Anonymous
Post 10/19/2022 13:04     Subject: Getting likely letter....wait until admission to tell people?
Anonymous wrote:I have one friend whose kid was recruited and signed early and she bragged about it SO HARD on social media for the kid's entire senior year.

Well, it was a disaster. Kid dropped out of the sport, transferred schools and is on a totally different path now. It seems better, but it took a year to get there.


Hardly a "disaster." These things -for athletes and nonathletes- happen all the time.
Anonymous
Post 10/19/2022 13:02     Subject: Getting likely letter....wait until admission to tell people?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What’s the urgency to out this on social media?


Tiger Mom is eager to brag to her friends.


Jealousy is ugly.

So what if she wants to brag? Good for her. It's an exhausting process and an accomplishment, esp. if it is a high academic school.
Anonymous
Post 10/19/2022 11:32     Subject: Getting likely letter....wait until admission to tell people?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It’s not your job to manage this for your kid. If it doesn’t work out he’ll learn a lesson.


I agree. It sounds like OP has already shared with her kid the potential downsides. It’s his decision.


Perhaps, but a parent can work on helping their child develop empathy and decency. This need to share so early will impact others who are stressing out.


OP here. Thank you, I agree. I will make this point to DS.
Anonymous
Post 10/19/2022 11:31     Subject: Getting likely letter....wait until admission to tell people?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It’s not your job to manage this for your kid. If it doesn’t work out he’ll learn a lesson.


I agree. It sounds like OP has already shared with her kid the potential downsides. It’s his decision.


Perhaps, but a parent can work on helping their child develop empathy and decency. This need to share so early will impact others who are stressing out.


This is idiotic. There is nothing heartless or indecent about posting good news about yourself. Other kids who are "stressing out" are in charge of their own feelings, no other kid is in charge of how these rejected/deferred kids feel.
Anonymous
Post 10/19/2022 11:27     Subject: Getting likely letter....wait until admission to tell people?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What’s the urgency to out this on social media?


OP here. I want DS to wait. DS sees other peer athletes filling social media now with "committed" posts and wants to follow suit.


My DCs D3 nescac coach said do not post this info until the acceptance is received.


OP here. Thank you. The likely letter puts it in a slightly different light, but I am with you.
Anonymous
Post 10/19/2022 11:25     Subject: Getting likely letter....wait until admission to tell people?
Anonymous wrote:Just wait till ED comes out--it packs more bang for the buck. I mean it's Amherst or Williams.


NESCAC doesn't do likely letters.
Anonymous
Post 10/19/2022 11:18     Subject: Re:Getting likely letter....wait until admission to tell people?
Seriously? Sh*t happens. Know one athlete who thought it was a done deal only to end up getting nixed when opening ED at home. Even parents were bewildered. Know another family with 3 kids who went through recruitment. You can believe that the third DC did not post until the ED was in hand...even though they had everything that your DC has. The parents told us, the kid told friends, but NOTHING was posted on social media until EDs were released.
Anonymous
Post 10/19/2022 10:55     Subject: Getting likely letter....wait until admission to tell people?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous[b wrote:]
Anonymous wrote:What’s the urgency to out this on social media?


OP here. I want DS to wait. DS sees other peer athletes filling social media now with "committed" posts and wants to follow suit.


My DCs D3 nescac coach said do not post this info until the acceptance is received.


Nescac doesn’t use likely letters.


No..but it is a high academic D3 league so maybe coach wants a similar approach.
Anonymous
Post 10/19/2022 10:49     Subject: Getting likely letter....wait until admission to tell people?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous[b wrote:]
Anonymous wrote:What’s the urgency to out this on social media?


OP here. I want DS to wait. DS sees other peer athletes filling social media now with "committed" posts and wants to follow suit.


My DCs D3 nescac coach said do not post this info until the acceptance is received.


Nescac doesn’t use likely letters.
Anonymous
Post 10/19/2022 10:49     Subject: Getting likely letter....wait until admission to tell people?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It’s not your job to manage this for your kid. If it doesn’t work out he’ll learn a lesson.


I agree. It sounds like OP has already shared with her kid the potential downsides. It’s his decision.


Perhaps, but a parent can work on helping their child develop empathy and decency. This need to share so early will impact others who are stressing out.
Anonymous
Post 10/19/2022 10:47     Subject: Re:Getting likely letter....wait until admission to tell people?
Anonymous wrote:When my DC got in HYPSM, they said they would like it to keep it confidential until May 1st. These early announcers create so much anxiety on other kids who get rejected/deferred. Have some decency.


x100000
Anonymous
Post 10/19/2022 10:46     Subject: Re:Getting likely letter....wait until admission to tell people?
This is what you do: post about it on social media, tag everyone you know who also has a DC who applied, and ask if they have heard anything.

(I actually know someone who did this.)
Anonymous
Post 10/19/2022 10:42     Subject: Getting likely letter....wait until admission to tell people?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What’s the urgency to out this on social media?


OP here. I want DS to wait. DS sees other peer athletes filling social media now with "committed" posts and wants to follow suit.


My DCs D3 nescac coach said do not post this info until the acceptance is received.

So I would ask the coach.
Anonymous
Post 10/19/2022 10:41     Subject: Getting likely letter....wait until admission to tell people?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What’s the urgency to out this on social media?


OP here. I want DS to wait. DS sees other peer athletes filling social media now with "committed" posts and wants to follow suit.


My DCs D3 nescac coach said do not post this info until the acceptance is received.
Anonymous
Post 10/19/2022 10:36     Subject: Getting likely letter....wait until admission to tell people?
Just wait till ED comes out--it packs more bang for the buck. I mean it's Amherst or Williams.