Anonymous
Post 08/19/2022 20:47     Subject: I'm always left out of the conversation
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:God. Quit whining


And a military member chimes in . .



Yes, I noticed military families mainly talk about military life. It is what they know. Boring.


Yup. NP.
Anonymous
Post 08/19/2022 15:22     Subject: Re:I'm always left out of the conversation
Cops, too. And doctors. One side of my DH's family is law enforcement. That's all they can talk about. The other side of DH's family are doctors. That's all they can talk about.

I'm neither but it doesn't bother me. At least I'm learning something new.

However, this is my DH's family, not my nuclear family. I get what OP is saying. Sounds isolating.
Anonymous
Post 08/19/2022 15:13     Subject: I'm always left out of the conversation
Anonymous wrote:My parents are both retired Army, and my brother joined the Navy after college. I, of course, decided I wanted nothing to do with the military, so I went to college and majored in engineering, got a design job that has nothing to do with the government, and then...married a Navy officer.

The problem now is that when we're together for holidays or whatever, I'm completely left out of the conversation which always drifts toward the military after the first house together. I end up sitting on the couch like a lump, wishing I could talk to everyone about what's going on my life, though of course they're not interested.

Is there a polite way to remind them I'm actually in the same room?


These seem connected to me.
Anonymous
Post 08/19/2022 14:58     Subject: I'm always left out of the conversation
Anonymous wrote:Wanting to be involved in a group conversation is different than trying to switch the topic to you. What are you going to say "Enough of that y'all time to talk about meee!" It would be weird for one person to talk about themselves and everyone just sit there and listen. Can't you suggest a topic everyone can talk about like current events, movies, news, etc and not your life?


+1
Anonymous
Post 08/19/2022 14:57     Subject: I'm always left out of the conversation
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:God. Quit whining


And a military member chimes in . .



Yes, I noticed military families mainly talk about military life. It is what they know. Boring.


Maybe you have no imagination. I’m not from a military background, but I could come up with a million questions. The military isn’t one profession -there are many professions rolled up into it. Start there.

So what? I still don’t need to talk about 1000 variations of the same topic every single time. It looks like OP’s family doesn’t have anything else going on.
Anonymous
Post 08/18/2022 15:01     Subject: I'm always left out of the conversation
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:God. Quit whining


And a military member chimes in . .



Yes, I noticed military families mainly talk about military life. It is what they know. Boring.


Maybe you have no imagination. I’m not from a military background, but I could come up with a million questions. The military isn’t one profession -there are many professions rolled up into it. Start there.
Anonymous
Post 08/18/2022 08:30     Subject: I'm always left out of the conversation
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:God. Quit whining


And a military member chimes in . .



Yes, I noticed military families mainly talk about military life. It is what they know. Boring.
Anonymous
Post 08/18/2022 00:35     Subject: I'm always left out of the conversation
Being so fixated on this seems odd. I have to wonder is you harbor regret for not taking a military path at some level. I think it’s fine to vent here but honestly your complaint seems to scream insecurity. And insecurity just breeds more insecurity because someone who gives off insecure vibes can be off putting.
Anonymous
Post 08/17/2022 22:16     Subject: I'm always left out of the conversation
Wanting to be involved in a group conversation is different than trying to switch the topic to you. What are you going to say "Enough of that y'all time to talk about meee!" It would be weird for one person to talk about themselves and everyone just sit there and listen. Can't you suggest a topic everyone can talk about like current events, movies, news, etc and not your life?