Wait, have you been invited to a baby shower? If not, disregard.

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Anonymous wrote:Tell her you want to double check and make sure you got the registry info correct because the one you looked at had a lot of items for girls, and see what her reaction is.

This is not the point of have etiquette norms. It's actually the exact opposite of why these things exist.

Etiquette norms are you register gifts for the baby to be. Not to get clothes for your older kids or decorate their bedrooms.

It’s a co-worker. Who cares?

She probably doesn’t want to get a bunch of crap from the TJ Maxx clearance rack like all her coworkers gave her last time. Truth is she’d rather have nothing, but created a registry to cut back on the items she then has to donate, trash, or try to exchange

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Anonymous wrote:OK, so coworker is having 3rd child. First two kids are under 4.

She has created a registry for gifts for 3rd child, a boy, and current registry has items which are for girls (pink sheets, flowery comforter, girls room decor) and other older toddler items. These things are clearly for her other kids.

Is this the new normal? Why would anyone buy gifts for her other two children when we already bought her gifts for them when they were born?

Having a registry for a third child is already beyond tacky, so why not go all the way?

So I think including things for her older kids is strange, but I think baby registries for each kid make things simple. I’ve gotten gifts off of registries for several friends having their second children. I don’t understand why it’s not tacky to have a registry for your first but it is for your second. I have zero issues with it. Simplifies gift giving and you know it’s something the people need/want, or will be able to return at their convenience if they change their mind.

This. People kept asking me about a registry for my second, so I made one. I think many people just want to help celebrate the good news (even if it’s the second time around) and I would rather they buy stuff that will actually be useful.

I have 3 kids and they all have wish lists. I never share with anyone. The purpose of a wish list is just a wish list. It could be for family members.

Telling coworkers is beyond tacky though. I didn’t invite any coworkers to my first shower and didn’t share registry info. I certainly would not share for a second or third child.

When I had my second, I put together a small registry so my mom would not buy me random crap. She still bought me random crap not off my registry. A few people asked if I had a registry, I mostly said no.

Anonymous wrote:Tell her you want to double check and make sure you got the registry info correct because the one you looked at had a lot of items for girls, and see what her reaction is.

This is not the point of have etiquette norms. It's actually the exact opposite of why these things exist.