Anonymous
06/03/2022 08:19
Subject: UMC lessons to teach my children
Anonymous wrote:The true sign of UMC status: Pretending it doesn't exist.
All the while signaling that you for part of it.
Anonymous
06/03/2022 08:19
Subject: Re:UMC lessons to teach my children
I am in your boat and what I wish I had gotten the most was exposure to adults with different career paths, and an understanding of their salaries, education, etc.
I grew up in a town where the richest family I knew was the kid whose parents were both real estate agents who sold houses in the nicer town over. I had no f--king idea what I was doing. I went to the "best" college in my podunk state because I was "the smart one", without realizing at all that that school was ranked in the 80s nationally. As a first gen college student with the test scores I had, I am sure I had a good shot at a top 10 school, but I'll never know. Nobody told me anything.
I grew up in a town where the richest family I knew was the kid whose parents were both real estate agents who sold houses in the nicer town over. I had no f--king idea what I was doing. I went to the "best" college in my podunk state because I was "the smart one", without realizing at all that that school was ranked in the 80s nationally. As a first gen college student with the test scores I had, I am sure I had a good shot at a top 10 school, but I'll never know. Nobody told me anything.
Anonymous
06/03/2022 08:18
Subject: Re:UMC lessons to teach my children
Anonymous wrote:Expose them to culture:
Take them to museums--so easy (and free) in Washington
Take them to plays--plenty of children plays in DC
Take them to ballet--Nutcracker at least
Read poetry to them
Have them take piano or similar lessons--they should be able to do basic music reading--and take them to musical performances. Tune to the classical music station while driving them around, at least occasionally.
Read children's versions of mythology and Shakespeare to them, as well as children's classic books
Sprinkle in literary quotes or lines of poetry in your conversations with them (my candle burns at both ends; miles to go before I sleep; who's that knock, knock, knocking at my door?;he who is last shall be first--note: many literary quotes like this are from the Bible or Shakespeare)
Do everything you can to make them be decent spellers, have legible handwriting, and good grammar (latter very hard when me and Larla is so ubiquitous)
Whenever possible, have sit down family dinners with good conversation--even better if it is at a dinner table with china, silverware, and napkins. Dress for dinner for special occasions like Thanksgiving and Christmas, even if it is just family.
Take them to religious services every week if possible and have them dress up a bit for them.
This is a good list. Though I would quibble with the weekly religious services. Not that it isn't a good idea, but that I don't think it's necessary. I would go with for all major religious holidays. But dressing up regularly is a good habit.
Anonymous
06/03/2022 08:16
Subject: UMC lessons to teach my children
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How to swim
How to downhill ski
Get them great orthodontics
Those are the only ways I know if someone grew up with money
I cant ski, but I play a great game of tennis and was a scratch golfer. I think those substitute for sking for those of us who grew up in the south and don't like the cold. I agree about orthodontics though, a terrible smile is always the giveaway
Golf and braces both will get you far. One of my favorite female executives is a tremendous golfer and it has served her well to move up the ranks.
Anonymous
06/03/2022 08:13
Subject: UMC lessons to teach my children
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How the stock market works
How to earn and save money
How to be resourceful and use your own skills to make money
How to budget
How to make a grocery list
How to meal plan
How to grocery shop
How to stay in a budget
How to plan a party
How to be a good hostess
How to wrap a present with a fancy bow
How to have nice handwriting
How to touch type without looking
Basic math, money, and counting change from $1
How to tie a tie
How to clean well
How to use basic tools
How to assemble furniture
How to apply basic first aid
How to pitch a tent
How to pick good fruit and vegetables from a grocery store
How to grow a garden
How to hunt for food
How to preserve food
How to identify common plants and animals in your immediate surroundings
How to cook
How to fish
How to swim
How to have good table manners
How to be grateful for what you have
How to not look down upon others that have less or envy those with more
How to respect your elders and authority figures
This is an absolutely bizarre list. How to hunt, preserve food, and identify common plants? Do you really think Brooke Astor or the Miller sisters can do these things?
The Astors and the Millers are American royalty UC
Fine. Do you think Sheryl Sandberg can do these things?
Anonymous
06/03/2022 08:13
Subject: UMC lessons to teach my children
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Teach them to accept a compliment graciously.
Teach them how to write a thank you note.
Teach them how to behave at someone else's home (no feet on the furniture, no screaming or throwing things, no food away from the table, etc.).
I grew up UMC and many of my friends are UMC. I am a single mom and am in a “helping profession”—which is a nice way of saying I don’t make good money. So, I live in a poorer, blue collar or no collar at all neighborhood. The only kids who put their feet on my furniture and use bad manners in my house are the children of my UMC friends.
I do agree with a PP’s comment about teaching your kids to advocate for themselves. Being assertive without being aggressive or angry is something UMC people are able to do.
I am the PP you are quoting. I don't think many people of any "class" teach their kids manners these days. Somehow that is too "restrictive". I am just listing things that perhaps in days gone by what many kids were taught that would reflect a better upbringing regardless of how much money they had.
I think the feet on furniture is reflective of not only lack of manners but entitlement.
Anonymous
06/03/2022 08:08
Subject: Re:UMC lessons to teach my children
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Expose them to culture:
Take them to museums--so easy (and free) in Washington
Take them to plays--plenty of children plays in DC
Take them to ballet--Nutcracker at least
Read poetry to them
Have them take piano or similar lessons--they should be able to do basic music reading--and take them to musical performances. Tune to the classical music station while driving them around, at least occasionally.
Read children's versions of mythology and Shakespeare to them, as well as children's classic books
Sprinkle in literary quotes or lines of poetry in your conversations with them (my candle burns at both ends; miles to go before I sleep; who's that knock, knock, knocking at my door?;he who is last shall be first--note: many literary quotes like this are from the Bible or Shakespeare)
Do everything you can to make them be decent spellers, have legible handwriting, and good grammar (latter very hard when me and Larla is so ubiquitous)
Whenever possible, have sit down family dinners with good conversation--even better if it is at a dinner table with china, silverware, and napkins. Dress for dinner for special occasions like Thanksgiving and Christmas, even if it is just family.
Take them to religious services every week if possible and have them dress up a bit for them.
Engine laughs at Art History degrees but I can have an interesting conversation with anyone and hold my own intellectually at any social function
You can take a couple of classes that interest you and have all the art history knowledge that you need without getting a degree in art history. Granted, if the subjects of medieval illumination or abstract expressionism comes up, I'm at a disadvantage
How does a couples of classes give you the same knowledge as earning a degree? 🤔
That's LMC thinking
Anonymous
06/03/2022 07:57
Subject: Re:UMC lessons to teach my children
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Expose them to culture:
Take them to museums--so easy (and free) in Washington
Take them to plays--plenty of children plays in DC
Take them to ballet--Nutcracker at least
Read poetry to them
Have them take piano or similar lessons--they should be able to do basic music reading--and take them to musical performances. Tune to the classical music station while driving them around, at least occasionally.
Read children's versions of mythology and Shakespeare to them, as well as children's classic books
Sprinkle in literary quotes or lines of poetry in your conversations with them (my candle burns at both ends; miles to go before I sleep; who's that knock, knock, knocking at my door?;he who is last shall be first--note: many literary quotes like this are from the Bible or Shakespeare)
Do everything you can to make them be decent spellers, have legible handwriting, and good grammar (latter very hard when me and Larla is so ubiquitous)
Whenever possible, have sit down family dinners with good conversation--even better if it is at a dinner table with china, silverware, and napkins. Dress for dinner for special occasions like Thanksgiving and Christmas, even if it is just family.
Take them to religious services every week if possible and have them dress up a bit for them.
Engine laughs at Art History degrees but I can have an interesting conversation with anyone and hold my own intellectually at any social function
You can take a couple of classes that interest you and have all the art history knowledge that you need without getting a degree in art history. Granted, if the subjects of medieval illumination or abstract expressionism comes up, I'm at a disadvantage
Anonymous
06/03/2022 07:54
Subject: UMC lessons to teach my children
Anonymous wrote:How to swim
How to downhill ski
Get them great orthodontics
Those are the only ways I know if someone grew up with money
I cant ski, but I play a great game of tennis and was a scratch golfer. I think those substitute for sking for those of us who grew up in the south and don't like the cold. I agree about orthodontics though, a terrible smile is always the giveaway
Anonymous
06/03/2022 07:53
Subject: Re:UMC lessons to teach my children
Anonymous wrote:Expose them to culture:
Take them to museums--so easy (and free) in Washington
Take them to plays--plenty of children plays in DC
Take them to ballet--Nutcracker at least
Read poetry to them
Have them take piano or similar lessons--they should be able to do basic music reading--and take them to musical performances. Tune to the classical music station while driving them around, at least occasionally.
Read children's versions of mythology and Shakespeare to them, as well as children's classic books
Sprinkle in literary quotes or lines of poetry in your conversations with them (my candle burns at both ends; miles to go before I sleep; who's that knock, knock, knocking at my door?;he who is last shall be first--note: many literary quotes like this are from the Bible or Shakespeare)
Do everything you can to make them be decent spellers, have legible handwriting, and good grammar (latter very hard when me and Larla is so ubiquitous)
Whenever possible, have sit down family dinners with good conversation--even better if it is at a dinner table with china, silverware, and napkins. Dress for dinner for special occasions like Thanksgiving and Christmas, even if it is just family.
Take them to religious services every week if possible and have them dress up a bit for them.
Engine laughs at Art History degrees but I can have an interesting conversation with anyone and hold my own intellectually at any social function
Anonymous
06/03/2022 07:52
Subject: UMC lessons to teach my children
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How the stock market works
How to earn and save money
How to be resourceful and use your own skills to make money
How to budget
How to make a grocery list
How to meal plan
How to grocery shop
How to stay in a budget
How to plan a party
How to be a good hostess
How to wrap a present with a fancy bow
How to have nice handwriting
How to touch type without looking
Basic math, money, and counting change from $1
How to tie a tie
How to clean well
How to use basic tools
How to assemble furniture
How to apply basic first aid
How to pitch a tent
How to pick good fruit and vegetables from a grocery store
How to grow a garden
How to hunt for food
How to preserve food
How to identify common plants and animals in your immediate surroundings
How to cook
How to fish
How to swim
How to have good table manners
How to be grateful for what you have
How to not look down upon others that have less or envy those with more
How to respect your elders and authority figures
This is an absolutely bizarre list. How to hunt, preserve food, and identify common plants? Do you really think Brooke Astor or the Miller sisters can do these things?
The Astors and the Millers are American royalty UC
Anonymous
06/03/2022 07:28
Subject: Re:UMC lessons to teach my children
Expose them to culture:
Take them to museums--so easy (and free) in Washington
Take them to plays--plenty of children plays in DC
Take them to ballet--Nutcracker at least
Read poetry to them
Have them take piano or similar lessons--they should be able to do basic music reading--and take them to musical performances. Tune to the classical music station while driving them around, at least occasionally.
Read children's versions of mythology and Shakespeare to them, as well as children's classic books
Sprinkle in literary quotes or lines of poetry in your conversations with them (my candle burns at both ends; miles to go before I sleep; who's that knock, knock, knocking at my door?;he who is last shall be first--note: many literary quotes like this are from the Bible or Shakespeare)
Do everything you can to make them be decent spellers, have legible handwriting, and good grammar (latter very hard when me and Larla is so ubiquitous)
Whenever possible, have sit down family dinners with good conversation--even better if it is at a dinner table with china, silverware, and napkins. Dress for dinner for special occasions like Thanksgiving and Christmas, even if it is just family.
Take them to religious services every week if possible and have them dress up a bit for them.
Take them to museums--so easy (and free) in Washington
Take them to plays--plenty of children plays in DC
Take them to ballet--Nutcracker at least
Read poetry to them
Have them take piano or similar lessons--they should be able to do basic music reading--and take them to musical performances. Tune to the classical music station while driving them around, at least occasionally.
Read children's versions of mythology and Shakespeare to them, as well as children's classic books
Sprinkle in literary quotes or lines of poetry in your conversations with them (my candle burns at both ends; miles to go before I sleep; who's that knock, knock, knocking at my door?;he who is last shall be first--note: many literary quotes like this are from the Bible or Shakespeare)
Do everything you can to make them be decent spellers, have legible handwriting, and good grammar (latter very hard when me and Larla is so ubiquitous)
Whenever possible, have sit down family dinners with good conversation--even better if it is at a dinner table with china, silverware, and napkins. Dress for dinner for special occasions like Thanksgiving and Christmas, even if it is just family.
Take them to religious services every week if possible and have them dress up a bit for them.
Anonymous
06/03/2022 06:52
Subject: UMC lessons to teach my children
The true sign of UMC status: Pretending it doesn't exist.
Anonymous
06/03/2022 06:35
Subject: Re:UMC lessons to teach my children
Anonymous wrote:Keep a jar of Grey Poupon on your person at all times, in case you are asked for it. The true sign of class.
And now there is grey poupon ice cream so have that on hand too
Anonymous
06/03/2022 06:34
Subject: UMC lessons to teach my children
Anonymous wrote:How the stock market works
How to earn and save money
How to be resourceful and use your own skills to make money
How to budget
How to make a grocery list
How to meal plan
How to grocery shop
How to stay in a budget
How to plan a party
How to be a good hostess
How to wrap a present with a fancy bow
How to have nice handwriting
How to touch type without looking
Basic math, money, and counting change from $1
How to tie a tie
How to clean well
How to use basic tools
How to assemble furniture
How to apply basic first aid
How to pitch a tent
How to pick good fruit and vegetables from a grocery store
How to grow a garden
How to hunt for food
How to preserve food
How to identify common plants and animals in your immediate surroundings
How to cook
How to fish
How to swim
How to have good table manners
How to be grateful for what you have
How to not look down upon others that have less or envy those with more
How to respect your elders and authority figures
This is an absolutely bizarre list. How to hunt, preserve food, and identify common plants? Do you really think Brooke Astor or the Miller sisters can do these things?