Anonymous
Post 08/27/2022 23:31     Subject: shoes in house -awkward
Anonymous wrote:What happens to the family members and guests who are over 50 years old who have to wear shoes for medical reasons? No way can I walk across a wood floor without the support of shoes.


Well OP is clearly not an octogenarian and can manage to walk across the floor without her shoes
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2022 23:22     Subject: shoes in house -awkward
Anonymous wrote:What happens to the family members and guests who are over 50 years old who have to wear shoes for medical reasons? No way can I walk across a wood floor without the support of shoes.


My husband is one of them with very special shoes that are difficult to take off and put on. It’s awful with TSA. At a home with a no shoe policy he doesn’t flinch and just walks in. No one has ever blinked and if they did he’d just walk out.
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2022 23:14     Subject: shoes in house -awkward
It was tacky and sad that she complained to a mutual friend. She’s clearly a very petty person and I wouldn’t encourage my child to be friends with her child (not saying I’d dissuade though). I’d be very tempted to let her know her petty complaining got back to you…profusely apologizing for walking though her house with her shoes on to avoid getting drenched by her sprinkler.
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2022 23:09     Subject: shoes in house -awkward
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What happens to the family members and guests who are over 50 years old who have to wear shoes for medical reasons? No way can I walk across a wood floor without the support of shoes.


This is pretty common actually. Many people need to wear shoes for medical reasons, even those under fifty.


This is me too and while we are a mostly shoe free household we don’t ask guests to remove shoes. I have indoor shoes and outdoor shoes.
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2022 23:08     Subject: shoes in house -awkward
Anonymous wrote:What happens to the family members and guests who are over 50 years old who have to wear shoes for medical reasons? No way can I walk across a wood floor without the support of shoes.


This is pretty common actually. Many people need to wear shoes for medical reasons, even those under fifty.
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2022 23:05     Subject: Re:shoes in house -awkward
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here- no judgement towards people who have a no-shoe policy. We actually also remove our shoes in our home but when guests come over, we never ask them to. Seems forward to me? Whatever- the point is that I had zero issue with taking off my shoes. I wish I had removed that a second time to walk through the kitchen to the front door. I also wish she hadn't complained to someone else about it. Embarrassing and uncomfortable all arouond!


Troll.

No one has a shoes-off policy for themselves but not the guests. You're really going to have a playdate where your kids have no shoes and the guests have shoes? I've lived in many countries and have seen many things, but not that.

You're just creating a scenario to rile people up.


Aren’t you silly.
We don’t wear shoes inside the house but I always ask my guests to do what feels comfortable to them. Why do you think this is some big deal?


Because I've been on this earth for many decades, known mostly shoe-less households across the world, and NONE of them have one policy for themselves and one policy for guests. It defeats the entire purpose. It suggests that being shoe-less is a something burdensome you cannot ask of a guest, which is ridiculous. Either you do or you don't but you're really sending a mixed message being wishy-washy about it.

The host being gossipy does not absolve you from your own rudeness in walking in her house with shoes, BTW.



As many folks have chimed in to say much the same ….we take our shoes off but don’t ask our guests to. Most know we are shoeless at home but they can wear or not wear them as they please. NBD
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2022 23:01     Subject: shoes in house -awkward
Your friends suck, OP. Get better friends.
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2022 23:00     Subject: Re:shoes in house -awkward
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here- no judgement towards people who have a no-shoe policy. We actually also remove our shoes in our home but when guests come over, we never ask them to. Seems forward to me? Whatever- the point is that I had zero issue with taking off my shoes. I wish I had removed that a second time to walk through the kitchen to the front door. I also wish she hadn't complained to someone else about it. Embarrassing and uncomfortable all arouond!


Troll.

No one has a shoes-off policy for themselves but not the guests. You're really going to have a playdate where your kids have no shoes and the guests have shoes? I've lived in many countries and have seen many things, but not that.

You're just creating a scenario to rile people up.


Aren’t you silly.
We don’t wear shoes inside the house but I always ask my guests to do what feels comfortable to them. Why do you think this is some big deal?


Because I've been on this earth for many decades, known mostly shoe-less households across the world, and NONE of them have one policy for themselves and one policy for guests. It defeats the entire purpose. It suggests that being shoe-less is a something burdensome you cannot ask of a guest, which is ridiculous. Either you do or you don't but you're really sending a mixed message being wishy-washy about it.

The host being gossipy does not absolve you from your own rudeness in walking in her house with shoes, BTW.

Anonymous
Post 08/27/2022 22:55     Subject: shoes in house -awkward
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP now you know the play date host and the mutual “friend” are not friends at all.


I’m guessing OP wasn’t going to get a repeat invite anyway.

OP should be glad she’s dodged a bullet.
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2022 22:53     Subject: Re:shoes in house -awkward
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here- no judgement towards people who have a no-shoe policy. We actually also remove our shoes in our home but when guests come over, we never ask them to. Seems forward to me? Whatever- the point is that I had zero issue with taking off my shoes. I wish I had removed that a second time to walk through the kitchen to the front door. I also wish she hadn't complained to someone else about it. Embarrassing and uncomfortable all arouond!


Troll.

No one has a shoes-off policy for themselves but not the guests. You're really going to have a playdate where your kids have no shoes and the guests have shoes? I've lived in many countries and have seen many things, but not that.

You're just creating a scenario to rile people up.


Aren’t you silly.
We don’t wear shoes inside the house but I always ask my guests to do what feels comfortable to them. Why do you think this is some big deal?
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2022 22:51     Subject: shoes in house -awkward
Anonymous wrote:You were wrong. You should have either taken your shoes off or faced running through the sprinkler. If she is a no-shoe household, then you were rude. Now you know better and if you feel like texting her a quick “I realize I did that and I’m sorry,” that might smooth things over.


No. Hosts should not expect guests to run through a sprinkler, especially in enforecement of a ridiculous no-shoes policy. Turn off the sprinkler, relax the no-shoes rule, or at the very least don't go gossiping about it. These people sound wound up and troublesome - I'd avoid going forward.
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2022 22:45     Subject: shoes in house -awkward
What happens to the family members and guests who are over 50 years old who have to wear shoes for medical reasons? No way can I walk across a wood floor without the support of shoes.
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2022 22:36     Subject: shoes in house -awkward
Interesting that your rude host didn’t just offer to turn off the sprinkler but expected you to be inconvenienced by taking your shoes off for a few seconds only to put them back on again.
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2022 22:21     Subject: shoes in house -awkward
Anonymous wrote:I would not want to be friends with someone so anal.


+1. We are no no shoes house but this is excessive and it is so rude of her to complain to a mutual friend.
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2022 22:19     Subject: Re:shoes in house -awkward
Anonymous wrote:OP here- no judgement towards people who have a no-shoe policy. We actually also remove our shoes in our home but when guests come over, we never ask them to. Seems forward to me? Whatever- the point is that I had zero issue with taking off my shoes. I wish I had removed that a second time to walk through the kitchen to the front door. I also wish she hadn't complained to someone else about it. Embarrassing and uncomfortable all arouond!


I do the same as you. I'd have removed my shoes to walk through their house. But yes, it was crappy of her to gossip to the other person (and also crappy of that person to tell you). I wouldn't be embarrassed or awkward - just move on. Nobody's perfect - just look at your hostess, who was imperfect by gossiping about you to someone else.