Anonymous
Post 05/25/2022 01:33     Subject: Worried my baby sleeps too much - Need Reassurance
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So... How much is your baby sleeping and eating?


OP here. Here is his schedule that he had been on since 3 months. It has changed because she used to sleep even more.

Wakes at 6:30/7am

Eats 6:30/7am - 6oz, 9:30/10 - 6oz, 12:30/1 - 6oz, 3:30/4, 6oz, and 6:30/7 - 8oz

Naps: 8/8:30 - 9:30/10 - 90 minutes, 11/11:30 - 12:30/1 - 90 minutes, 2/2:30 - 3:30/4, 90 minutes, and 5/5:30 - 30 minutes

Bedtime is 7:30/8 and he sleeps until 6:30/7am - 11 hours

He can’t stay up for more than 90 minutes unless bedtime which is usually about 2 hours. He does 90 minutes up, 90 minutes down. Some days he won’t sleep well but that is usually maybe once a week. He sleeps 15-16 hours a day.

He had always been a big sleeper. He was sleeping 18-20 hours for the first month and eating 10-12 times a day, then dropped down to 17-18 hours between 1-2 months with 10 feeds, then 16-18 hours with 7-8 feeds between 2-3 months. Then he started sleeping 11 hours after his 3 month growth spurt and started eating 5 times a day.




OP here. Besides her saying he sleeps a lot, she has said most babies his age stay up for 2-3 hours between naps. He can’t really do more than 90 minutes before he starts getting tired.


There’s literally a book called “The 90-Minute Baby Sleep Program” by Dr. Polly Moore. Yes, talk to your doctor, but it sounds like your baby is an on-the-clock 90 minute sleeper. You should get the book, it’s good!


Sorry OP but your nanny sounds super annoying and does not know what she’s talking about. I have an 8 month old and she only recently has been able to stay up for 2.5 hours. 90 minutes for a 4 month old is normal. I would find another nanny.
Anonymous
Post 05/25/2022 01:28     Subject: Re:Worried my baby sleeps too much - Need Reassurance
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Anonymous wrote:It is hard to say. I would accept the comments of your experienced nanny as a good reason to talk to your pediatrician, for sure. But there is a wide range in what is normal for sleeping.

Is your baby eating formula? Breastfed babies typically sleep a bit lighter and need to be fed more often than formula fed in my experience.

Is your baby growing and gaining weight normally? Does he seem lethargic or alert when awake? Is he filling diapers regularly?




OP here. He is mostly breastfed ( pumped milk) with one bottle for of formula. He eats 5 times a day - 4 6oz breast milk bottles and 1 8oz formula bottle before bed. Sometimes he will take less at that feed and we give him a dreamfeed before bed but has only happened a couple of times.

He is growing but I’m not sure how much he weighs. He is now in 3-6 month and some 6 month clothes and wears a size 2 diaper after his 3 month grow spurt. We change his diaper 8-10 times a day and he is always wet.



He is very active when he is awake. Constantly flipping to his stomach and spinning himself on his play gym to grab at toys, looking around everywhere, babbling and interacting. He sometimes has a fussy period for the last hour before bed but generally he’s pretty easy and playful.


Four 6 oz bottles and 1 8 oz bottle???? He is drinking a lot. That’s great! I don’t think you should worry at all (obviously talk to your pediatrician). Honestly I would have second thoughts on this nanny of your who thinks she is an expert and is making you feel bad about your baby.
Anonymous
Post 05/24/2022 15:49     Subject: Re:Worried my baby sleeps too much - Need Reassurance
Anonymous wrote:Talk to your pediatrician for peace of mind…but your baby sounds like a dream. Congratulations!


+1!
Anonymous
Post 05/24/2022 06:15     Subject: Worried my baby sleeps too much - Need Reassurance
Thank your lucky stars and don't worry. I've had nannies/babysitters say the same and I think they had previously worked for parents who didn't sleep train. I also read the Weissbluth sleep book, fwiw. My child is now 2.5 and still sleeps 12-13 hours at night and 1.5-2h at nap.
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2022 20:27     Subject: Worried my baby sleeps too much - Need Reassurance
My baby is the same age as yours OP. What you describe sounds great and baby seems to be doing very well! You have an easy baby. Mine sleeps great at night (12 hours!) and takes little cat naps through the day. Babies are all different and you are doing great. tell your nanny baby is fine doc will probably say so too!
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2022 11:57     Subject: Re:Worried my baby sleeps too much - Need Reassurance
Talk to your pediatrician for peace of mind…but your baby sounds like a dream. Congratulations!
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2022 11:48     Subject: Worried my baby sleeps too much - Need Reassurance
Logging is great and I’d still talk to your doctor.

But nothing you’ve said sounds abnormal. It actually sounds like an ideal baby situation!
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2022 20:50     Subject: Worried my baby sleeps too much - Need Reassurance
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:Op, your kid eats and sleeps beautifully.


+1

My kids were like this. I was a devotee of Healthy Sleep Habits Happy Child by Dr Weisbluth. He would be so proud! Your child is the poster child for Weisbluth. His tagline is “sleep begets sleep.” Sounds like your kid is doing great.


OP here. Thanks for the reassurance everyone. I read that book above when he was about 1 month old and started with full feeds, creating a good sleep environment, learning wake windows, etc.


Oh so this was all intentional? Then yes omg ignore her if you don't totally outright replace her. You did what you were supposed to do and the baby listened. Way to go! Ignore any and other noise that makes you doubt it.

--signed, mother of two who worked damn hard, both times, to get them to a similar place so young


OP here. I wouldn’t say it was intentional. I really just read it because I wanted to understand what to expect and what I needed to do to best meet his needs. That’s when I learned ahoy wake windows, the importance of full feeds, and creating a dark nursery with a sound machine for best sleep. I’ve been following that. I haven’t put him on a routine. I have even letting him decide how long often he eats and how long he naps.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2022 19:37     Subject: Worried my baby sleeps too much - Need Reassurance
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Op, your kid eats and sleeps beautifully.


+1

My kids were like this. I was a devotee of Healthy Sleep Habits Happy Child by Dr Weisbluth. He would be so proud! Your child is the poster child for Weisbluth. His tagline is “sleep begets sleep.” Sounds like your kid is doing great.


OP here. Thanks for the reassurance everyone. I read that book above when he was about 1 month old and started with full feeds, creating a good sleep environment, learning wake windows, etc.


Oh so this was all intentional? Then yes omg ignore her if you don't totally outright replace her. You did what you were supposed to do and the baby listened. Way to go! Ignore any and other noise that makes you doubt it.

--signed, mother of two who worked damn hard, both times, to get them to a similar place so young
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2022 18:10     Subject: Worried my baby sleeps too much - Need Reassurance
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Op, your kid eats and sleeps beautifully.


+1

My kids were like this. I was a devotee of Healthy Sleep Habits Happy Child by Dr Weisbluth. He would be so proud! Your child is the poster child for Weisbluth. His tagline is “sleep begets sleep.” Sounds like your kid is doing great.


+1
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2022 18:09     Subject: Worried my baby sleeps too much - Need Reassurance
Anonymous wrote:I’d get a new nanny.


That's what I was going to say!!
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2022 18:07     Subject: Worried my baby sleeps too much - Need Reassurance
I’d get a new nanny.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2022 15:05     Subject: Worried my baby sleeps too much - Need Reassurance
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Op, your kid eats and sleeps beautifully.


+1

My kids were like this. I was a devotee of Healthy Sleep Habits Happy Child by Dr Weisbluth. He would be so proud! Your child is the poster child for Weisbluth. His tagline is “sleep begets sleep.” Sounds like your kid is doing great.


OP here. Thanks for the reassurance everyone. I read that book above when he was about 1 month old and started with full feeds, creating a good sleep environment, learning wake windows, etc.