Anonymous
Post 08/08/2022 23:36     Subject: Middle age people are dropping like flies
Anonymous wrote:My 80+ yr old mom battled cancer and all of her caregiving children including me (late 50s to mid 60s) have aged 10 years while looking after her for just 2-3 months. Her illness was so harrowing that I felt that I was in a nightmare and going through a heart attack myself and she needed intensive care. Its been months but I have not recovered. It was my own tipping point.


Hugs. Lots of hugs.
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2022 23:28     Subject: Middle age people are dropping like flies
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My 80+ yr old mom battled cancer and all of her caregiving children including me (late 50s to mid 60s) have aged 10 years while looking after her for just 2-3 months. Her illness was so harrowing that I felt that I was in a nightmare and going through a heart attack myself and she needed intensive care. Its been months but I have not recovered. It was my own tipping point.


I’m so sorry. What a disturbing post. At 80 years, wouldn’t palliative care and pain meds as needed be better?


Palliative care is a necessity. Caregiving stress can ruin your health. Been there. Done it.


On top of dealing with terminally ill parent, we had to contend with insurance company that wouldn't pay the bills. On top of that our kid chose to go off the rails. My body began falling apart from all the stress. It's been some years but I haven't fully bounced back. I believe it.
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2022 23:05     Subject: Middle age people are dropping like flies
This thread is depressing in many ways
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2022 22:26     Subject: Middle age people are dropping like flies
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Our parents are killing us office. I can deal with teenagers because I chose to have them and they can be decent humans now and then. My elderly hostile and nasty elderly mother will be the death of me. I fear for her caregivers too.


I agree with that observation. I know several middle age people that are struggling with care of elderly parents that are 85+, two of elderly parents pushing 100. They just keep hanging in there, funds are dried up, stress is abundant. The stress is lethal.


This is so true. Most of our parents' parents died much younger than they are dying, so most of them have no clue what it is like to be an elderly caregiver of a parent. They just take it for granted, and it should be put at the top of the list for stressful life occurrences.
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2022 22:19     Subject: Middle age people are dropping like flies
Anonymous wrote:Covid is killing people months afterwards.


Coco or cocos in your arm?
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2022 22:18     Subject: Middle age people are dropping like flies
A third of us will not make it to 70
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2022 20:51     Subject: Middle age people are dropping like flies
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:50 and 60 is not middle age!!!!

Average life expectancy is 76 for men and 81 for women. Therfore, middle age is 36-40 for men and 38-42 for women. 50 and 60 is older than that.


Eh, I have lots of friends who just lost their parents. They were late 60s early 70s. People are able to live longer.


Unless they're anticipating living to between 120 and 138 years old, people in their 60s are NOT middle age.

In your 50s, OK. But that's stretching it toward the end.


Wrong, 45-65 is middle age. After 65 is old age.


Senior citizen. 66 is not "Old age." Also, a 44 year old is middle aged. Do you think a 44 year old is a young adult???
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2022 20:24     Subject: Middle age people are dropping like flies
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:50 and 60 is not middle age!!!!

Average life expectancy is 76 for men and 81 for women. Therfore, middle age is 36-40 for men and 38-42 for women. 50 and 60 is older than that.


No, that math is off because you are counting childhood. Middle indicates the middle of your adult life. So basically 20 years of childhood, then 60 years of adulthood split into 3 segments -- young adult, middle age, elderly. 20-40 is young adult, 40-60 is middle aged, 60 to 80 is elderly.
Realistically ,everyone in my family lives past 90, though, so I don't know if I should adjust those numbers, because people don't really seem elderly to me until 70 or at least late 60s. I mean, would you look at Julia Louis Dreyfuss and Steve Carrell and say that they are "elderly"? No.


Let it go boomer, you're old
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2022 20:09     Subject: Middle age people are dropping like flies
Anonymous wrote:Our parents are killing us office. I can deal with teenagers because I chose to have them and they can be decent humans now and then. My elderly hostile and nasty elderly mother will be the death of me. I fear for her caregivers too.


I agree with that observation. I know several middle age people that are struggling with care of elderly parents that are 85+, two of elderly parents pushing 100. They just keep hanging in there, funds are dried up, stress is abundant. The stress is lethal.
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2022 20:01     Subject: Middle age people are dropping like flies
Us off not office
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2022 20:01     Subject: Middle age people are dropping like flies
Our parents are killing us office. I can deal with teenagers because I chose to have them and they can be decent humans now and then. My elderly hostile and nasty elderly mother will be the death of me. I fear for her caregivers too.
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2022 19:35     Subject: Middle age people are dropping like flies
I have known 3 cancer deaths this year in the 42-50 crowd. All were very aggressive so it was quick.
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2022 19:33     Subject: Re:Middle age people are dropping like flies
I know three middle-aged who have died recently: one COVID before vaccines (no comorbidities and early 40s), one due to alcohol and drug addiction (albeit high functioning job as a managing editor), and one cancer.
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2022 19:07     Subject: Middle age people are dropping like flies
Anonymous wrote:That’s not middle age. It might feel like it because you are there, but most people don’t make 80. So, middle age is more like 25-50


Wait, what? You are saying middle age is 25? No Way!
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2022 19:06     Subject: Middle age people are dropping like flies
Anonymous wrote:60s isn't really middle age. My grandfather died of cancer in his late 60s. It was terrible, and too early to lose him, but nobody said that he was middle aged when he died.


We aren't talking about your Grandfather's generation! I'm assuming Greater Generation? Or maybe Silent? Most men retired at 62 and died at 65. But, Boomers changed how we view "elderly" and there was a big difference in how my grandmothers acted at 62 vs my Mom.