Anonymous
11/25/2022 20:50
Subject: Re:Relative came to thanksgiving with a cold.
Anonymous wrote:There was a thread on here a few weeks ago that basically said that people have become terrified and hateful toward people who are sick and that's what this is.
People get colds! People have been catching colds in November and spreading them around at Thanksgiving and other holiday gatherings basically since the beginning of holidays. The idea that a person with a head cold should confine themselves to their home and not leave the house unless wearing a K95 and sweatshirt that says "INFECTED, KEEP YOUR DISTANCE" is new and due to the rampant health anxiety from the pandemic.
If you don't want you family to risk getting sick during Thanksgiving, go ahead and stay home. And then your kids can get their colds three days later when they catch it from people at school who did attend Thanksgiving gatherings. No one wants to get sick but mild illness is a part of life unless you want to become a shut in. Best of luck with that.
Getting someone sick for a week is really crummy. Guess we have you to thank.
Anonymous
11/25/2022 20:49
Subject: Relative came to thanksgiving with a cold.
Its crummy but you have to expect selfish people to do that.
Anonymous
11/25/2022 20:39
Subject: Relative came to thanksgiving with a cold.
People who show up to things sick are selfish a-holes.
Anonymous
11/25/2022 20:36
Subject: Relative came to thanksgiving with a cold.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Your kids probably got the cold from their classmates ore-thanksgivibg break; incubation of 2-4 days, symptoms now.
Find another scapegoat and unclench
The baby is not in school and no one else is sick. I’m not clenched- my spouse is and I’m wondering what the line is.
Does it matter "what the line is"? ^^
You and your spouse have already made up your mind, vented about it to each othet, and now subtly holding a grudge and self righteous.
You even said it wasn't anything super bad like notorious, flu, covid, or the like. So, stop everything bc someone has a head cold?
Well, that’s what I’m asking. I haven’t made up my mind. But I do think the sick guest shouldn’t be the one deciding without telling others.
Yes, you have. Re-read your obnoxious OP. You’re accusing your inlaw of downplaying how they felt. They had a cold. They likely felt well enough to attend or they wouldn’t have come. That’s not downplaying symptoms. If you don’t want your kids exposed to colds, don’t leave your house until next May.
+1 It’s laughable that OP is trying to say she hasn’t “made up my mind.”
Maybe you can convince yourself of this, OP. But the rest of us see you loud and clear.
What’s to see loud and clear? That i have the opinion that it’s inconsiderate to gather with immediate family without telling them you’re sick beforehand? So no one can make their own decisions?
I’m not sure if it’s reasonable for people to attend thanksgiving with colds. I see it both ways. But it’s certainly selfish to not even disclose it until you arrive. I’m guessing you and the PP are like this.
Well you claimed you hadn’t made up your mind when you clearly had. At least now you’re being honest and admitting you have. You’re just pissy that everyone is jumping on the bandwagon calling your in-law selfish.
You knew this person was sick and continued to spend tine with then, including staying the night. That’s on you that your kid is now sick.
First, PP, you seem terrible. Second, the sick person should leave (or better yet, not attend). Other people shouldn't be expected to leave to avoid the sick person. That's obviously nonsense. It's crazy how tribalism has so completely overtaken the brains of the stop-acting-like-Covid-exists people. Sick people were expected to stay home even before the pandemic. No one wants your germs.
Where are the "stop acting like Covid exists" people? OP said this person took a Covid test and was negative. Presumably if they were positive they would have stayed home. So this is a world where Covid exists but ALSO no every illness is Covid or requires the same level of precaution. This isn't tribalism and no one here is a pro-Trump, MAGA touting, anti-vaccine, anti-mask, Covid denier. I know it's hard to wrap your head around this, but you are actually the one behaving in a tribal way by assuming that all "right thinking" people agree with you even though you have taken an extreme position.
Anonymous
11/25/2022 20:32
Subject: Re:Relative came to thanksgiving with a cold.
There was a thread on here a few weeks ago that basically said that people have become terrified and hateful toward people who are sick and that's what this is.
People get colds! People have been catching colds in November and spreading them around at Thanksgiving and other holiday gatherings basically since the beginning of holidays. The idea that a person with a head cold should confine themselves to their home and not leave the house unless wearing a K95 and sweatshirt that says "INFECTED, KEEP YOUR DISTANCE" is new and due to the rampant health anxiety from the pandemic.
If you don't want you family to risk getting sick during Thanksgiving, go ahead and stay home. And then your kids can get their colds three days later when they catch it form people at school who did attend Thanksgiving gatherings. No one wants to get sick but mild illness is a part of life unless you want to become a shut in. Best of luck with that.
People get colds! People have been catching colds in November and spreading them around at Thanksgiving and other holiday gatherings basically since the beginning of holidays. The idea that a person with a head cold should confine themselves to their home and not leave the house unless wearing a K95 and sweatshirt that says "INFECTED, KEEP YOUR DISTANCE" is new and due to the rampant health anxiety from the pandemic.
If you don't want you family to risk getting sick during Thanksgiving, go ahead and stay home. And then your kids can get their colds three days later when they catch it form people at school who did attend Thanksgiving gatherings. No one wants to get sick but mild illness is a part of life unless you want to become a shut in. Best of luck with that.
Anonymous
11/25/2022 20:30
Subject: Relative came to thanksgiving with a cold.
Anonymous wrote:Colds are so common. You can't expect everyone to stay home while they have a cold. That was never an expectation pre Covid and it shouldn't be one now. Flu, RSV, etc are different. [/quote
Rsv is a cold
Anonymous
11/25/2022 20:29
Subject: Relative came to thanksgiving with a cold.
Take some elderberry syrup, the old kind
Anonymous
11/25/2022 20:28
Subject: Relative came to thanksgiving with a cold.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Went to my parents for thanksgiving. My siblings and I all live relatively nearby but decided to stay over for a few nights to have everyone under one roof. My siblings spouse showed up sick saying they had a cold (they had covid recently and tested negative so it was confirmed not that.) two days later, my kids are now getting sick and my spouse and I are debating what the line should be. We agree it was obnoxious for this person to show underplaying how sick they were but on the other hand, 1. should someone sick with a cold (but functioning) miss thanksgiving for a cold? Obviously stay home if your very sick, or have covid, flu, rsv etc. - 2.but should it also be expected that we would be exposed to colds at a big holiday? Pandemic has really exacerbated the issue.
Relative also could have not slept over and just come for the meal.
1. No
2. Yes, especially during cold and flu season.
Based on your attitude, you had better ensure that at the start of any sniffle your kids have from now on results in a full quarantine for at least 3 weeks until the last cough is gone. So no school, no restaurants, no family, no friends, nothing.
+1
Anonymous
11/25/2022 20:06
Subject: Relative came to thanksgiving with a cold.
OP Our older kids were home along w/SO and my 6 and 2 yo nieces. On the gorgeous day yesterday a group of 5 including my 14yo drove together down to ice skate in Georgetown, we had dinner and stayed up late playing games and visiting. Close quarters all day. At very end of day 14yo asked for tea, woke up asking for COVID test and advil. Tested positive for flu instead (luckily ped open today. Tamiflu prescription and refills on arbuteral. Your relative may have infected you - or anyone else at the dinner without any notable symptoms. Our responsible choices are to - sure test for COVID as your relative did and as then weigh whether they’re likely well enough to visit and likely not actively ill. Choosing to attend these social events is a risk everyone takes. My kid was the picture of health and vitality yesterday. Guess we’ll know in 2-3 days if anyone else gets the flu but there was no apparent reason to expect they were a vector of germs.
Anonymous
11/25/2022 19:45
Subject: Relative came to thanksgiving with a cold.
Anonymous wrote:Colds are so common. You can't expect everyone to stay home while they have a cold. That was never an expectation pre Covid and it shouldn't be one now. Flu, RSV, etc are different.
Absolutely.
Anonymous
11/25/2022 19:44
Subject: Relative came to thanksgiving with a cold.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Your kids probably got the cold from their classmates ore-thanksgivibg break; incubation of 2-4 days, symptoms now.
Find another scapegoat and unclench
The baby is not in school and no one else is sick. I’m not clenched- my spouse is and I’m wondering what the line is.
Does it matter "what the line is"? ^^
You and your spouse have already made up your mind, vented about it to each othet, and now subtly holding a grudge and self righteous.
You even said it wasn't anything super bad like notorious, flu, covid, or the like. So, stop everything bc someone has a head cold?
Well, that’s what I’m asking. I haven’t made up my mind. But I do think the sick guest shouldn’t be the one deciding without telling others.
Yes, you have. Re-read your obnoxious OP. You’re accusing your inlaw of downplaying how they felt. They had a cold. They likely felt well enough to attend or they wouldn’t have come. That’s not downplaying symptoms. If you don’t want your kids exposed to colds, don’t leave your house until next May.
+1 It’s laughable that OP is trying to say she hasn’t “made up my mind.”
Maybe you can convince yourself of this, OP. But the rest of us see you loud and clear.
What’s to see loud and clear? That i have the opinion that it’s inconsiderate to gather with immediate family without telling them you’re sick beforehand? So no one can make their own decisions?
I’m not sure if it’s reasonable for people to attend thanksgiving with colds. I see it both ways. But it’s certainly selfish to not even disclose it until you arrive. I’m guessing you and the PP are like this.
Well you claimed you hadn’t made up your mind when you clearly had. At least now you’re being honest and admitting you have. You’re just pissy that everyone is jumping on the bandwagon calling your in-law selfish.
You knew this person was sick and continued to spend tine with then, including staying the night. That’s on you that your kid is now sick.
First, PP, you seem terrible. Second, the sick person should leave (or better yet, not attend). Other people shouldn't be expected to leave to avoid the sick person. That's obviously nonsense. It's crazy how tribalism has so completely overtaken the brains of the stop-acting-like-Covid-exists people. Sick people were expected to stay home even before the pandemic. No one wants your germs.
OP, colds have existed forever. No one needs to stay home for a cold that was true pre-pandemic and is still true post-pandemic. If you’re uncomfortable being around people with colds, you stay home.
Anonymous
11/25/2022 19:36
Subject: Relative came to thanksgiving with a cold.
Colds are so common. You can't expect everyone to stay home while they have a cold. That was never an expectation pre Covid and it shouldn't be one now. Flu, RSV, etc are different.
Anonymous
11/25/2022 19:27
Subject: Relative came to thanksgiving with a cold.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Your kids probably got the cold from their classmates ore-thanksgivibg break; incubation of 2-4 days, symptoms now.
Find another scapegoat and unclench
The baby is not in school and no one else is sick. I’m not clenched- my spouse is and I’m wondering what the line is.
Does it matter "what the line is"? ^^
You and your spouse have already made up your mind, vented about it to each othet, and now subtly holding a grudge and self righteous.
You even said it wasn't anything super bad like notorious, flu, covid, or the like. So, stop everything bc someone has a head cold?
Well, that’s what I’m asking. I haven’t made up my mind. But I do think the sick guest shouldn’t be the one deciding without telling others.
Yes, you have. Re-read your obnoxious OP. You’re accusing your inlaw of downplaying how they felt. They had a cold. They likely felt well enough to attend or they wouldn’t have come. That’s not downplaying symptoms. If you don’t want your kids exposed to colds, don’t leave your house until next May.
+1 It’s laughable that OP is trying to say she hasn’t “made up my mind.”
Maybe you can convince yourself of this, OP. But the rest of us see you loud and clear.
What’s to see loud and clear? That i have the opinion that it’s inconsiderate to gather with immediate family without telling them you’re sick beforehand? So no one can make their own decisions?
I’m not sure if it’s reasonable for people to attend thanksgiving with colds. I see it both ways. But it’s certainly selfish to not even disclose it until you arrive. I’m guessing you and the PP are like this.
Well you claimed you hadn’t made up your mind when you clearly had. At least now you’re being honest and admitting you have. You’re just pissy that everyone is jumping on the bandwagon calling your in-law selfish.
You knew this person was sick and continued to spend tine with then, including staying the night. That’s on you that your kid is now sick.
First, PP, you seem terrible. Second, the sick person should leave (or better yet, not attend). Other people shouldn't be expected to leave to avoid the sick person. That's obviously nonsense. It's crazy how tribalism has so completely overtaken the brains of the stop-acting-like-Covid-exists people. Sick people were expected to stay home even before the pandemic. No one wants your germs.
Anonymous
11/25/2022 19:23
Subject: Relative came to thanksgiving with a cold.
This is why we don't really like getting together with people these days. So many people with loose ideas of hygiene morals.
Anonymous
11/25/2022 19:21
Subject: Relative came to thanksgiving with a cold.
Anyone who is ill is rude not to mask indoors, other than while eating. That's it.