Anonymous
Post 09/25/2022 19:34     Subject: Re:Is it creepy to show up unannounced?
Anonymous wrote:OP here. I guess I messed things up permanently. I will just have to accept that. I don’t want to come off as a stalker or anything. I made a mistake by saying I wanted to end it. But we cannot bounce back from all mistakes.


You need therapy. You are extremely manipulative.
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2022 12:28     Subject: Re:Is it creepy to show up unannounced?
OP here. I guess I messed things up permanently. I will just have to accept that. I don’t want to come off as a stalker or anything. I made a mistake by saying I wanted to end it. But we cannot bounce back from all mistakes.
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2022 12:25     Subject: Is it creepy to show up unannounced?
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Anonymous wrote:So much of this depends on what the fight was about. If it has anything to do with them finding you overbearing or controlling, or if they have specifically asked for space, then do NOT do this, you will be violating the boundaries they’re worried about and validating their views, not improving them.


Fight was not about being controlling or overbearing. I told SO I wanted to end things in the heat of the moment, now they are not taking my calls.


That doesn’t sound like a good dynamic.


No it's not. Which is why I want to break it, and apologize.


Huh? You're bringing a gift to break up with them? Who was be accused of overbearing and controlling- you or your partner?


No she wants to break the dynamic. Not the relationship


Clearly she's not a good communicator!
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2022 12:23     Subject: Is it creepy to show up unannounced?
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:So much of this depends on what the fight was about. If it has anything to do with them finding you overbearing or controlling, or if they have specifically asked for space, then do NOT do this, you will be violating the boundaries they’re worried about and validating their views, not improving them.


Fight was not about being controlling or overbearing. I told SO I wanted to end things in the heat of the moment, now they are not taking my calls.


That doesn’t sound like a good dynamic.


No it's not. Which is why I want to break it, and apologize.


Huh? You're bringing a gift to break up with them? Who was be accused of overbearing and controlling- you or your partner?


No she wants to break the dynamic. Not the relationship
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2022 12:17     Subject: Re:Is it creepy to show up unannounced?


Okay, so you said you wanted to break up in a fit of pique AFTER a fight? Or were there angry words( complaints about behavior,etc) that lead up to your announcement? Maybe be quiet with yourself and reflect on this relationship rather than going into a panic about being alone and stalking him.
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2022 11:18     Subject: Is it creepy to show up unannounced?
Anonymous wrote:I would trash any breakup gift. Just move on.


+1 Adding drama to a situation that's already bad. Let it go, OP.
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2022 11:15     Subject: Is it creepy to show up unannounced?
I would trash any breakup gift. Just move on.
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2022 11:10     Subject: Is it creepy to show up unannounced?
Anonymous wrote:You should tell us what the fight was about because I am willing to bet if you shared it, we’d advise you to let him go, rather than apologize.


She clarified that she was going to go with gifts and break it off. Wierd IMO.
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2022 11:04     Subject: Is it creepy to show up unannounced?
You should tell us what the fight was about because I am willing to bet if you shared it, we’d advise you to let him go, rather than apologize.
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2022 11:02     Subject: Is it creepy to show up unannounced?
OP, do you feel that you were in the wrong? I’m just curious. Apologizing with a gift reflects that you feel that you were the guilty party.

How long have they been shutting you out? The way this went down doesn’t bode well for your relationship.
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2022 10:44     Subject: Is it creepy to show up unannounced?
Anonymous wrote:You’re impulsive. You said something you didn’t mean and now you want to go to her home when she clearly doesn’t want to speak to you.

Given what you said, you need to let her open the door to resuming the relationship. If she’s blocking you, you know where you stand. If she wanted to hear and apology from you she would take your call.


“Her”? “She”? Presumptuous, aren’t we? OP did not say male or female.
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2022 10:38     Subject: Re:Is it creepy to show up unannounced?
OP here. I got him some fancy headphones he lost a while ago and likes, and some of his favorite treats.
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2022 10:35     Subject: Is it creepy to show up unannounced?
Please quell my curiosity and tell us what gift you got him.
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2022 10:34     Subject: Is it creepy to show up unannounced?
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:So much of this depends on what the fight was about. If it has anything to do with them finding you overbearing or controlling, or if they have specifically asked for space, then do NOT do this, you will be violating the boundaries they’re worried about and validating their views, not improving them.


Fight was not about being controlling or overbearing. I told SO I wanted to end things in the heat of the moment, now they are not taking my calls.


That doesn’t sound like a good dynamic.


No it's not. Which is why I want to break it, and apologize.


Huh? You're bringing a gift to break up with them? Who was be accused of overbearing and controlling- you or your partner?
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2022 10:33     Subject: Is it creepy to show up unannounced?
Anonymous wrote:It's not creepy. But you should call or text first to see if it's ok.


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