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Anonymous wrote:Yes money provides so much.

Where does it fall on your list of priorities? If you have money is it important that you let other people know by material things? Do you assume people are jealous of you?

It seems like many responses point to money money money being the driving factor.

It falls very high on my list of priorities, as you could argue our entire society was built on money and its acquisition.

My DH and I are very comfortable (but not rich) and I don’t do anything to show this off to the world. We do take nice vacations but otherwise I shop mostly at Target, TJ Maxx etc. We share a car and it’s not a luxury brand. We live in a good school district and our kids go to public.

I don’t assume anyone is jealous of me because that’s not how I see the world.

You’re very comfortable but get clothes from Target? Is it to save money or because you don’t care about clothing brands? Not trying to be judgmental, just genuinely curious. Once I made more money I bought nicer clothes since it’s not a big cost in the greater scheme of things anyways.

Target provides a pretty good value considering how poor the quality of expensive clothing is at this point. People compliment my clothes all the time and it’s often my pieces from target.

+1. Target, TJ Maxx, Costco. I found that once we had a significant amount of money, I know longer care if people know. I carry a $25 no-name purse for TJ Maxx and drive an minivan, and it’s not knew. Buying stuff isn’t the thrill it once was.

Just curious how much is a significant amount of money? My mom used to buy me clothes from TJ Maxx all the time as a kid and I don’t think I can ever fo back there because I can’t help but associate it with either being poor or super frugal…

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Anonymous wrote:Yes money provides so much.

Where does it fall on your list of priorities? If you have money is it important that you let other people know by material things? Do you assume people are jealous of you?

It seems like many responses point to money money money being the driving factor.

It falls very high on my list of priorities, as you could argue our entire society was built on money and its acquisition.

My DH and I are very comfortable (but not rich) and I don’t do anything to show this off to the world. We do take nice vacations but otherwise I shop mostly at Target, TJ Maxx etc. We share a car and it’s not a luxury brand. We live in a good school district and our kids go to public.

I don’t assume anyone is jealous of me because that’s not how I see the world.

You’re very comfortable but get clothes from Target? Is it to save money or because you don’t care about clothing brands? Not trying to be judgmental, just genuinely curious. Once I made more money I bought nicer clothes since it’s not a big cost in the greater scheme of things anyways.

Target provides a pretty good value considering how poor the quality of expensive clothing is at this point. People compliment my clothes all the time and it’s often my pieces from target.

+1. Target, TJ Maxx, Costco. I found that once we had a significant amount of money, I know longer care if people know. I carry a $25 no-name purse for TJ Maxx and drive an minivan, and it’s not knew. Buying stuff isn’t the thrill it once was.

Very important. Security, freedom, opportunities for ourselves and children.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes money provides so much.

Where does it fall on your list of priorities? If you have money is it important that you let other people know by material things? Do you assume people are jealous of you?

It seems like many responses point to money money money being the driving factor.

It falls very high on my list of priorities, as you could argue our entire society was built on money and its acquisition.

My DH and I are very comfortable (but not rich) and I don’t do anything to show this off to the world. We do take nice vacations but otherwise I shop mostly at Target, TJ Maxx etc. We share a car and it’s not a luxury brand. We live in a good school district and our kids go to public.

I don’t assume anyone is jealous of me because that’s not how I see the world.

You’re very comfortable but get clothes from Target? Is it to save money or because you don’t care about clothing brands? Not trying to be judgmental, just genuinely curious. Once I made more money I bought nicer clothes since it’s not a big cost in the greater scheme of things anyways.

Target provides a pretty good value considering how poor the quality of expensive clothing is at this point. People compliment my clothes all the time and it’s often my pieces from target.

In 2012, freshmen prioritizing being “very well-off financially” peaked at 81 percent, the highest that number has been in the survey’s history.

The latest (2019) survey has this being a high priority for 83.8% of survey takers.

From a 2013 article - I wonder if the response now is even higher!

Across the board, people are increasingly sacrificing their personal relationships for the pursuit of wealth. The American Freshman survey has been tracking the values of college students since the mid-1960s. The survey is a good barometer of social and cultural change and it shows how far we've come in prioritizing material values over social ones. In 1965, college freshman said that “starting a family” and “helping others” were more important life goals than being “very well off financially.” By the eighties, it was the reverse: “helping others” and “starting a family” were less important to college freshman than making a lot of money. In 2012, freshmen prioritizing being “very well-off financially” peaked at 81 percent, the highest that number has been in the survey’s history.


“My gut says making more money will make me happier,” Lieberman writes in the book, “but my gut is wrong … The more individuals endorse materialism as a positive life value, the less happy they are with their lives.”

https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2013/10/social-connection-makes-a-better-brain/280934/

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Anonymous wrote:Yes money provides so much.

Where does it fall on your list of priorities? If you have money is it important that you let other people know by material things? Do you assume people are jealous of you?

It seems like many responses point to money money money being the driving factor.

Money is very high on my list because I come from a poor family. I'm the first one in my family to go to college.
I have escaped poverty and I now consider myself UMC.
I have experienced growing up that rich people are treated with more respect. The poor are ignored and disrespected.
I buy expensive things to let other people know that I have money. Everywhere I go, I'm more respected and I'm getting better services because of it.

Are you a minority? Because I'm a waspy looking white woman and I do NOT buy expensive things (although I maintain a very neat and tidy appearance) and do not find I am lacking respect or services.

Not PP, but I do think minorities, especially Latinos and African Americans, wouldn’t have the same customer service experience across the board that you take for granted. I think sometimes minorities are racially profiled as shoplifting risks, etc. if it doesn’t appear like they are wealthy.

Yes, I’m AA and I an always deliberate about looking put together and stealth wealth signaling so that I get better/acceptable treatment. And it’s true, I’ve had (white) people go from not acknowledging me to asking me out to eat once they see a Bottega Veneta purse, or learning where I went to school, etc. it’s gross that it makes a difference, but it does.

Curious, how do you practice stealth wealth and look put together / wear a Bottega Veneta purse -- which I assume is expensive since you're mentioning the name. Sounds like a contradiction.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes money provides so much.

Where does it fall on your list of priorities? If you have money is it important that you let other people know by material things? Do you assume people are jealous of you?

It seems like many responses point to money money money being the driving factor.

Money is very high on my list because I come from a poor family. I'm the first one in my family to go to college.
I have escaped poverty and I now consider myself UMC.
I have experienced growing up that rich people are treated with more respect. The poor are ignored and disrespected.
I buy expensive things to let other people know that I have money. Everywhere I go, I'm more respected and I'm getting better services because of it.

Are you a minority? Because I'm a waspy looking white woman and I do NOT buy expensive things (although I maintain a very neat and tidy appearance) and do not find I am lacking respect or services.

Yes, that is your privilege. Not all of us are so fortunate.

You do not get respect. You are flashy and look silly. DP here.

I grew up poor, around money - and money whispers. Brand names are to be worn inside the clothing, not outside. And 6" claws look like you are blowing money where you can't afford it, even if you can.

Since you brought it up. Not everyone has the privileges you think they do. Those that actually do have the privileges do not have to shout it - literally or figuratively.

I know plenty of very, very poor blonde white women who are the first in their family to go to college, but received zero scholarship money because they were white. It might not be your idea of the norm, but it happens. Be careful who you stereotype.

Money is freedom.

Anonymous wrote:When I was a kid I really wanted to grow up and be "rich". I ended up going to law school and getting a job at a top tier law firm and making what I considered to be a ton of money at 25. I thought I had made it onto the road to riches. Then I realized how much it sucked to grind it out at a firm. All nighters, insane levels of stress, people who lived and breathed their jobs. I realized that's not what I wanted, and I would happily forego the opportunity to be "rich" if it meant I could be happier. I quit the firm and found an in-house job where I make less but am much more content with my life.

Money isn't everything.

This is what ex big law firm lawyers say when it’s clear that they weren’t on partner track.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes money provides so much.

Where does it fall on your list of priorities? If you have money is it important that you let other people know by material things? Do you assume people are jealous of you?

It seems like many responses point to money money money being the driving factor.

Money is very high on my list because I come from a poor family. I'm the first one in my family to go to college.
I have escaped poverty and I now consider myself UMC.
I have experienced growing up that rich people are treated with more respect. The poor are ignored and disrespected.
I buy expensive things to let other people know that I have money. Everywhere I go, I'm more respected and I'm getting better services because of it.

Are you a minority? Because I'm a waspy looking white woman and I do NOT buy expensive things (although I maintain a very neat and tidy appearance) and do not find I am lacking respect or services.

Yes I'm a minority. Minorities with money are generally treated with more respect and consideration in our society.
There is a correlation between racism, discrimination and poverty.
Minorities from rich countries are more welcomed and treated better than minorities from poor countries. People like people with money.
Society associates poor with being lazy, incapable, dumb, bad, whereas rich is associated with being smart, competent, hard working, good.

Money is everything.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes money provides so much.

Where does it fall on your list of priorities? If you have money is it important that you let other people know by material things? Do you assume people are jealous of you?

It seems like many responses point to money money money being the driving factor.

It falls very high on my list of priorities, as you could argue our entire society was built on money and its acquisition.

My DH and I are very comfortable (but not rich) and I don’t do anything to show this off to the world. We do take nice vacations but otherwise I shop mostly at Target, TJ Maxx etc. We share a car and it’s not a luxury brand. We live in a good school district and our kids go to public.

I don’t assume anyone is jealous of me because that’s not how I see the world.

You’re very comfortable but get clothes from Target? Is it to save money or because you don’t care about clothing brands? Not trying to be judgmental, just genuinely curious. Once I made more money I bought nicer clothes since it’s not a big cost in the greater scheme of things anyways.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes money provides so much.

Where does it fall on your list of priorities? If you have money is it important that you let other people know by material things? Do you assume people are jealous of you?

It seems like many responses point to money money money being the driving factor.

Money is very high on my list because I come from a poor family. I'm the first one in my family to go to college.
I have escaped poverty and I now consider myself UMC.
I have experienced growing up that rich people are treated with more respect. The poor are ignored and disrespected.
I buy expensive things to let other people know that I have money. Everywhere I go, I'm more respected and I'm getting better services because of it.

Are you a minority? Because I'm a waspy looking white woman and I do NOT buy expensive things (although I maintain a very neat and tidy appearance) and do not find I am lacking respect or services.

Not PP, but I do think minorities, especially Latinos and African Americans, wouldn’t have the same customer service experience across the board that you take for granted. I think sometimes minorities are racially profiled as shoplifting risks, etc. if it doesn’t appear like they are wealthy.

Yes, I’m AA and I an always deliberate about looking put together and stealth wealth signaling so that I get better/acceptable treatment. And it’s true, I’ve had (white) people go from not acknowledging me to asking me out to eat once they see a Bottega Veneta purse, or learning where I went to school, etc. it’s gross that it makes a difference, but it does.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes money provides so much.

Where does it fall on your list of priorities? If you have money is it important that you let other people know by material things? Do you assume people are jealous of you?

It seems like many responses point to money money money being the driving factor.

Money is very high on my list because I come from a poor family. I'm the first one in my family to go to college.
I have escaped poverty and I now consider myself UMC.
I have experienced growing up that rich people are treated with more respect. The poor are ignored and disrespected.
I buy expensive things to let other people know that I have money. Everywhere I go, I'm more respected and I'm getting better services because of it.

Are you a minority? Because I'm a waspy looking white woman and I do NOT buy expensive things (although I maintain a very neat and tidy appearance) and do not find I am lacking respect or services.

Not PP, but I do think minorities, especially Latinos and African Americans, wouldn’t have the same customer service experience across the board that you take for granted. I think sometimes minorities are racially profiled as shoplifting risks, etc. if it doesn’t appear like they are wealthy.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes money provides so much.

Where does it fall on your list of priorities? If you have money is it important that you let other people know by material things? Do you assume people are jealous of you?

It seems like many responses point to money money money being the driving factor.

Money is very high on my list because I come from a poor family. I'm the first one in my family to go to college.
I have escaped poverty and I now consider myself UMC.
I have experienced growing up that rich people are treated with more respect. The poor are ignored and disrespected.
I buy expensive things to let other people know that I have money. Everywhere I go, I'm more respected and I'm getting better services because of it.

Are you a minority? Because I'm a waspy looking white woman and I do NOT buy expensive things (although I maintain a very neat and tidy appearance) and do not find I am lacking respect or services.

Yes, that is your privilege. Not all of us are so fortunate.