Anonymous
07/24/2022 09:14
Subject: SAHP postnup
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What provisions would you include in a post-nup when one spouse is about to become a stay at home parent? Assume that both partners have comparable earning power (currently anyway), education levels, no family money, and live in Virginia. Trying to think this through, so thank you for any insights or advice.
- put the house in the SAHP’s name
- agree on alimony
Why? They certainly are not paying the mortgage.
Curious as well. If a divorce happens, what protection would that provide if the ex-spouse stopped paying the mortgage? It’s not easy to get a mortgage when you’ve been a SAHP. The ex-spoouse could set themselves up in a new home and then default on paying the old mortgage and let the house go into foreclosure.
This is where the second part comes in: alimony agreement. FWIW, this is the agreement that my friend has with her husband, who stayed home with their three kids while she pursued a high-power career. In addition, they have some other arrangements regarding investments that are just in the husband’s name.
Anonymous
07/21/2022 21:14
Subject: SAHP postnup
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What provisions would you include in a post-nup when one spouse is about to become a stay at home parent? Assume that both partners have comparable earning power (currently anyway), education levels, no family money, and live in Virginia. Trying to think this through, so thank you for any insights or advice.
This is very smart if you are going to off track a career. For those that say split everything, that makes no sense. The SAHP will likely not be able to regain their earning potential. They should get more then half in a divorce, assuming both adults are in favor of one being a SAHP.
No one is going to agree to the if he is the bread winner.
Anonymous
07/21/2022 18:13
Subject: SAHP postnup
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What provisions would you include in a post-nup when one spouse is about to become a stay at home parent? Assume that both partners have comparable earning power (currently anyway), education levels, no family money, and live in Virginia. Trying to think this through, so thank you for any insights or advice.
- put the house in the SAHP’s name
- agree on alimony
Why? They certainly are not paying the mortgage.
Ok then the husband can quit his job and fully support his wife's career while serving as nanny and housekeeper. I mean they are on equal footing right now, I'm sure he'll jump at that.
How do you know OP has a husband? They don’t mention genders.
Anonymous
07/21/2022 18:12
Subject: SAHP postnup
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What provisions would you include in a post-nup when one spouse is about to become a stay at home parent? Assume that both partners have comparable earning power (currently anyway), education levels, no family money, and live in Virginia. Trying to think this through, so thank you for any insights or advice.
- put the house in the SAHP’s name
- agree on alimony
Why? They certainly are not paying the mortgage.
Curious as well. If a divorce happens, what protection would that provide if the ex-spouse stopped paying the mortgage? It’s not easy to get a mortgage when you’ve been a SAHP. The ex-spoouse could set themselves up in a new home and then default on paying the old mortgage and let the house go into foreclosure.
Anonymous
07/21/2022 18:11
Subject: SAHP postnup
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What provisions would you include in a post-nup when one spouse is about to become a stay at home parent? Assume that both partners have comparable earning power (currently anyway), education levels, no family money, and live in Virginia. Trying to think this through, so thank you for any insights or advice.
- put the house in the SAHP’s name
- agree on alimony
Why? They certainly are not paying the mortgage.
Ok then the husband can quit his job and fully support his wife's career while serving as nanny and housekeeper. I mean they are on equal footing right now, I'm sure he'll jump at that.
Anonymous
07/21/2022 18:08
Subject: Re:SAHP postnup
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Half of our assets are already in my name which is comforting as a SAHM. My husband started the shift when I decided to stay home.
That doesn’t mean you own them, to be clear, if they were acquired during marriage.
Agree and I know everything would be split 50/50. But it was the gesture that was important to me.
That makes more sense for a spouse to protect assets before they are caught for the crimes they are committing.