Anonymous
07/29/2022 02:52
Subject: Re:I think my husband is an aspie
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It is very common for their masking / coping strategies to work well while dating and in their professional lives. The multi-dimensional demands of family life typically cause their elaborate masking and coping mechanisms, highly specific schedules, specific preferences, demands for an inordinate amount of time devoted to their special interests, etc to come crashing down.
This is so true. The masking is not sustainable in an intimate relationship.
Nope. Keep trying, you'll get there someday.
Anonymous
07/29/2022 02:51
Subject: Re:I think my husband is an aspie
Anonymous wrote:It is very common for their masking / coping strategies to work well while dating and in their professional lives. The multi-dimensional demands of family life typically cause their elaborate masking and coping mechanisms, highly specific schedules, specific preferences, demands for an inordinate amount of time devoted to their special interests, etc to come crashing down.
Are you trolling? Or just really excited that you've found a group (SN adults, because lord knows people would burn the forum down if insulting sweeping statements like this were made about a SN child)?
Anonymous
07/29/2022 00:36
Subject: Re:I think my husband is an aspie
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, why do you think he is on the autistic spectrum? My DH sounds like yours but I think he is just an ahole spectrum.
Because it's trendy on DCUM and Jeff allows posters to engage in this form of disability slander.
Interesting. Going down the route of a. Recent ASD diagnosis and everything we are told and read says high functioning ASD isn't a disability, it's neurodiversity
HAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!! First, it’s Autism Spectrum *Disorder.* you shouldn’t get a diagnosis unless you are actually impacted. Second, high functioning autism is NOT a medical term and obfuscates the disorder. This is the problem with the neurodiversity crowd pushing out the people the diagnosis was originally meant to serve. It’s actually becoming quite grotesque. . Originally, even Asperger created the “Asperger” label because the nazis wanted to KILL children who fit under the label because they seemed “unfit” for communal life. Asperger pointed out that, sure, these kids have issues… but some are still capable of contributing to society. Now Even “Asperger’s” doesn’t look anything like level 1 autism and all these kids/adults with slight social deficits (most people on the planet) and slight rigidities (most people on the planet) are getting diagnoses and “speaking on behalf” of autistics. Barf.
Ok but not all disorders are disabilities. SSA agrees with me. DH is Level 1 if you want to get medical.
Maybe start with the DSM? Yes, disability is generally a legal term and disorder a medical term, but *disorders* which require diagnoses are supposed to have clinically significant impacts on daily life. It’s not just a “different way of thinking.” From that perspective we are all on the spectrum of some disorder! All sorts of people with all sorts of disorders that could be seen As “disabled” won’t be considered “disabled” by the SSA.
Level 1 is from the DSM-5
Level 1 – Level 1 is the mildest level of ASD. Generally, children at this level have mild symptoms that don't significantly impact school experience or relationships with others. This is what most people previously referred to when they used the terms “Asperger's syndrome” or “high-functioning autism”
Anonymous
07/28/2022 22:42
Subject: Re:I think my husband is an aspie
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, why do you think he is on the autistic spectrum? My DH sounds like yours but I think he is just an ahole spectrum.
Because it's trendy on DCUM and Jeff allows posters to engage in this form of disability slander.
Interesting. Going down the route of a. Recent ASD diagnosis and everything we are told and read says high functioning ASD isn't a disability, it's neurodiversity
HAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!! First, it’s Autism Spectrum *Disorder.* you shouldn’t get a diagnosis unless you are actually impacted. Second, high functioning autism is NOT a medical term and obfuscates the disorder. This is the problem with the neurodiversity crowd pushing out the people the diagnosis was originally meant to serve. It’s actually becoming quite grotesque. . Originally, even Asperger created the “Asperger” label because the nazis wanted to KILL children who fit under the label because they seemed “unfit” for communal life. Asperger pointed out that, sure, these kids have issues… but some are still capable of contributing to society. Now Even “Asperger’s” doesn’t look anything like level 1 autism and all these kids/adults with slight social deficits (most people on the planet) and slight rigidities (most people on the planet) are getting diagnoses and “speaking on behalf” of autistics. Barf.
Ok but not all disorders are disabilities. SSA agrees with me. DH is Level 1 if you want to get medical.
Maybe start with the DSM? Yes, disability is generally a legal term and disorder a medical term, but *disorders* which require diagnoses are supposed to have clinically significant impacts on daily life. It’s not just a “different way of thinking.” From that perspective we are all on the spectrum of some disorder! All sorts of people with all sorts of disorders that could be seen As “disabled” won’t be considered “disabled” by the SSA.
Anonymous
07/28/2022 21:37
Subject: Re:I think my husband is an aspie
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, why do you think he is on the autistic spectrum? My DH sounds like yours but I think he is just an ahole spectrum.
Because it's trendy on DCUM and Jeff allows posters to engage in this form of disability slander.
Interesting. Going down the route of a. Recent ASD diagnosis and everything we are told and read says high functioning ASD isn't a disability, it's neurodiversity
HAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!! First, it’s Autism Spectrum *Disorder.* you shouldn’t get a diagnosis unless you are actually impacted. Second, high functioning autism is NOT a medical term and obfuscates the disorder. This is the problem with the neurodiversity crowd pushing out the people the diagnosis was originally meant to serve. It’s actually becoming quite grotesque. . Originally, even Asperger created the “Asperger” label because the nazis wanted to KILL children who fit under the label because they seemed “unfit” for communal life. Asperger pointed out that, sure, these kids have issues… but some are still capable of contributing to society. Now Even “Asperger’s” doesn’t look anything like level 1 autism and all these kids/adults with slight social deficits (most people on the planet) and slight rigidities (most people on the planet) are getting diagnoses and “speaking on behalf” of autistics. Barf.
Ok but not all disorders are disabilities. SSA agrees with me. DH is Level 1 if you want to get medical.
Anonymous
07/28/2022 21:34
Subject: I think my husband is an aspie
If your kid is an aspie would you give him up for adoption?
Don’t abandon your husband either.
Don’t abandon your husband either.
Anonymous
07/28/2022 21:32
Subject: Re:I think my husband is an aspie
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, why do you think he is on the autistic spectrum? My DH sounds like yours but I think he is just an ahole spectrum.
Because it's trendy on DCUM and Jeff allows posters to engage in this form of disability slander.
Interesting. Going down the route of a. Recent ASD diagnosis and everything we are told and read says high functioning ASD isn't a disability, it's neurodiversity
HAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!! First, it’s Autism Spectrum *Disorder.* you shouldn’t get a diagnosis unless you are actually impacted. Second, high functioning autism is NOT a medical term and obfuscates the disorder. This is the problem with the neurodiversity crowd pushing out the people the diagnosis was originally meant to serve. It’s actually becoming quite grotesque. . Originally, even Asperger created the “Asperger” label because the nazis wanted to KILL children who fit under the label because they seemed “unfit” for communal life. Asperger pointed out that, sure, these kids have issues… but some are still capable of contributing to society. Now Even “Asperger’s” doesn’t look anything like level 1 autism and all these kids/adults with slight social deficits (most people on the planet) and slight rigidities (most people on the planet) are getting diagnoses and “speaking on behalf” of autistics. Barf.
Anonymous
07/28/2022 20:50
Subject: Re:I think my husband is an aspie
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Pretty clueless of you not to have figured this out before you married him. Too bad!
You sound like you have some kind of mental disorder.
Agree. Sorry didn't learn about mental disorders till about age 40.
Anonymous
07/28/2022 20:19
Subject: Re:I think my husband is an aspie
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, why do you think he is on the autistic spectrum? My DH sounds like yours but I think he is just an ahole spectrum.
Because it's trendy on DCUM and Jeff allows posters to engage in this form of disability slander.
Interesting. Going down the route of a. Recent ASD diagnosis and everything we are told and read says high functioning ASD isn't a disability, it's neurodiversity
Anonymous
07/28/2022 19:31
Subject: Re:I think my husband is an aspie
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, why do you think he is on the autistic spectrum? My DH sounds like yours but I think he is just an ahole spectrum.
Because it's trendy on DCUM and Jeff allows posters to engage in this form of disability slander.
+1
Anonymous
07/28/2022 19:31
Subject: Re:I think my husband is an aspie
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It is very common for their masking / coping strategies to work well while dating and in their professional lives. The multi-dimensional demands of family life typically cause their elaborate masking and coping mechanisms, highly specific schedules, specific preferences, demands for an inordinate amount of time devoted to their special interests, etc to come crashing down.
This is so true. The masking is not sustainable in an intimate relationship.
No. It is not true. The ignorance on the relationship bore about autism, and “Asperger’s” in particular is mind-blowing.
“Masking” -as controversial as the concept is … because it requires social skill to pull off!- is still not going to blind you to a persons PERVASIVE social deficiencies and debilitating rigidity until after marriage!!! It’s like you all have never met an autistic person before.
Anonymous
07/28/2022 18:30
Subject: Re:I think my husband is an aspie
Anonymous wrote:OP, why do you think he is on the autistic spectrum? My DH sounds like yours but I think he is just an ahole spectrum.
Because it's trendy on DCUM and Jeff allows posters to engage in this form of disability slander.
Anonymous
07/28/2022 18:27
Subject: I think my husband is an aspie
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:He just sounds like a jerk No need to take diagnose him
Says an aspie.
You seem like you're illiterate.
Anonymous
07/28/2022 18:26
Subject: Re:I think my husband is an aspie
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It is very common for their masking / coping strategies to work well while dating and in their professional lives. The multi-dimensional demands of family life typically cause their elaborate masking and coping mechanisms, highly specific schedules, specific preferences, demands for an inordinate amount of time devoted to their special interests, etc to come crashing down.
This is so true. The masking is not sustainable in an intimate relationship.
They're able to mask bad sex too?
You all need to stop.
You and op ignored signs to get married and have kids, mainly the kids.
Now that you have kids. . you're choosing to ignore the signs that were always there
You all also need to stop with the nonsense that people with high functioning autism are aholes.
Anonymous
07/28/2022 18:19
Subject: Re:I think my husband is an aspie
Anonymous wrote:Pretty clueless of you not to have figured this out before you married him. Too bad!
You sound like you have some kind of mental disorder.