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Anonymous wrote:In my culture (white American midwestern) kids leave after HS and don’t come back typically. I want my house for hubby and me. They don’t wanna live here either. All are fine. In their low 30s, they paid cash for their new cars and own their own homes. With no help from us.,

Do you have any suggestions as to how people like me can get even with people like that?

they all graduated with no debt, got entry level jobs and worked hard, saved every penny they had, lived beneath means.

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Anonymous wrote:In my culture (white American midwestern) kids leave after HS and don’t come back typically. I want my house for hubby and me. They don’t wanna live here either. All are fine. In their low 30s, they paid cash for their new cars and own their own homes. With no help from us.,

Do you have any suggestions as to how people like me can get even with people like that?

Anonymous wrote:I have a 25 year old dd who is/can continue living at home until she sees fit to move out The only stipulations is that she pays for her own car, insurance cell phone and any other bills she may incur. But we do not charge her any rent or ask her to pay for food since she will save that money to use for when she decides to move out.

Anonymous wrote:A person who still lives at home after 35, is likely never going to leave. This board has helped me accept that my 20- and 22-year-old will be with me for a while. I was hoping to have an empty nest soon, but they are both male/late bloomers with limited drive to move out.

Anonymous wrote:In my culture (white American midwestern) kids leave after HS and don’t come back typically. I want my house for hubby and me. They don’t wanna live here either. All are fine. In their low 30s, they paid cash for their new cars and own their own homes. With no help from us.,

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Anonymous wrote:My son will turn 29 in one month. Still living here with us. Your short lived record.

+1. Mine is 30, finishing his PhD and saving most of his earnings. He will move out after graduation with a nice nest egg.

He may be better off financially, but being independent, capable of caring for yourself on your own, etc, are great qualities in a man. I would hate to date someone in their 30’s that has not lived on their own.

Anonymous wrote:My parents were going to charge me rent and keep strict tabs on my whereabouts if I lived with them after college so I got out FAST. Now my mother regrets it because my sister and I both ended up moving far away to "have an adventure" and moved in with guys (who we ended up marrying but she would have liked us to marry local boys.)
My cousin in his mid 30s lives with his parents and they make his life VERY comfortable...but he keeps gaining weight and never leaves the house since he works from home. I'm not sure what the best course of action is.

Anonymous wrote:mine is 30. she told me that she is coming to live with me if she gets laid off on wednesday. yippee!

Anonymous wrote:Not only would you be doing them a great favor, but you'd be doing me a great favor as well. You see, I'd wanted to live on my own since I was 19. But everybody who I asked to help me with that said I would have to get my undergrad degree before I could get a stable enough job. When I finally had my degree at 22, I was glad that it looked like I was apparently about to live on my own, albeit later than I had been hoping. But that still wasn't good enough. Everyone then told me I would have to get a Master's Degree. The only problem is, I didn't have a way to pay for grad school on my own, and everyone I talked to said that their parents didn't help them through grad school. Not wanting to suffer the humiliation of being the only student in college history to have their graduate education paid for by their parents, I kept snatching at job after job, hoping I could just forget about my education and start living on my own anyway. I wasn't offered a job that allowed me to do this until I was 28. As of now, I am probably the oldest person in history to move out of my parents' house into my own house. If you allow your children to stay with you until they're 29, they'll have broken my record, and I will no longer bear the humiliation of being the oldest person to have lived at home. Wouldn't it make you feel good knowing you were helping a complete stranger?

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Anonymous wrote:My parents were going to charge me rent and keep strict tabs on my whereabouts if I lived with them after college so I got out FAST.

Like I said, I wanted to move out "FAST" too. However, the career at my university didn't help me very much when I asked them to help me get any job appropriate for my degree that would help me get started in life. You were lucky that you were able to get a stable job right away.

Anonymous wrote:DD will continue to live with us for free and sock away her earnings into retirement and investment accounts.

No student debt for undergrad and grad. We have also paid for her car. She has full use of our credit card until the day she gets married. We will of course pay for her wedding. She will get married with a good nest egg. Anyways, we want her to have a solid launch into an UMC-adjacent lifestyle with her SO. No yo-yo launching. That is how generational wealth is created.