Anonymous
Post 06/20/2022 16:13     Subject: How are you ruining your kids
Anonymous wrote:Gave them my genes for anxiety. Let them play video games and watch whatever they want on tv. Discipline inconsistently. Allow junk food. Simultaneously hover and ignore. Also, pretty sure I dropped both of them more than once as babies.


All of this except I never dropped mine!
Anonymous
Post 06/20/2022 15:07     Subject: Re:How are you ruining your kids
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don't follow all rules, if they don't work for us. People here are horrified by that, but I don't think it's a big deal. I teach my kids to think critically. For example: there is no eating or drinking on mass transit. But years ago my DD was assigned in the lottery to an elementary school that required us to leave home at 7am to get to her school on time. Not a morning girl, I got her up as late as possible which meant she ate breakfast on the train. Never foods that created crumbs, and she never left trash on the train. So no big deal. People here were HORRIFIED that I wasn't teaching her to follow all rules.


This explains why so many people are so disrespectful and entitled. Unlike PP, I don’t think this leads to violent crime, but I do think it is creating lots of rude people who think they can do whatever they want and feel that they shouldn’t be expected to follow rules they don’t agree with. There has been a tremendous loss of basic common courtesies over the last few years.


+1

Teaching her to break the rules that are not convenient for her is not teaching her to think critically. We can all "think critically" to decide which rules we don't like and will not follow, regardless of how it affects the people around us.


Explain how a kid eating on a train without making any mess, affects people around her. Especially when at least a third of them are sipping Starbucks, eating an RX bar or an apple, etc.



I’m betting you are white. You are teaching her she lives in a world where the rules don’t actually apply to her and she can smile sweetly and get out of trouble. Do you want everyone eating however they want on the metro? Or just your daughter under circumstances you’ve deemed acceptable while others should still follow the rules? It must be nice to believe you don’t need to fear getting in trouble for breaking rules while also still wanting those rules generally upheld against others. You’re a clown raising an a-hole
Anonymous
Post 06/20/2022 15:03     Subject: Re:How are you ruining your kids
I hate the summer and loathe heat and humidity. When my kids were little, we’d go outside in the early morning and then not again. No TT or screens but summer days were spent like mole-people inside in the air conditioning.
Anonymous
Post 06/20/2022 14:00     Subject: Re:How are you ruining your kids
Anonymous wrote:I don't follow all rules, if they don't work for us. People here are horrified by that, but I don't think it's a big deal. I teach my kids to think critically. For example: there is no eating or drinking on mass transit. But years ago my DD was assigned in the lottery to an elementary school that required us to leave home at 7am to get to her school on time. Not a morning girl, I got her up as late as possible which meant she ate breakfast on the train. Never foods that created crumbs, and she never left trash on the train. So no big deal. People here were HORRIFIED that I wasn't teaching her to follow all rules.


It probably wasn’t so much about the rules as it was about potential rat problems.
Anonymous
Post 06/20/2022 13:57     Subject: How are you ruining your kids
Lose my temper a lot. Stay with their dad when I know deep down it's not really the best choice for any of us. Stay inside too much.

I'm feeling pretty sad today, so it's easy to answer this question seriously and not tongue-in-cheek. I don't think I'm a bad parent, but I do wish I was doing better.
Anonymous
Post 06/20/2022 13:56     Subject: How are you ruining your kids
Hardly any chores.

Occasionally, bedtime story.
Anonymous
Post 06/20/2022 13:53     Subject: Re:How are you ruining your kids
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don't follow all rules, if they don't work for us. People here are horrified by that, but I don't think it's a big deal. I teach my kids to think critically. For example: there is no eating or drinking on mass transit. But years ago my DD was assigned in the lottery to an elementary school that required us to leave home at 7am to get to her school on time. Not a morning girl, I got her up as late as possible which meant she ate breakfast on the train. Never foods that created crumbs, and she never left trash on the train. So no big deal. People here were HORRIFIED that I wasn't teaching her to follow all rules.


Ugh parents like you are the worst. This is how we end up with kids shooting up schools. Rules don't apply to you.


There's actually also a rule that says that we don't trivialize the deaths of children by comparing their murderers to people who let their kids eat granola bars on the train. I suggest you follow it.
Anonymous
Post 06/20/2022 13:53     Subject: Re:How are you ruining your kids
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don't follow all rules, if they don't work for us. People here are horrified by that, but I don't think it's a big deal. I teach my kids to think critically. For example: there is no eating or drinking on mass transit. But years ago my DD was assigned in the lottery to an elementary school that required us to leave home at 7am to get to her school on time. Not a morning girl, I got her up as late as possible which meant she ate breakfast on the train. Never foods that created crumbs, and she never left trash on the train. So no big deal. People here were HORRIFIED that I wasn't teaching her to follow all rules.


This explains why so many people are so disrespectful and entitled. Unlike PP, I don’t think this leads to violent crime, but I do think it is creating lots of rude people who think they can do whatever they want and feel that they shouldn’t be expected to follow rules they don’t agree with. There has been a tremendous loss of basic common courtesies over the last few years.


+1

Teaching her to break the rules that are not convenient for her is not teaching her to think critically. We can all "think critically" to decide which rules we don't like and will not follow, regardless of how it affects the people around us.


Explain how a kid eating on a train without making any mess, affects people around her. Especially when at least a third of them are sipping Starbucks, eating an RX bar or an apple, etc.
Anonymous
Post 06/20/2022 13:52     Subject: Re:How are you ruining your kids
Anonymous wrote:I don't follow all rules, if they don't work for us. People here are horrified by that, but I don't think it's a big deal. I teach my kids to think critically. For example: there is no eating or drinking on mass transit. But years ago my DD was assigned in the lottery to an elementary school that required us to leave home at 7am to get to her school on time. Not a morning girl, I got her up as late as possible which meant she ate breakfast on the train. Never foods that created crumbs, and she never left trash on the train. So no big deal. People here were HORRIFIED that I wasn't teaching her to follow all rules.


And this is why we can't have nice things.
Anonymous
Post 06/20/2022 13:50     Subject: How are you ruining your kids
My oldest just graduated from college. My second oldest has just finished her sophomore year.

I never set my foot on either campuses. Just didn't happen, timing wasn't right, etc. They are on their own.
Anonymous
Post 06/20/2022 13:42     Subject: Re:How are you ruining your kids
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don't follow all rules, if they don't work for us. People here are horrified by that, but I don't think it's a big deal. I teach my kids to think critically. For example: there is no eating or drinking on mass transit. But years ago my DD was assigned in the lottery to an elementary school that required us to leave home at 7am to get to her school on time. Not a morning girl, I got her up as late as possible which meant she ate breakfast on the train. Never foods that created crumbs, and she never left trash on the train. So no big deal. People here were HORRIFIED that I wasn't teaching her to follow all rules.


This explains why so many people are so disrespectful and entitled. Unlike PP, I don’t think this leads to violent crime, but I do think it is creating lots of rude people who think they can do whatever they want and feel that they shouldn’t be expected to follow rules they don’t agree with. There has been a tremendous loss of basic common courtesies over the last few years.


+1

Teaching her to break the rules that are not convenient for her is not teaching her to think critically. We can all "think critically" to decide which rules we don't like and will not follow, regardless of how it affects the people around us.
Anonymous
Post 06/20/2022 13:30     Subject: Re:How are you ruining your kids
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:By sending them to public school. Wish we could afford private.


private is not always the better option .


Homeschooling (non-religious) for behavioral issues when we should have just gotten them some pills and sent them to our (very good) public schools
Too late now
Anonymous
Post 06/20/2022 13:21     Subject: Re:How are you ruining your kids
Anonymous wrote:By sending them to public school. Wish we could afford private.


private is not always the better option .
Anonymous
Post 06/20/2022 13:20     Subject: Re:How are you ruining your kids
Anonymous wrote:I don't follow all rules, if they don't work for us. People here are horrified by that, but I don't think it's a big deal. I teach my kids to think critically. For example: there is no eating or drinking on mass transit. But years ago my DD was assigned in the lottery to an elementary school that required us to leave home at 7am to get to her school on time. Not a morning girl, I got her up as late as possible which meant she ate breakfast on the train. Never foods that created crumbs, and she never left trash on the train. So no big deal. People here were HORRIFIED that I wasn't teaching her to follow all rules.


This explains why so many people are so disrespectful and entitled. Unlike PP, I don’t think this leads to violent crime, but I do think it is creating lots of rude people who think they can do whatever they want and feel that they shouldn’t be expected to follow rules they don’t agree with. There has been a tremendous loss of basic common courtesies over the last few years.
Anonymous
Post 06/20/2022 13:16     Subject: Re:How are you ruining your kids
Mine are grown. It's too late. They are ruint.