Anonymous
Post 07/01/2022 09:54     Subject: New career for MIL
Anonymous wrote:This is some ageist bullshit. Let’s review: the kids can grow up and change and get into sports or camps or summer jobs or internships or college orientation, and all that will be fine and dandy and great for them. Or you and DH could get some intense new job and that would be understandable because breadwinning. But MIL dares to pursue a career and wah wah wahhhhhhhhhhh, just because you think she doesn’t need the money? OK well maybe she doesn’t just live to fulfill your summer dreams, maybe she exists as a person in her own right. Wowie zowie, imagine that.


+1
Anonymous
Post 07/01/2022 09:09     Subject: Re:New career for MIL
Please tell me you’re a troll. If not, then you are the most self- entitled, whinny poster yet on DCUM. You suck, OP.
Anonymous
Post 07/01/2022 05:43     Subject: Re:New career for MIL
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Nothing like a pop up European trip to save the day.

Troll.


OP here, sorry it’s hard for you to believe. I’m not a troll, I took the responses to heart, and have proceeded with a plan that is the best option for all involved. I have not been rude and I have realized that I was in the wrong.


You were squarely in the wrong. Please remember in the future not to be so ageist and entitled. Your MIL is an INDIVIDUAL PERSON who does not exist to watch your kids and perform as Reliable Grandma because you want her to. This was such a gross thread.


Why do you have higher expectations of your wife's parents than your own parents? I applaud your mil for lick f her dream and spending her time how she was ts. 3 weeks of childcare or hosting is a lot.
Anonymous
Post 06/29/2022 21:38     Subject: Re:New career for MIL
Anonymous wrote:I’m seriously not a troll. Also, the kids don’t go alone. We ALL go together, not just the kids. Grandma doesn’t bake or cook. We always all dine out or share in the cooking. It’s seriously only about the tradition going away. We can just go to the empty house but Grandpa has busied himself with work trips while Grandma is away instead of the trip. The kids range in age from 4-15 and all go at the same time along with the 4 siblings and 4 spouses.


I mean, its nice that you'd miss grandma and grandpa, but why exactly can't you all get together without them? I don't understand why this totally cancels the summer.

We do vacations with family often. Sometimes Grandma is there, sometimes she can't make it. Sometimes cousin Ralph can't come, sometimes there's 14 people, sometimes 6.

Why are Grandma and Grandpa absolutely essential for your summer plans?
Anonymous
Post 06/29/2022 19:38     Subject: Re:New career for MIL
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Nothing like a pop up European trip to save the day.

Troll.


OP here, sorry it’s hard for you to believe. I’m not a troll, I took the responses to heart, and have proceeded with a plan that is the best option for all involved. I have not been rude and I have realized that I was in the wrong.


You were squarely in the wrong. Please remember in the future not to be so ageist and entitled. Your MIL is an INDIVIDUAL PERSON who does not exist to watch your kids and perform as Reliable Grandma because you want her to. This was such a gross thread.
Anonymous
Post 06/29/2022 19:21     Subject: Re:New career for MIL
Anonymous wrote:Nothing like a pop up European trip to save the day.

Troll.


OP here, sorry it’s hard for you to believe. I’m not a troll, I took the responses to heart, and have proceeded with a plan that is the best option for all involved. I have not been rude and I have realized that I was in the wrong.
Anonymous
Post 06/29/2022 16:32     Subject: Re:New career for MIL
Nothing like a pop up European trip to save the day.

Troll.
Anonymous
Post 06/29/2022 12:32     Subject: New career for MIL
Are you upset that you lost your what??? Servant for the summer? It is ok for Grandpa to go on work trips but not for Grandma to work???
Anonymous
Post 06/29/2022 12:16     Subject: Re:New career for MIL
OP here and thank you all for putting things into perspective for me. I talked with my wife last night and then we made plans with her siblings and their families. Now, we’ve managed to plan a 3 week European vacation together. We’ll miss the traditional time with the grandparents this summer but our children will have an amazing adventure with their cousins and aunts/uncles.
Anonymous
Post 06/29/2022 08:30     Subject: New career for MIL
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Is this one of those reverse posts about the DIL bowing out of the summer tradition but being posed as MiLs fault to see if it changes the response?

The kids are confused? "Hey guys, Grandma has always wanted to learn to fly a fighter jet and she's finally going to take classes this summer. How cool is that? Unfortunately she won't be able to have our yearly get together, but we're meeting your cousins at a cabin in west bumblefck. New adventures for everyone! Yay!"


West bumblefck, haha 😂


+2 New adventures for everyone! Yay!

Exactly!
Anonymous
Post 06/29/2022 05:58     Subject: New career for MIL
Anonymous wrote:Is this one of those reverse posts about the DIL bowing out of the summer tradition but being posed as MiLs fault to see if it changes the response?

The kids are confused? "Hey guys, Grandma has always wanted to learn to fly a fighter jet and she's finally going to take classes this summer. How cool is that? Unfortunately she won't be able to have our yearly get together, but we're meeting your cousins at a cabin in west bumblefck. New adventures for everyone! Yay!"


West bumblefck, haha 😂
Anonymous
Post 06/29/2022 05:49     Subject: New career for MIL
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would like to compare the comments in this post to the MIL complaining that her son and DIL want to go to the mountains instead of the beach for once. People were vicious to her because traditions be damned. Unless this is a troll conducting an experiment.


Um except they invited her along. This OP is upset because Grandma *isn’t* inviting them along. (Which is absurd.) There is nothing similar about these threads.


I beg to differ. The tradition ending is upsetting in both posts. OP could still go to Disney with her kids, she doesn’t need an invitation. Just find her own lodgings if needed and the tradition can continue. Grandma won’t be there however, unlike past years. The issue is breaking tradition. beach house grandma wants to follow the usual tradition, not some other vacation.
Anonymous
Post 06/29/2022 03:55     Subject: New career for MIL
Is this one of those reverse posts about the DIL bowing out of the summer tradition but being posed as MiLs fault to see if it changes the response?

The kids are confused? "Hey guys, Grandma has always wanted to learn to fly a fighter jet and she's finally going to take classes this summer. How cool is that? Unfortunately she won't be able to have our yearly get together, but we're meeting your cousins at a cabin in west bumblefck. New adventures for everyone! Yay!"
Anonymous
Post 06/29/2022 00:18     Subject: Re:New career for MIL
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’m seriously not a troll. Also, the kids don’t go alone. We ALL go together, not just the kids. Grandma doesn’t bake or cook. We always all dine out or share in the cooking. It’s seriously only about the tradition going away. We can just go to the empty house but Grandpa has busied himself with work trips while Grandma is away instead of the trip. The kids range in age from 4-15 and all go at the same time along with the 4 siblings and 4 spouses.


So, you can do it like every summer, just without Grandma and Grandpa. You can still have your traditions. I don’t see the problems.


It will be 22 people instead of 24.


This. Sounds like Grandma wants to do her own thing for awhile. Why not just go with everyone else? Eventually she may rejoin you all. Why is her absence ruining everything?