Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been with my partner for 12 years and we have a child together. He also has dc's with his ew wife. When we attend functions with his extended family, I often overhear his cousins asking the dc's about their mother. They also tell the dc's to let their mother know they asked about her. Am I being overly sensitive in thinking this is a dig at me?

Explain to me, like I am 5, how someone asking a child how their mother is doing is a dig at you. Particularly since you are not a part of the conversation…you are eavesdropping.

Think on it and write it out. I’ll wait.

Hint: you are insecure in your relationship. This is totally a you problem.

They don't hate you now. But they may start to hate you if you continue eavesdropping and being so insecure. Not everyone is cut out to be in a blended family, and if you are this bothered by the mention of a child's mother, maybe you're just not the type to do this kind of thing.

I think this is the Famous Troll. It just reeks of her.

At least he loved the ew wife enough to marry her.

Anonymous wrote:I have been with my partner for 12 years and we have a child together. He also has dc's with his ew wife. When we attend functions with his extended family, I often overhear his cousins asking the dc's about their mother. They also tell the dc's to let their mother know they asked about her. Am I being overly sensitive in thinking this is a dig at me?

Explain to me, like I am 5, how someone asking a child how their mother is doing is a dig at you. Particularly since you are not a part of the conversation…you are eavesdropping.

Think on it and write it out. I’ll wait.

Hint: you are insecure in your relationship. This is totally a you problem.

My parents divorced when I was 25, so an adult.

But I always appreciate it when my cousins ask about my mom/dad, depending on the side of the family.

Once, my cousin said "I really miss your Dad." And literally, earlier that day, I had been on the phone with my Dad and he said "Boy, I really miss David."

And it was like an epiphany (granted, the most obvious epiphany of all time). But I said "Dave, he really misses you too. You should call or text him. It's ok."

As silly as it sounds, they didn't know if that was ok. They almost needed permission. And now they are once again in regular communication.

Divorce is hard. Obviously on the immediate family. But also on lots of secondary relationships as well

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been with my partner for 12 years and we have a child together. He also has dc's with his ew wife. When we attend functions with his extended family, I often overhear his cousins asking the dc's about their mother. They also tell the dc's to let their mother know they asked about her. Am I being overly sensitive in thinking this is a dig at me?

Never get involved with a divorced person if they have children.

Great PSA. Yes, too late for OP but absolutely a word of caution for others.

Nothing to worry about, they're being nice to the kid. Pass on the message.