Anonymous wrote:$50 is not cheap. It’s a very thoughtful gift from an out of town guest.

Those of you that have the desire and means to give more are certainly welcome to do that, but stop ridiculing and being so damn condescending to those who don’t.

$50 is ridiculously cheap, no matter your HHI. I have never given so little even when I had a very low salary.

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Anonymous wrote:When people ASK for cash, we only give $50. We will spend more on an actual gift.

It is the height of bad manners to request cash for a gift and I refuse to give cash.

It’s the height of bad manners for *white Americans.*. In our ethnic group cash is an accepted gift and used to pay for the wedding and honeymoon. It’s a system that works fine and everybody is happy with it. I paid for half of my honeymoon through gifts.

Anonymous wrote:Why is there so much pearl-clutching over giving cash as a wedding gift? Is it cultural? I am Indian and we always give cash, with a small token gift like a silver item. But the cash was the main gift. I remember my parents carefully noting how much each person gifted at my siblings and my wedding so they could return an equivalent amount when they were invited to those families’ weddings.

Why are you pearl-clutching over people giving gifts? Your culture isn’t the measure of what should be done.

I was recently married, some close family members gave $1,000 which was truly amazing, we didn’t expect it at all. Of course we also would have been happy with anything. Younger people gave closer to $100 (which is what we give as wedding guests, or $200 if we are very close to them.)

We preferred cash gifts because at the time we were living in a 750 sq ft apartment. We did make a tiny registry we sent out by request for the older folks who didn’t like to give cash, and we had a wide variety of stuff from $20 to $200 on there including some gift cards for air travel and airbnb for the honeymoon.