Anonymous
Post 09/13/2022 19:32     Subject: Do kids not write thank you notes/emails anymore?
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Anonymous wrote:I only have young kids but I had to take this off of my very overwhelming to do list. We appreciate gifts and the people who give them. I send a text with a photo of my kid using the gift when I can, the rest I just let it go. Apologies in advance to anyone who is offended. I can't do it all.


This. I would gladly even take gift giving off the table to save me the headache of having people offended. We don't mean to offend. If your intention in giving the gift is to be thanked, you can probably abstain.

What if we thank you in person when we receive the gift? Is that not good enough?


People have always been busy. It’s common courtesy to send a thank you note once you’ve had a chance to open the gift. Thanking someone for something when it’s wrapped and you don’t know what it is doesn’t count.

My mom always had my sister and me write thank you notes. I do the same thing with my daughter. In my view, it’s important to take the time to show gratitude.


No, people have NOT been busy like they are now. Not anywhere close.
And we no longer use mail. At all. Thank you notes are definitely a relic of a bygone era that only older people utilize.

And if me thanking you to your face and telling you how nice it is to give a gift "doesn't count" then you are too high maintenance to know.


where do i buy stamps???


Really?
Anonymous
Post 09/13/2022 17:57     Subject: Re:Do kids not write thank you notes/emails anymore?
I taught my son to always send a thank you note. He’s been doing it since he could hold a crayon. He’s 17 now and says he will send a note before I can even say anything. It’s rude not to acknowledge a gift. There’s no way around it. Sometimes he sends an email/text if he doesn’t have the address to mail it to.
Anonymous
Post 09/13/2022 17:54     Subject: Re:Do kids not write thank you notes/emails anymore?
I wouldn’t expect a note if they thanked you in person when you gave it to them but if you dropped it off or mailed it without talking to them, they should acknowledge it.
Anonymous
Post 09/13/2022 17:14     Subject: Do kids not write thank you notes/emails anymore?
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Anonymous wrote:I don’t have my kids do thank yous for bday party gifts as young elementary schoolers anymore. I did it with my oldest for the first couple of years when he had whole class bday parties in preschool and es. printed them out on the computer with a pic of him with the gift as he opened them at home and had him sign them then sent them into school. Then realized not a ton of people do it and happily removed it from my list, especially as we moved on from whole class parties and I needed to track down addresses. I’m aware it’s not perfect etiquette and I’m ok with it. We always thank people for coming and bringing a gift as they leave. We still do thank yous for relatives and people who send things from out of town so they know a gift was received and enjoyed.


And we don't open gifts during parties anymore - the cards and gifts get separated half of the time before the gifts are even opened. I couldn't write thank you notes for many of the gifts if I tried.


Why not? So many seem to dislike children and take away fun things from them. It's so strange.


Because it's not fun for the kids watching, and it's not always fun for the birthday kid who may prefer to run around with their friends.

It's not strange that people have different ideas about fun.
Anonymous
Post 09/13/2022 16:31     Subject: Do kids not write thank you notes/emails anymore?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I only have young kids but I had to take this off of my very overwhelming to do list. We appreciate gifts and the people who give them. I send a text with a photo of my kid using the gift when I can, the rest I just let it go. Apologies in advance to anyone who is offended. I can't do it all.


This. I would gladly even take gift giving off the table to save me the headache of having people offended. We don't mean to offend. If your intention in giving the gift is to be thanked, you can probably abstain.

What if we thank you in person when we receive the gift? Is that not good enough?


People have always been busy. It’s common courtesy to send a thank you note once you’ve had a chance to open the gift. Thanking someone for something when it’s wrapped and you don’t know what it is doesn’t count.

My mom always had my sister and me write thank you notes. I do the same thing with my daughter. In my view, it’s important to take the time to show gratitude.


No, people have NOT been busy like they are now. Not anywhere close.
And we no longer use mail. At all. Thank you notes are definitely a relic of a bygone era that only older people utilize.

And if me thanking you to your face and telling you how nice it is to give a gift "doesn't count" then you are too high maintenance to know.


where do i buy stamps???
Anonymous
Post 09/13/2022 15:37     Subject: Do kids not write thank you notes/emails anymore?
My kids have stationary and I make them write notes for every gift. Its a nice acknowledgement, its a good habit and in this day and age its a custom that should be revived.
Anonymous
Post 09/13/2022 15:12     Subject: Do kids not write thank you notes/emails anymore?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don’t have my kids do thank yous for bday party gifts as young elementary schoolers anymore. I did it with my oldest for the first couple of years when he had whole class bday parties in preschool and es. printed them out on the computer with a pic of him with the gift as he opened them at home and had him sign them then sent them into school. Then realized not a ton of people do it and happily removed it from my list, especially as we moved on from whole class parties and I needed to track down addresses. I’m aware it’s not perfect etiquette and I’m ok with it. We always thank people for coming and bringing a gift as they leave. We still do thank yous for relatives and people who send things from out of town so they know a gift was received and enjoyed.


And we don't open gifts during parties anymore - the cards and gifts get separated half of the time before the gifts are even opened. I couldn't write thank you notes for many of the gifts if I tried.


Why not? So many seem to dislike children and take away fun things from them. It's so strange.
Anonymous
Post 09/13/2022 15:08     Subject: Re:Do kids not write thank you notes/emails anymore?
Anonymous wrote:Im in my 30s and only send thank you notes to people who are my parents' age or from their group of friends. If a friend gives me a birthday present I dont send a thank you.


I would hope that you thank them after you’ve opened the gift.
Anonymous
Post 09/13/2022 14:27     Subject: Re:Do kids not write thank you notes/emails anymore?
Im in my 30s and only send thank you notes to people who are my parents' age or from their group of friends. If a friend gives me a birthday present I dont send a thank you.
Anonymous
Post 09/13/2022 14:23     Subject: Do kids not write thank you notes/emails anymore?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don’t have my kids do thank yous for bday party gifts as young elementary schoolers anymore. I did it with my oldest for the first couple of years when he had whole class bday parties in preschool and es. printed them out on the computer with a pic of him with the gift as he opened them at home and had him sign them then sent them into school. Then realized not a ton of people do it and happily removed it from my list, especially as we moved on from whole class parties and I needed to track down addresses. I’m aware it’s not perfect etiquette and I’m ok with it. We always thank people for coming and bringing a gift as they leave. We still do thank yous for relatives and people who send things from out of town so they know a gift was received and enjoyed.


And we don't open gifts during parties anymore - the cards and gifts get separated half of the time before the gifts are even opened. I couldn't write thank you notes for many of the gifts if I tried.


This is why I make sure to have my kid write her name on the little tag on the gift bag. That, combined with a school directory, gives us everything we need to send thank you notes.
Anonymous
Post 09/13/2022 14:21     Subject: Do kids not write thank you notes/emails anymore?
Anonymous wrote:I don’t have my kids do thank yous for bday party gifts as young elementary schoolers anymore. I did it with my oldest for the first couple of years when he had whole class bday parties in preschool and es. printed them out on the computer with a pic of him with the gift as he opened them at home and had him sign them then sent them into school. Then realized not a ton of people do it and happily removed it from my list, especially as we moved on from whole class parties and I needed to track down addresses. I’m aware it’s not perfect etiquette and I’m ok with it. We always thank people for coming and bringing a gift as they leave. We still do thank yous for relatives and people who send things from out of town so they know a gift was received and enjoyed.


And we don't open gifts during parties anymore - the cards and gifts get separated half of the time before the gifts are even opened. I couldn't write thank you notes for many of the gifts if I tried.
Anonymous
Post 09/13/2022 14:17     Subject: Do kids not write thank you notes/emails anymore?
Ones that are raised well still do.
Anonymous
Post 09/13/2022 14:02     Subject: Do kids not write thank you notes/emails anymore?
I made my kids send thank you notes. But I noticed a couple of wedding gifts I sent never responded with a thank you so I followed to make sure they were received. It may be a thing of the past.
Anonymous
Post 09/13/2022 14:01     Subject: Do kids not write thank you notes/emails anymore?
OP, not thanking someone is common, unfortunately
Anonymous
Post 09/13/2022 13:56     Subject: Do kids not write thank you notes/emails anymore?
People teach their kids to say thank you, but people don't train them to write a thank you note.

We make our kids to write thank you card even they don't want to. Hopefully it will become a habit for them.