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Anonymous wrote:I've read research that indicates that when parents divorce, kids lose approximately one full academic year's worth of achievement. I'm not sure if kids end up making up that loss later on or what.

Well my mother divorced 3 times by the time I was in college. I did just fine with As in my AP classes.

Something wrong with your mom.

No kidding, Sherlock.

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Anonymous wrote:I've read research that indicates that when parents divorce, kids lose approximately one full academic year's worth of achievement. I'm not sure if kids end up making up that loss later on or what.

Well my mother divorced 3 times by the time I was in college. I did just fine with As in my AP classes.

Something wrong with your mom.

Anonymous wrote:I've read research that indicates that when parents divorce, kids lose approximately one full academic year's worth of achievement. I'm not sure if kids end up making up that loss later on or what.

Well my mother divorced 3 times by the time I was in college. I did just fine with As in my AP classes.

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Anonymous wrote:My kids are in MS and HS and it’s still an incredibly small number. At higher income and education levels, divorce is just not that common.

It’s still 30% lifetime divorce rate at high income and education levels. It’s pretty much a myth that it doesn’t happen at certain income levels.

A chunk of those divorces are starter marriages before kids, which wouldn't be known by casual acquaintances. Another chunk are divorces once kids are grown and out of the house. So it's not 30% of school aged kids with divorced parents.

Among the dcum demographic empty nester divorces are huge.

A couple I’m friends with just announced they’re divorcing …right after dropping their youngest off at college

I've read research that indicates that when parents divorce, kids lose approximately one full academic year's worth of achievement. I'm not sure if kids end up making up that loss later on or what.

If your kids are going to be messed-up by divorce -- it doesn't matter, in the least, that others too are divorced.

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Anonymous wrote:If you’re divorced at early elementary age, you’re an idiot.

This is just such a stupid comment I don’t even know what to say. To not understand the real life conditions that make divorce imperative, you have to have a really narrow and ignorant understanding of the world. And then to be called an idiot by this kind of person? You have no clue. You really have no clue what people have gone through, and I think it’s pretty close to evil for you to suggest that people are “idiots.”

No, I agree they would be idiots.

Well congrats on being completely devoid of empathy. Good luck to your children, sounds like they’re going to be good, kind people. Let me guess- you’re a churchgoer too?

NP. Pot calling kettle. Let me guess, you’re a church-goer too.

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Anonymous wrote:My kids are in MS and HS and it’s still an incredibly small number. At higher income and education levels, divorce is just not that common.

It’s still 30% lifetime divorce rate at high income and education levels. It’s pretty much a myth that it doesn’t happen at certain income levels.

I think housing costs play a part in why there aren’t many divorced families in Arlington (I’ve met very few myself) If I got divorced I’d have to move to far out Fairfax county

We have a set of apartment buildings in bounds for our APS elementary and nearly every kid whose parents divorce seems to have a parent move there to stay in bounds and avoid disruption to their kids.

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Anonymous wrote:My kids are in MS and HS and it’s still an incredibly small number. At higher income and education levels, divorce is just not that common.

It’s still 30% lifetime divorce rate at high income and education levels. It’s pretty much a myth that it doesn’t happen at certain income levels.

A chunk of those divorces are starter marriages before kids, which wouldn't be known by casual acquaintances. Another chunk are divorces once kids are grown and out of the house. So it's not 30% of school aged kids with divorced parents.

When my oldest was in K, we only knew one divorced family. Now he is in 3rd and we know 6 or 8 divorced families - almost all split during 2020/2021. Who knows if the pandemic hastened things given all the togetherness of quarantine.

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Anonymous wrote:If you’re divorced at early elementary age, you’re an idiot.

This is just such a stupid comment I don’t even know what to say. To not understand the real life conditions that make divorce imperative, you have to have a really narrow and ignorant understanding of the world. And then to be called an idiot by this kind of person? You have no clue. You really have no clue what people have gone through, and I think it’s pretty close to evil for you to suggest that people are “idiots.”

No, I agree they would be idiots.

Well congrats on being completely devoid of empathy. Good luck to your children, sounds like they’re going to be good, kind people. Let me guess- you’re a churchgoer too?

No, most likely they have a Ukraine flag on their house with a sign in the front yard that says "In this house we believe..." while force masking their child to school everyday

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Anonymous wrote:My kids are in MS and HS and it’s still an incredibly small number. At higher income and education levels, divorce is just not that common.

It’s still 30% lifetime divorce rate at high income and education levels. It’s pretty much a myth that it doesn’t happen at certain income levels.

I think housing costs play a part in why there aren’t many divorced families in Arlington (I’ve met very few myself) If I got divorced I’d have to move to far out Fairfax county

It’s an odd question - could’ve been phrased a whole lot better. But some of the responses are indeed devoid of empathy.

In this area, where I have lived for 12 years, I have only known one couple to divorce. It isn’t as common here because people tend to marry and have children later and have higher incomes and levels of education, all factors that decrease the likelihood of divorce. So, it’s incredibly possible your kids will get through all of elementary and never have peers whose parents divorce. Regardless, I agree that there’s something tasteless about asking “how long til other kids’ families split up so I don’t have to feel like the only one.” You would absolutely know divorce is not easy on anyone and wishing it on others is … weird.

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Anonymous wrote:If you’re divorced at early elementary age, you’re an idiot.

This is just such a stupid comment I don’t even know what to say. To not understand the real life conditions that make divorce imperative, you have to have a really narrow and ignorant understanding of the world. And then to be called an idiot by this kind of person? You have no clue. You really have no clue what people have gone through, and I think it’s pretty close to evil for you to suggest that people are “idiots.”

No, I agree they would be idiots.

Well congrats on being completely devoid of empathy. Good luck to your children, sounds like they’re going to be good, kind people. Let me guess- you’re a churchgoer too?