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Anonymous wrote:I am struggling to understand. You have been there 15 years, your kids grew up there, and they have NO friends? You have not connected with at least 1 other family? I get you work a lot, but your never said to your kids "who do you eat lunch with? lets invite them over Saturday"

I’m not sure OP has been there 15 years. She just said she hadn’t been able to make friends who have kids hers could travel with in 15 years of trying. But I’m very confused about how they have zero friends or acquaintances in this new town. That seems like a vastly larger problem than who goes on family trips. I can’t understand how there are no school community or church friends, but if true, OP and her kids are dangerously isolated.

Also, our church is still under covid restrictions, so we haven't been in over two years. Waiting on things to change.

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Anonymous wrote:I am struggling to understand. You have been there 15 years, your kids grew up there, and they have NO friends? You have not connected with at least 1 other family? I get you work a lot, but your never said to your kids "who do you eat lunch with? lets invite them over Saturday"

I’m not sure OP has been there 15 years. She just said she hadn’t been able to make friends who have kids hers could travel with in 15 years of trying. But I’m very confused about how they have zero friends or acquaintances in this new town. That seems like a vastly larger problem than who goes on family trips. I can’t understand how there are no school community or church friends, but if true, OP and her kids are dangerously isolated.

The kids are in school. They have acquaintances.

I do not.

Anonymous wrote:I am struggling to understand. You have been there 15 years, your kids grew up there, and they have NO friends? You have not connected with at least 1 other family? I get you work a lot, but your never said to your kids "who do you eat lunch with? lets invite them over Saturday"

No, we have been here three years. I've been a trailing spouse for 15.

Anonymous wrote:I am struggling to understand. You have been there 15 years, your kids grew up there, and they have NO friends? You have not connected with at least 1 other family? I get you work a lot, but your never said to your kids "who do you eat lunch with? lets invite them over Saturday"

I’m not sure OP has been there 15 years. She just said she hadn’t been able to make friends who have kids hers could travel with in 15 years of trying. But I’m very confused about how they have zero friends or acquaintances in this new town. That seems like a vastly larger problem than who goes on family trips. I can’t understand how there are no school community or church friends, but if true, OP and her kids are dangerously isolated.

I am struggling to understand. You have been there 15 years, your kids grew up there, and they have NO friends? You have not connected with at least 1 other family? I get you work a lot, but your never said to your kids "who do you eat lunch with? lets invite them over Saturday"

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Anonymous wrote:I think you need to work on the friend thing. My kids (11 and 13) would greatly prefer to hang with a friend than me dragging to a destination where its the same faces they see everyday- is there anyway to meet local people? Kids are old enough to know what they want.

Have been working on it for 15 years. Hasn't happened.

Maybe the people where you live have figured out you think their way of life isn’t “normal” and took offense.

That would be pretty impressive, seeing as I work 60 hours a week from my house and literally never interact with them.

Please, we figured out your snobbery in one line over the internet. They know.

Roasted.

Not really, because you're wrong.

But I guess it's true how they say crabs will drag down the ones trying to escape. My children won't live this kind of life forever if I have anything to say about it.

Uh wow. This is a lot more than not wanting to travel without DH. This is some deep anger and resentment. Is your DH a Doctor? Maybe he could be social with the other Drs? (I was friends with the other Professors' Kids in my childhood.)

My mom was like you when I was little. She hated the little Southern town my dad drug her to. She couldn't wait to get out and she ran the place down to me constantly. But then she finally found some very great people to be friends with- and they haven't moved away despite my dad retiring like 7 years ago. Maybe you need to open your mind and heart.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you need to work on the friend thing. My kids (11 and 13) would greatly prefer to hang with a friend than me dragging to a destination where its the same faces they see everyday- is there anyway to meet local people? Kids are old enough to know what they want.

Have been working on it for 15 years. Hasn't happened.

Maybe the people where you live have figured out you think their way of life isn’t “normal” and took offense.

That would be pretty impressive, seeing as I work 60 hours a week from my house and literally never interact with them.

Please, we figured out your snobbery in one line over the internet. They know.

I. Have. Never. Met. A. Single. Person. Here.

Get over yourself.

Np, haven’t commented before, but how is this possible? My family moved from DC to a very rural area when I was eight. My parents met people through my school, through local organizations that they joined, and simply from running errands etc. How can you live somewhere for 15 years and not meet anyone? That sounds like a you problem, As my tween would say.

I work from home. We don't leave our cars for school dropoff and pickup, so obviously you can't meet people that way. My husband isn't social, so anything we do together like church, we're in and out. There literally aren't opportunities. I have tried volunteer work, but I'm not able to make commitments with DH's schedule.

OP, my kids have managed to get playdates when the parent of a classmate sends a note in with their kid, who hands it to mine. If you want to connect, you'll find ways. You've made it abundantly clear you have no interest in doing so, which sounds miserable. It's hard to know where to even start with suggestions for travel, but then why are you soliciting suggestions from "crabs"?

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Anonymous wrote:I think you need to work on the friend thing. My kids (11 and 13) would greatly prefer to hang with a friend than me dragging to a destination where its the same faces they see everyday- is there anyway to meet local people? Kids are old enough to know what they want.

Have been working on it for 15 years. Hasn't happened.

Maybe the people where you live have figured out you think their way of life isn’t “normal” and took offense.

That would be pretty impressive, seeing as I work 60 hours a week from my house and literally never interact with them.

Please, we figured out your snobbery in one line over the internet. They know.

Roasted.

Not really, because you're wrong.

But I guess it's true how they say crabs will drag down the ones trying to escape. My children won't live this kind of life forever if I have anything to say about it.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you need to work on the friend thing. My kids (11 and 13) would greatly prefer to hang with a friend than me dragging to a destination where its the same faces they see everyday- is there anyway to meet local people? Kids are old enough to know what they want.

Have been working on it for 15 years. Hasn't happened.

Maybe the people where you live have figured out you think their way of life isn’t “normal” and took offense.

That would be pretty impressive, seeing as I work 60 hours a week from my house and literally never interact with them.

Please, we figured out your snobbery in one line over the internet. They know.

Roasted.

Anonymous wrote:I can see already why they don’t want to travel alone with you. Leave the kids home with a sitter, take your own vacation.

Yes, because the Playstation is at home, and Daddy gives them unlimited time on it.

I can see already why they don’t want to travel alone with you. Leave the kids home with a sitter, take your own vacation.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you need to work on the friend thing. My kids (11 and 13) would greatly prefer to hang with a friend than me dragging to a destination where its the same faces they see everyday- is there anyway to meet local people? Kids are old enough to know what they want.

Have been working on it for 15 years. Hasn't happened.

Maybe the people where you live have figured out you think their way of life isn’t “normal” and took offense.

That would be pretty impressive, seeing as I work 60 hours a week from my house and literally never interact with them.

Please, we figured out your snobbery in one line over the internet. They know.

I. Have. Never. Met. A. Single. Person. Here.

Get over yourself.

Np, haven’t commented before, but how is this possible? My family moved from DC to a very rural area when I was eight. My parents met people through my school, through local organizations that they joined, and simply from running errands etc. How can you live somewhere for 15 years and not meet anyone? That sounds like a you problem, As my tween would say.

I work from home. We don't leave our cars for school dropoff and pickup, so obviously you can't meet people that way. My husband isn't social, so anything we do together like church, we're in and out. There literally aren't opportunities. I have tried volunteer work, but I'm not able to make commitments with DH's schedule.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you need to work on the friend thing. My kids (11 and 13) would greatly prefer to hang with a friend than me dragging to a destination where its the same faces they see everyday- is there anyway to meet local people? Kids are old enough to know what they want.

Have been working on it for 15 years. Hasn't happened.

Maybe the people where you live have figured out you think their way of life isn’t “normal” and took offense.

That would be pretty impressive, seeing as I work 60 hours a week from my house and literally never interact with them.

Please, we figured out your snobbery in one line over the internet. They know.

I. Have. Never. Met. A. Single. Person. Here.

Get over yourself.

Np, haven’t commented before, but how is this possible? My family moved from DC to a very rural area when I was eight. My parents met people through my school, through local organizations that they joined, and simply from running errands etc. How can you live somewhere for 15 years and not meet anyone? That sounds like a you problem, As my tween would say.

Anonymous wrote:Are your kids not involved in sports or other activities? How do you manage weekend trips every month??
Between our 2 oldest kids , our weekends are jammed with birthday parties, soccer game(s), usually a Scout activity, friends hanging out, and the like.

How absent is your dh going to be?

They don't have anything like that here. School is a small private one, so maaaaybe 4 parties a year. No organized sports or Scouts. It's that bad.

DH will very absent working.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you need to work on the friend thing. My kids (11 and 13) would greatly prefer to hang with a friend than me dragging to a destination where its the same faces they see everyday- is there anyway to meet local people? Kids are old enough to know what they want.

Have been working on it for 15 years. Hasn't happened.

Maybe the people where you live have figured out you think their way of life isn’t “normal” and took offense.

That would be pretty impressive, seeing as I work 60 hours a week from my house and literally never interact with them.

Please, we figured out your snobbery in one line over the internet. They know.

I. Have. Never. Met. A. Single. Person. Here.

Get over yourself.