Anonymous
Post 07/31/2022 19:53     Subject: Conflict over whether to keep puppy
Did OP come back here?
Anonymous
Post 07/31/2022 08:31     Subject: Re:Conflict over whether to keep puppy
We kept a puppy that I didn't want and I still resent it a little. But that is not about the dog but about DH and my relationship with each other.

Don't keep the puppy if you can get an agreement about it. But if you feel like you have no choice. Insist that the puppy/dog be thoroughly trained and make liberal use of people/facilities who can be paid to take care of dog.

Anonymous
Post 07/31/2022 07:30     Subject: Conflict over whether to keep puppy
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, puppy behavior is not really indicative of adult dog behavior. Especially if someone is training the dog. Is it in puppy kindergarten or is someone taking time each day to train the dog?

IMO, it takes about 7 months for dogs to get something close to normal.


+1,000

I have a 4-year old dog now. We got him when he was 10 weeks old. I’m 50 and he was my first dog. I was ready to throw in the towel. I interpreted normal puppy behavior as signs he was a crazy psycho. He could gnaw through anything, would nip, would jump up and bite the leash or nip my @ss on walks, ripped a coat.

He is the chillest, sweetest dog with zero aggression, loves everyone and everything. Such a sweet calm and lazy guy.


My saying: “Puppies are @ssholes.”

It’s true.
Anonymous
Post 07/31/2022 07:28     Subject: Conflict over whether to keep puppy
Anonymous wrote:My dog is 5 now. When he was a puppy he literally shat all over our kitchen floor 15 times. You need to be able to tolerate the puppy year(s) to benefit from the dog years.


🤣🤣🤣🤣
Anonymous
Post 07/30/2022 19:56     Subject: Conflict over whether to keep puppy
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Researched and prepared for a new puppy and was very much on same page with entire family for getting a dog. Have had her now for 2 weeks and it is clear that I am not cut out to be a puppy parent. We are able to return the puppy for a full refund however DH very much likes this puppy and therefore we are in disagreement over keeping it. I don’t enjoy the dogs personality which is dominant and borderline aggressive, not warm or playful at all. DH was expecting to be and is the primary caretaker of the dog so this is not a resentment over responsibility imbalance. I am trying to like the puppy and definitely helping out. The longer we stay with this dog the more DH gets attached and the more I resent the dog (not my DH).

Any experience with this?

Also I understand collectively that people on this board have tremendous experience with animals. Please do not scream at me, I am being as objective as possible.


I just can’t imagine a spouse not respecting my discomfort with a DOG, for God’s sake. Does he have childhood trauma, or something?


Sounds like OP does. An aggressive puppy?? She’s nuts.
Anonymous
Post 07/30/2022 19:28     Subject: Conflict over whether to keep puppy
Anonymous wrote:Researched and prepared for a new puppy and was very much on same page with entire family for getting a dog. Have had her now for 2 weeks and it is clear that I am not cut out to be a puppy parent. We are able to return the puppy for a full refund however DH very much likes this puppy and therefore we are in disagreement over keeping it. I don’t enjoy the dogs personality which is dominant and borderline aggressive, not warm or playful at all. DH was expecting to be and is the primary caretaker of the dog so this is not a resentment over responsibility imbalance. I am trying to like the puppy and definitely helping out. The longer we stay with this dog the more DH gets attached and the more I resent the dog (not my DH).

Any experience with this?

Also I understand collectively that people on this board have tremendous experience with animals. Please do not scream at me, I am being as objective as possible.


I just can’t imagine a spouse not respecting my discomfort with a DOG, for God’s sake. Does he have childhood trauma, or something?
Anonymous
Post 07/30/2022 19:23     Subject: Conflict over whether to keep puppy
Sorry Op, you keep the dog. I bet your are exaggerating re: agression. Puppy behavior will cease. This is not a damaged animal. Loving it will turn it into a nice family dog.
Anonymous
Post 07/30/2022 17:37     Subject: Conflict over whether to keep puppy
My dog is 5 now. When he was a puppy he literally shat all over our kitchen floor 15 times. You need to be able to tolerate the puppy year(s) to benefit from the dog years.
Anonymous
Post 07/30/2022 17:00     Subject: Conflict over whether to keep puppy
Puppies are the worst. They suck you in with their cuteness but they are so much work, and have such weird personalities!

I prefer adopting adult dogs because they are through the puppy stage but still young and fun. (Then I love them deeply through their adult and elderly years, then comes the crushing part. Anyway, I digress.)

You don't have to keep the puppy but just understand the puppy stage doesn't last forever. Even if you and the puppy aren't bonding now, it doesn't mean you won't love each other in time.
Anonymous
Post 07/30/2022 16:55     Subject: Conflict over whether to keep puppy
Anonymous wrote:OP, puppy behavior is not really indicative of adult dog behavior. Especially if someone is training the dog. Is it in puppy kindergarten or is someone taking time each day to train the dog?

IMO, it takes about 7 months for dogs to get something close to normal.


+1,000

I have a 4-year old dog now. We got him when he was 10 weeks old. I’m 50 and he was my first dog. I was ready to throw in the towel. I interpreted normal puppy behavior as signs he was a crazy psycho. He could gnaw through anything, would nip, would jump up and bite the leash or nip my @ss on walks, ripped a coat.

He is the chillest, sweetest dog with zero aggression, loves everyone and everything. Such a sweet calm and lazy guy.
Anonymous
Post 07/30/2022 09:36     Subject: Re:Conflict over whether to keep puppy
What breed ? How large is the puppy expected to be when fully grown ?

How is the puppy "dominant and aggressive" ?
Anonymous
Post 07/24/2022 16:17     Subject: Conflict over whether to keep puppy
OP, don't let the PPs make you feel guilty for not connecting with the dog. I think it's a good thing that you can admit when something is not working rather than keep forcing it. I grew up with dogs and love animals, but I have not loved every single dog I've ever met.

If you keep the dog, make sure you start training ASAP, and make sure the dog chores stay evenly and fairly distributed. I agree that you will probably come to love it, but don't feel bad if you don't.
Anonymous
Post 07/23/2022 20:59     Subject: Conflict over whether to keep puppy
Return it NOW so it can find an appropriate family, and trade it in for one that is more suitable for your family.
Anonymous
Post 07/23/2022 20:45     Subject: Conflict over whether to keep puppy
I love dogs and I say return it. It’s only been two weeks and you are not a good person. You could have this dog for 15 years.
Anonymous
Post 07/23/2022 18:29     Subject: Conflict over whether to keep puppy
OP, puppy behavior is not really indicative of adult dog behavior. Especially if someone is training the dog. Is it in puppy kindergarten or is someone taking time each day to train the dog?

IMO, it takes about 7 months for dogs to get something close to normal.