Make sure there are all price points. But also, I hate to see cheap, crummy stuff on registries. Like dollar store spatulas. If I'm buying a gift, I want it to last for a few years.

I give registry gifts for showers, cash for weddings.

Also, all of you saying no gift cards- amazon and bed bath and beyond automatically put a gift card option at the top or bottom. It's not the couple putting it there.

Anonymous wrote:Depends on you and your community. I am from a middle class background, and a middle class friend of mine had a $450 wine decanter on their list. I thought that was kind of gross. If there was a $450 something that would be normal for it to cost that much, then I get it, but it made me roll my eyes for sure. Put a few basic kitchen or bath things you might need (no decorations), and everyone else will just give you cash. I think registries will be dead soon.

+1

Registries have been dead for some time.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When they have no registry and are basically asking for cash.

+1

Which is fune, if they have everything they need.

Exactly. I’m happy to give cash.

+1

Some people actually don't need more "stuff" - as great as you may think it is. But it for yourself!

Just have a range of prices, and keep an eye on it every so often so you can replenish if everything gets taken from a certain range. I think it's fine to do a mix of more fun and more serious things--older people are going to gravitate toward wanting to do something more "permanent" but that doesn't have to be china (if that isn't your thing).

Depends on you and your community. I am from a middle class background, and a middle class friend of mine had a $450 wine decanter on their list. I thought that was kind of gross. If there was a $450 something that would be normal for it to cost that much, then I get it, but it made me roll my eyes for sure. Put a few basic kitchen or bath things you might need (no decorations), and everyone else will just give you cash. I think registries will be dead soon.

Anonymous wrote:Having a “fund our honeymoon” thing, especially in addition to a full, traditional registry

+1! Yes!

Anonymous wrote:If you are a thirty year old who already owns your own home, it’s tacky. It’s also greedy. Am I invited because you want to share your special day or because you need a set of dishes? Sell tickets if that’s the case.

1) An invitation is an invitation, not a summons. If you don't want to attend a wedding of a 30+ yo, don't attend.
2) You can also choose to ignore the registry and give whatever you like, or give nothing at all (it would be tacky to not at least give them a card, you can purchase those for <$5). Others though, would like a little guidance on what to get the couple and appreciate having a registry available.

When they ask for money only or when it's their 2nd+ wedding and there's a registry.

Anonymous wrote:Registry isn’t tacky- it’s what people put in it that is. Yes to various price points. Stick to things needed by married couples. Omit obscenely expensive items or luxury honeymoon “add ons”

+1’and omit “cash grabs”

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When they have no registry and are basically asking for cash.

+1

Which is fune, if they have everything they need.

Exactly. I’m happy to give cash.

Anonymous wrote:Anything and everything. Seriously. You don't deserve presents just because you got married. You did nothing to earn them. It's not an accomplishment like getting a promotion or advanced degree.

You give gifts for a promotion or an advanced degree? Spending a few more years in school isn’t a great accomplishment either. Weddings are gift giving events. I like having an idea what the couple might like, but asking for cash or honeymoon fund is tacky.

Registry isn’t tacky- it’s what people put in it that is. Yes to various price points. Stick to things needed by married couples. Omit obscenely expensive items or luxury honeymoon “add ons”