Anonymous wrote:You've asked him to and he won't. This relationship should be terminated.

To those asking "what kind of teasing?" ... just stop. It doesn't matter. He's doing something she's asked him to stop doing.

If OP's BF took a cup of water and dumped it on her every day, and she asked him to stop, but he didn't, would we be asking "Was it boiling hot water, or was it ice water?" TBH, DCUM probably would. For those of you who think it matters what kind of teasing she's getting, it doesn't. She's asked him to stop. So it's like she's getting a cup of ice water dumped on her every day. No, it doesn't leave physical scars. But she shouldn't be subjected to this. She asked that he stop. But instead he goes back to the sink to get another glass of water to dump on her.

It's easy to be kind. He's not being kind.

Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend makes fun of me daily. In general he is very sarcastic and funny, but I don’t like being teased all the time. It bothers me particularly because he is not good at giving words of affirmation. Through his actions I know that he cares for me and I enjoy his company, but the teasing sucks. I’ve voiced this and he said he understands. However the teasing seems to just be ingrained in him. Anyone just sick this type of thing up successfully?

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I appreciate everyone’s feedback. To give more details…..the teasing is almost every time I see him. Most recently last night, he called and I said hi when answering. He said who just answered the phone. I said, me of course what are you talking about. Then he said wow, your voice sounded so deep. It’s just these constant little comments that I don’t like. There is always a complaint. Another example
Is we went out to eat and he said, let me hurry up and dive into my food before you try to eat some. I’ve never in my life tried to eat his food. Outside of this, I really like him. He shows interest through lots of quality time (my first love language). We have several hobbies in common so outside of the teasing it’s easy to spend time together. Also the sex is great.

OP, I am one of the posters who asked for examples. To me this is not teasing, it's like he has no filter at all and no self-awareness. Does he do this with his friends? Even if he is willing to change, it will take time and effort for him to change his social skills. Does he want to do it? Do you want to put up with it?

+1. This doesn’t sound like teasing, it’s just … weird.

Anonymous wrote:Dump him. He is just trying to make you feel inferior. Sounds like he is insecure and is putting you down to make himself feel better. Terrible husband material. Move on.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I appreciate everyone’s feedback. To give more details…..the teasing is almost every time I see him. Most recently last night, he called and I said hi when answering. He said who just answered the phone. I said, me of course what are you talking about. Then he said wow, your voice sounded so deep. It’s just these constant little comments that I don’t like. There is always a complaint. Another example
Is we went out to eat and he said, let me hurry up and dive into my food before you try to eat some. I’ve never in my life tried to eat his food. Outside of this, I really like him. He shows interest through lots of quality time (my first love language). We have several hobbies in common so outside of the teasing it’s easy to spend time together. Also the sex is great.

OP, I am one of the posters who asked for examples. To me this is not teasing, it's like he has no filter at all and no self-awareness. Does he do this with his friends? Even if he is willing to change, it will take time and effort for him to change his social skills. Does he want to do it? Do you want to put up with it?

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I appreciate everyone’s feedback. To give more details…..the teasing is almost every time I see him. Most recently last night, he called and I said hi when answering. He said who just answered the phone. I said, me of course what are you talking about. Then he said wow, your voice sounded so deep. It’s just these constant little comments that I don’t like. There is always a complaint. Another example
Is we went out to eat and he said, let me hurry up and dive into my food before you try to eat some. I’ve never in my life tried to eat his food. Outside of this, I really like him. He shows interest through lots of quality time (my first love language). We have several hobbies in common so outside of the teasing it’s easy to spend time together. Also the sex is great.

OP, I am one of the posters who asked for examples. To me this is not teasing, it's like he has no filter at all and no self-awareness. Does he do this with his friends? Even if he is willing to change, it will take time and effort for him to change his social skills. Does he want to do it? Do you want to put up with it?

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I appreciate everyone’s feedback. To give more details…..the teasing is almost every time I see him. Most recently last night, he called and I said hi when answering. He said who just answered the phone. I said, me of course what are you talking about. Then he said wow, your voice sounded so deep. It’s just these constant little comments that I don’t like. There is always a complaint. Another example
Is we went out to eat and he said, let me hurry up and dive into my food before you try to eat some. I’ve never in my life tried to eat his food. Outside of this, I really like him. He shows interest through lots of quality time (my first love language). We have several hobbies in common so outside of the teasing it’s easy to spend time together. Also the sex is great.

Anonymous wrote:Give us examples. This is not to say that you should be in a relationships where you feel your self-esteem is undermined, but you also need to learn to have unshakable confidence in your own views of yourself. I think his teasing bothers you because he touches on things you are insecure about.