I can’t believe you want to risk losing your child care over this.

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Anonymous wrote:If it’s just a once a week summer thing, I would tell the nanny to suck it up.

Very much this. How is the nanny the one to determine what he/she can take your child to. They go.

Uh no. The person actually doing the work gets final veto power,particularly when it is something that is 1) unhealthy--in the sun and heat, 2) not age appropriate, and 3) parking is a huge hassle. Forcing her to go is a good way to guarantee either malicious compliance or a new nanny search--all for what? So mom can show off to some business client or whatever? If this person is so disorganized that they can't even plan ahead far enough to ensure attendance of the right age group for the activity, then they're not worth showing off to.

Lol. Uh, that's not how jobs work. You understand that nannies are employees, yes?

It literally is, unless you like hiring and training people all the time. You don't just spring some highly undesirable task on someone and tell them to suck it up because them doing the crap task will make you look good. If it's that important, then YOU do the undesirable task or keep firing and hiring until you find someone desperate enough to do it.

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Anonymous wrote:If it’s just a once a week summer thing, I would tell the nanny to suck it up.

Very much this. How is the nanny the one to determine what he/she can take your child to. They go.

Uh no. The person actually doing the work gets final veto power,particularly when it is something that is 1) unhealthy--in the sun and heat, 2) not age appropriate, and 3) parking is a huge hassle. Forcing her to go is a good way to guarantee either malicious compliance or a new nanny search--all for what? So mom can show off to some business client or whatever? If this person is so disorganized that they can't even plan ahead far enough to ensure attendance of the right age group for the activity, then they're not worth showing off to.

Lol. Uh, that's not how jobs work. You understand that nannies are employees, yes?

Employee or not, it isn’t right to add an event to any employee’s schedule that isn’t in the best interest of the company/child. That is how all businesses should work.

This event is for the benefit of the supervisor/mom.

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Anonymous wrote:If it’s just a once a week summer thing, I would tell the nanny to suck it up.

Very much this. How is the nanny the one to determine what he/she can take your child to. They go.

Uh no. The person actually doing the work gets final veto power,particularly when it is something that is 1) unhealthy--in the sun and heat, 2) not age appropriate, and 3) parking is a huge hassle. Forcing her to go is a good way to guarantee either malicious compliance or a new nanny search--all for what? So mom can show off to some business client or whatever? If this person is so disorganized that they can't even plan ahead far enough to ensure attendance of the right age group for the activity, then they're not worth showing off to.

Lol. Uh, that's not how jobs work. You understand that nannies are employees, yes?

I'm not a nanny but a home educator. I had a parent really want to start homeschool co-op and we had a trial day with the child to see if it works or not. That day was hell and the child clearly wasn't ready to be in a class of peers without being disruptive. The parents took my observations and honest opinion to heart and we waited a year. If anyone working with your child says hey this isn't working I can't imagine you forcing them to do it. Isn't that what you're paying them for? To put your child's best interests first even when it's different than what you want it to be? I've been in a nanny role before too and wouldn't say to a parent hey this isn't working unless it really was a problem. It's not an easy conversation to have with parents, telling them their child might not be fitting in or it's not the right placement. No nanny in their right mind would have the awkward conversation unless it's really an issue. I would listen to them, or at least take the kid by yourself for a few visits and see what they're talking about.

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Anonymous wrote:If it’s just a once a week summer thing, I would tell the nanny to suck it up.

Very much this. How is the nanny the one to determine what he/she can take your child to. They go.

Uh no. The person actually doing the work gets final veto power, particularly when it is something that is 1) unhealthy--in the sun and heat, 2) not age appropriate, and 3) parking is a huge hassle. Forcing her to go is a good way to guarantee either malicious compliance or a new nanny search--all for what? So mom can show off to some business client or whatever? If this person is so disorganized that they can't even plan ahead far enough to ensure attendance of the right age group for the activity, then they're not worth showing off to.

Anonymous wrote:If it’s just a once a week summer thing, I would tell the nanny to suck it up.

Very much this. How is the nanny the one to determine what he/she can take your child to. They go.

Meh, if it was age appropriate each time, I'd suck it up. I'm a nanny who takes my charges to several activities a week, par for the course. Otherwise, not knowing ahead of time seems like a hassle, right? They've gone to a few so okay to take a break and go again a few weeks later as pp mentioned?

OP, you need to try harder to find out what weeks are appropriate for your child. Don't send the nanny and kid on weeks when the activity isn't appropriate.

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Anonymous wrote:Use Uber/Lyft to take nanny and child to the program so she doesn’t have to deal with traffic and can leave whenever it gets too hot or the activity is inappropriate.

Uber with a car seat?

Yep, they have uber with car seats.

Anonymous wrote:I’ll go against the grain and say that this is part of nanny’s job description. She needs to take the kid. If the kid hates it, that’s one thing.

The programming isn't always appropriate for the child and it's hot... no the child isn't always going to like it.