Anonymous
Post 10/20/2022 13:03     Subject: Son doesn't want to hang out with friend, feel guilty and awkward
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Anonymous wrote:Jesus effing Christ. Why do parents these days get involved in all their kids shit. Tell her your son has the freedom to choose whoever he wants to hang out with it and it is none of your business who he hangs out with as long as he is not getting in with the wrong crowd. And then tell her to stop being a helicopter parent. I would be mortified if my Mom was talking to another kids Mom about us not hanging out.


This goes on all the time when the parents are also close friends. Mom sees kid suffering and unhappy and she wants to fix it and meddles inappropriately. She just can't help herself.



+1 bummer that an 8th grader is dumping friends to hang out with gf and her friends (who apparently she did not dump). As your son was on the receiving end last year, surprised he would do this.


Didn’t you read the OP? Her son and his friend seem not to have much in common or anything to talk about. It’s ok to move on & expand friend circle! No need to feel guilty. Entirely normal. I would never tell my child they’re obligated to hang out without someone they don’t like. Best if the moms stay out of it.


Of course I did Stand by my point. Hope that when gf dumps the kid, he doesn't turn around and think friend was just waiting in the wings to be his friend again. We all knew girls like this growing up.


I’m sorry, I’m trying not to be offended on behalf of girls everywhere. What do you mean by “we all knew girls like this growing up?”
Anonymous
Post 10/20/2022 12:18     Subject: Re:Son doesn't want to hang out with friend, feel guilty and awkward
Didn’t you read the OP? Her son and his friend seem not to have much in common or anything to talk about. It’s ok to move on & expand friend circle! No need to feel guilty. Entirely normal. I would never tell my child they’re obligated to hang out without someone they don’t like. Best if the moms stay out of it.


Of course I did Stand by my point. Hope that when gf dumps the kid, he doesn't turn around and think friend was just waiting in the wings to be his friend again. We all knew girls like this growing up.


Not the PP, but the kid is 13. This may be a life lesson that he needs to learn by making a mistake, but that is ok and part of growing up.
Anonymous
Post 10/20/2022 11:57     Subject: Son doesn't want to hang out with friend, feel guilty and awkward
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Jesus effing Christ. Why do parents these days get involved in all their kids shit. Tell her your son has the freedom to choose whoever he wants to hang out with it and it is none of your business who he hangs out with as long as he is not getting in with the wrong crowd. And then tell her to stop being a helicopter parent. I would be mortified if my Mom was talking to another kids Mom about us not hanging out.


This goes on all the time when the parents are also close friends. Mom sees kid suffering and unhappy and she wants to fix it and meddles inappropriately. She just can't help herself.



+1 bummer that an 8th grader is dumping friends to hang out with gf and her friends (who apparently she did not dump). As your son was on the receiving end last year, surprised he would do this.


Didn’t you read the OP? Her son and his friend seem not to have much in common or anything to talk about. It’s ok to move on & expand friend circle! No need to feel guilty. Entirely normal. I would never tell my child they’re obligated to hang out without someone they don’t like. Best if the moms stay out of it.


Of course I did Stand by my point. Hope that when gf dumps the kid, he doesn't turn around and think friend was just waiting in the wings to be his friend again. We all knew girls like this growing up.
Anonymous
Post 10/20/2022 11:30     Subject: Re:Son doesn't want to hang out with friend, feel guilty and awkward
https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1086134.page#23511595

Is this the same OP?


No, my son is not about to turn 14 in November (he is super young for his grade), and that is not me. But thank you for linking it, it is helpful to see that others are going through similar things.