Anonymous wrote:When my son was in kindergarten at an Alexandria City public school he walked home from the bus stop with some kids in 5th or 6th grade. One day he said to me: What's a f***ing n**ger?

He had heard one kid call another that.

I took him out of that school.

He's an adult now and pretty much never uses profanity.

Reported for being a loser

Lol, you started a thread on this?

Say this is your 1st child without saying this is your 1st child.

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Anonymous wrote:Could be worse. My second grader learned the N word.

Like everyone else said, just say it's a bad word that he is not to use.

My kid did report the kid that used the N word though.

How did they know it was a word worthy of being reported?

PP here. He had told us that evening that he learned the N word, and we asked him to tell us what it was. He'd previously come home saying he knew the N word, but it turned out to be "nincompoop". When we realized he knew the actual N word now we talked about how serious that is and that it's not a word he can ever use. We didn't talk about reporting it, but his bus was late the next day and I guess the vice principal was hanging around and he decided to tell her.

My son's 5th grade teacher talked about the difference between rude curse words (all the old standbys) and "words that hurt people's souls" like the N word. He told the kids that it's rude, but not the end of the world to use the rude curse words, but that those other words are to never ever be used. I liked that differentiation to help children understand the power of words in general, and "bad words" vs truly evil words.

I think I read your anecdote on here about that before. I'm the PP and I tried that but my 2nd grader didn't "get it". I think he's too young. I like it as a concept, though, and will keep it in my pocket for when they're older. But we explained that it's a word that people have used against Black people and that it's much worse than a rude word like the F or S words. We're Jewish, so I've talked about people using certain words to bring you down and wrongly make themselves feel "better" than you vs. rude words.

We explain very matter-of-factly that bad words are just words. We don't give them any power. We explain what they "mean" (a lot of bad words have very different meanings and situations!) and their intent. I also found this helpful recently: https://www.instagram.com/p/CnIv91_uZg_/

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Anonymous wrote:Could be worse. My second grader learned the N word.

Like everyone else said, just say it's a bad word that he is not to use.

My kid did report the kid that used the N word though.

How did they know it was a word worthy of being reported?

PP here. He had told us that evening that he learned the N word, and we asked him to tell us what it was. He'd previously come home saying he knew the N word, but it turned out to be "nincompoop". When we realized he knew the actual N word now we talked about how serious that is and that it's not a word he can ever use. We didn't talk about reporting it, but his bus was late the next day and I guess the vice principal was hanging around and he decided to tell her.

My son's 5th grade teacher talked about the difference between rude curse words (all the old standbys) and "words that hurt people's souls" like the N word. He told the kids that it's rude, but not the end of the world to use the rude curse words, but that those other words are to never ever be used. I liked that differentiation to help children understand the power of words in general, and "bad words" vs truly evil words.

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Anonymous wrote:Could be worse. My second grader learned the N word.

Like everyone else said, just say it's a bad word that he is not to use.

My kid did report the kid that used the N word though.

How did they know it was a word worthy of being reported?

PP here. He had told us that evening that he learned the N word, and we asked him to tell us what it was. He'd previously come home saying he knew the N word, but it turned out to be "nincompoop". When we realized he knew the actual N word now we talked about how serious that is and that it's not a word he can ever use. We didn't talk about reporting it, but his bus was late the next day and I guess the vice principal was hanging around and he decided to tell her.

Seriously? My kid learned that word when he was two years old, and at the same time learned not to say it. He's five now and has not uttered it since.

Anonymous wrote:His classmate taught it to him. Is this something I should bring up with the teacher?
My son keeps asking me why is it a bad word, what does it mean? I genuinely don’t know how to respond.

If it's any consolation, when I was in first grade I taught my fried to spell both the f-word and s-word, which he then wrote on his schoolwork. My point is he's in second grade, so he's probably the last person in the class to learn it at this point.

Anonymous wrote:Could be worse. My second grader learned the N word.

Like everyone else said, just say it's a bad word that he is not to use.

My kid did report the kid that used the N word though.

How did they know it was a word worthy of being reported?

Sounds about right. In another year or two someone will tell him what it means. It’s shocking with your first.

Yes we say it and out child knows how and when to use it. Or not use it. My kid came home from school and asked about the N word- far bigger fish to fry.

Could be worse. My second grader learned the N word.

Like everyone else said, just say it's a bad word that he is not to use.

My kid did report the kid that used the N word though.

Anonymous wrote:Bless your heart

Exactly. My 7 year old has known it for awhile but knows it’s a grown up word and she’s not allowed to say it. It’s really not a big deal.

Alana F. taught me the word *ss*ole in first grade. I didn't grow up to become a prostitute or worse, a Trump supporter, or anything horrible like that. He'll live. Tell him it's a word ONLY for grownups and even grownups only say it rarely. Tell him to drop the issue if he brings it up again.

It’s a word. It’s not a big deal. Just tell him it’s very rude and if he says it in front of other kids, the parents are less likely to invite him over, if he says it at school, he will get in trouble, etc. Don’t make it a bigger deal than it is.

This reminds me though, of my sweet little boy telling daddy (in a hushed voice) that I said the “C word.” This is not actually a word that I say. I asked him to repeat it “No, honey, you won’t get in trouble, just tell me.” Finally, he whispers “You said we have to clean up all this crap.” Lol.