs to be in this moment.

What kind of tutu? My K girl wears a tutu constantly but it's not the stiff kind, it's the 8-12' soft tutus.

I wouldn't care about this guy wearing it. As long as he has real leggings/pants underneath and not tights.

The divine Billy Porter:

MS DD wouldn’t give it a second thought. I’m a NY transplant, and it would are way more than a boy in a tutu to make me care.

That sounds very middle school. Many wear crazy things. Your daughter will see a lot more that is farther out there than a tutu. It settles down in high school. It has less to do with gender and more to do with the middle school age.

I would often think groups of students were in costumes of various themes for a play when I would see them after school and my kid would tell me that’s just how they dressed.

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Anonymous wrote:Middle school boy wearing pink tutu to school as a regular outfit. Thoughts?

I'm laughing out loud and so will everyone else. Just prepare your little princess for that reaction.

Only immature, overgrown adolescents.

Anonymous wrote:Seeking attention and likely enabled by his parents.

+1

Last year in middle school, one of my daughters male friends wore a corset and stripper heels to school. They all thought it was super funny and fun. I mean he’s gay, but I find this generation is super open about that stuff. The stigma of boys needing to be super masculine or they are made fun of for being “gay” just isn’t a big thing. Boys are more affectionate with each other too, in friendship, more like how girls have been with each other. It’s interesting

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am curious how this is different than students who wear, say, cat ears?

It’s middle school. Some are clinging to their childhood still. Others are trying to shock adults. They’re all trying on identities.

As an adult our job is to give them the safe space to let them do this stuff without judgment. They will grow out of it.

Or become the next Billy Porter. Either way, fine.

I don’t know what that means.

https://pagesix.com/2023/01/10/billy-porter-resurrects-tuxedo-gown-at-the-golden-globes-2023/

Seeking attention and likely enabled by his parents.

If there is a uniform, not fine. If there is no uniform, fine.

Anonymous wrote:I've lived in San Francisco a long time apparently - I had to read this twice to try to figure out what the problem is. DD had a friend wear a onesie to school every day for a month. Kids would wear a cape or a tail. Nobody cares here. It's okay to be weird, and self-expression is fine as long as it doesn't endorse violence, drugs, or hate speech.

But even you recognize that it's "weird." Why encourage someone to dress in a way that will ultimately result in teasing?

Anonymous wrote:If he doesn't care, why do you?

Exactly. Some nut job mom really cares to post this?

Anonymous wrote:Middle school boy wearing pink tutu to school as a regular outfit. Thoughts?

Insecure parent at home needs attention.

So many of us are F’d up because we never got a chance to be who we wanted to be. Life is short, wear the tutu.