Anonymous wrote:I am a lawyer who happens to be licensed in the jurisdiction where the older brother currently lives. I am contacting other lawyer friends there to help me file suit against him. I’m just so disgusted and angry.

I don't think I believe this.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe older brother thought it was unfair unequal treatment that middle brother was the sole beneficiary. Isn't that what many are saying in the other inheritance thread? It doesn't bode well for sibling relationships that things be split so unequally. So maybe he did feel entitled to some of the money. Did he ever agree with how things were split?

There was agreement because Brother 2 spent so many years acting as our mom’s primary caregiver. And at the end of the day, $50K just wasn’t a lot of money. But it would have helped Brother 2 get on his feet. Brother 1 was the one who got upset when I tried to control the funds, which, in hindsight makes so much sense. Brother 1 was adamant about it being Brother 2’s money and that I shouldn’t play any part in managing it. Of course he had his own plan to take the money, which is why he didn’t need his pesky sister in the way.

Apparently not.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe older brother thought it was unfair unequal treatment that middle brother was the sole beneficiary. Isn't that what many are saying in the other inheritance thread? It doesn't bode well for sibling relationships that things be split so unequally. So maybe he did feel entitled to some of the money. Did he ever agree with how things were split?

There was agreement because Brother 2 spent so many years acting as our mom’s primary caregiver. And at the end of the day, $50K just wasn’t a lot of money. But it would have helped Brother 2 get on his feet. Brother 1 was the one who got upset when I tried to control the funds, which, in hindsight makes so much sense. Brother 1 was adamant about it being Brother 2’s money and that I shouldn’t play any part in managing it. Of course he had his own plan to take the money, which is why he didn’t need his pesky sister in the way.

This is why parents shouldn't treat siblings so unequally.

New poster. NONSENSE, PP. The mother intended the money to go to the one of her three children who had cared for her for years. It was not a huge amount. The older brother and our OP, the sister, were and are both financially fine and did not need this money. The mother expected she was rewarding the son who devoted so much time to her care, and OP as the sister and daughter was fine with that. The older brother is scum.

No one has to "treat siblings equally" in a will. This case is crystal clear about why the mother left the money only to the one son and not the other two siblings. Do you really think that somehow the older brother is right on any level for duping his brother out of even a penny of this inheritance? Because, what, the older brother felt he...should have been treated "equally"? Bull. Total bull.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe older brother thought it was unfair unequal treatment that middle brother was the sole beneficiary. Isn't that what many are saying in the other inheritance thread? It doesn't bode well for sibling relationships that things be split so unequally. So maybe he did feel entitled to some of the money. Did he ever agree with how things were split?

There was agreement because Brother 2 spent so many years acting as our mom’s primary caregiver. And at the end of the day, $50K just wasn’t a lot of money. But it would have helped Brother 2 get on his feet. Brother 1 was the one who got upset when I tried to control the funds, which, in hindsight makes so much sense. Brother 1 was adamant about it being Brother 2’s money and that I shouldn’t play any part in managing it. Of course he had his own plan to take the money, which is why he didn’t need his pesky sister in the way.

This is why parents shouldn't treat siblings so unequally.

Anonymous wrote:Maybe older brother thought it was unfair unequal treatment that middle brother was the sole beneficiary. Isn't that what many are saying in the other inheritance thread? It doesn't bode well for sibling relationships that things be split so unequally. So maybe he did feel entitled to some of the money. Did he ever agree with how things were split?

There was agreement because Brother 2 spent so many years acting as our mom’s primary caregiver. And at the end of the day, $50K just wasn’t a lot of money. But it would have helped Brother 2 get on his feet. Brother 1 was the one who got upset when I tried to control the funds, which, in hindsight makes so much sense. Brother 1 was adamant about it being Brother 2’s money and that I shouldn’t play any part in managing it. Of course he had his own plan to take the money, which is why he didn’t need his pesky sister in the way.

Maybe older brother thought it was unfair unequal treatment that middle brother was the sole beneficiary. Isn't that what many are saying in the other inheritance thread? It doesn't bode well for sibling relationships that things be split so unequally. So maybe he did feel entitled to some of the money. Did he ever agree with how things were split?

*have him on

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Anonymous wrote: Why don't you help support your brother in need? Giving him money would be more beneficial then filing suit against your other brother. A suit which you know has no basis and I bet your older brother knows that too.

I’m doing both.

Good for you. Do what you can to help your younger brother. It sounds like he needs it all. Is he the military vet? Does the VA have any resources that could help him in the legal fight? Good luck to you both!

Actually, both of my brothers are vets. Brother 1 made a career out of it. Brother 2 was in for about 8 years. So yep, am looking into VA resources for him. In the meantime, I gave him on usajobs this morning setting up an account and looking at job postings and flagging positions he might be interested in. Thank you!

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Anonymous wrote: Why don't you help support your brother in need? Giving him money would be more beneficial then filing suit against your other brother. A suit which you know has no basis and I bet your older brother knows that too.

I’m doing both.

Good for you. Do what you can to help your younger brother. It sounds like he needs it all. Is he the military vet? Does the VA have any resources that could help him in the legal fight? Good luck to you both!

Anonymous wrote: Why don't you help support your brother in need? Giving him money would be more beneficial then filing suit against your other brother. A suit which you know has no basis and I bet your older brother knows that too.

I’m doing both.

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A veteran, no less! Has he developed some sort of mental disorder or does he have brain injuries from his stints in war zones?

Anyway, if you can at all recover the money, do it for your caring brother.

Are you laboring under the delusion that all veterans are upright and honorable people?

Why don't you help support your brother in need? Giving him money would be more beneficial then filing suit against your other brother. A suit which you know has no basis and I bet your older brother knows that too.

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Anonymous wrote:Is there something wrong with middle brother? How was he so easily taken advantage of?

He just isn’t sophisticated. He trusts easily. He spent time with and cared for my mom, which was always his strongest talent. My oldest brother made up some story about how it would be a loan etc. It’s not a loan. He spent all of it and had no plans to pay him back.

HUH?
What do you mean he made up a story about it being a loan? If he said loan then it’s a loan, one he refuses to repay.
Sue him.
Are you a troll?

No, I’m not a troll. This is very much real life. Sadly. Yes, the oldest brother (let’s call him
Mike) told the younger brother (let’s call him John) that he needed the money, that the money was never John’s to begin with, and that it would be like a loan where he would pay John back. The problem is that Mike spent the money and has told me after I confronted him about all of this that he doesn’t owe John anything and won’t be giving back any of the money.

What a sad story, what a betrayal, and what a good sister you are.

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Anonymous wrote:Is there something wrong with middle brother? How was he so easily taken advantage of?

He just isn’t sophisticated. He trusts easily. He spent time with and cared for my mom, which was always his strongest talent. My oldest brother made up some story about how it would be a loan etc. It’s not a loan. He spent all of it and had no plans to pay him back.

HUH?
What do you mean he made up a story about it being a loan? If he said loan then it’s a loan, one he refuses to repay.
Sue him.
Are you a troll?