Anonymous
Post 05/08/2022 12:02     Subject: Not even a card
My mother is dead- jokes on you!
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2022 12:00     Subject: Not even a card
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is why Father's Day should come before Mother's Day in the calendar. Not the other way around. Moms would do a better job of remembering and setting expectations


Oh god no. Instead moms would put on big celebrations for Father’s Day and then receive nothing for Mother’s Day anyway. At least now, women who get nothing can not waste their time celebrating Father’s Day.

The answer is men need to make it a priority if they want a good marriage. It’s not difficult at all.

Blows my mind that men claim they built this world, created countries and governments and massive corporations, but celebrating a holiday is somehow too difficult.


Haha, I was thinking the same thing. No way should Father's Day be first. If a dad was aware enough to model his Mother's Day after what he got for Father's Day, he probably would do a good job on Mother's Day regardless.
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2022 11:56     Subject: Not even a card
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It's a made up holiday. I didn't do crap for my wife/mother either. I'm not a sucker for the greeting card industry.


+1 This. It's a made up holiday to make others feel guilty about their Mother, being a mother, not being a mother, being a "fur baby mother", etc. and so forth. It's one day out of the year. If you have no expectations you will not be disappointed. Honestly, I'd rather have a spontaneous "I love you" card in the middle of the year, unprompted by Hallmark than get overpriced wilted flowers.



+2
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2022 11:39     Subject: Not even a card
My so broke up with me, I’d do anything for this to be reversed. Focus on what you do have and be thankful you and your husband made beautiful children. Celebrate this. In a second everything could change.
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2022 11:37     Subject: Not even a card
Anonymous wrote:It's a made up holiday. I didn't do crap for my wife/mother either. I'm not a sucker for the greeting card industry.


+1 This. It's a made up holiday to make others feel guilty about their Mother, being a mother, not being a mother, being a "fur baby mother", etc. and so forth. It's one day out of the year. If you have no expectations you will not be disappointed. Honestly, I'd rather have a spontaneous "I love you" card in the middle of the year, unprompted by Hallmark than get overpriced wilted flowers.

Anonymous
Post 05/08/2022 11:34     Subject: Not even a card
Card stock is responsible for more rainforest destruction than big oil, aren’t you concerned about the environment for your children’s future???, way to be selfish OP
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2022 11:33     Subject: Re:Not even a card
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If I didn’t ask for the me time this am, I wouldnt have gotten it.
If I didn’t plan the nice date and quality time Friday, we woudint have done it.
There is nothing wrong with wanting a card and wanting to hear your dh say “happy Mother’s Day! Thank you for what you do.”
Dh asked me this week, what do you want to do for Mother’s Day. I’ve learned to get over disappointment that he’s not a cook breakfast in bed or gift giver or craft project maker with the kids. He asked what I wanted, I told him.

I’m not going to feel bad about wanting that, asking for it, and subsequently feeling disappointed that I didn’t get it.


You are making yourself unhappy for it though. I get where you’re coming from and understand the frustration. But don’t lose your day to falling into a pit of resentment.


I decided to work out a little, do a meditation, and order myself a nice lunch.
Choosing to ignore txts from dh asking if I ordered new socks and underwear for the kids.

Mature!


I think this is great! If he is so worried about it, he can do it.
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2022 11:29     Subject: Not even a card
Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand men who won’t celebrate Mother’s Day. It’s such an easy way to show your wife you give AF. My H cleaned the house, got me flowers and my favorite coffee, cooked my favorite breakfast, helped the kids make a card. And now he’s my damn hero, and will be getting laid like tile for weeks. Fathers Day is going to be VERY fun for him.


Ah, the chores for sex marriage trope. Always a classic.
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2022 11:28     Subject: Re:Not even a card
I'm sorry OP. I hope that he just thought the card etc. should happen during "family time."
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2022 11:25     Subject: Not even a card
It's a made up holiday. I didn't do crap for my wife/mother either. I'm not a sucker for the greeting card industry.
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2022 11:22     Subject: Re:Not even a card
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If I didn’t ask for the me time this am, I wouldnt have gotten it.
If I didn’t plan the nice date and quality time Friday, we woudint have done it.
There is nothing wrong with wanting a card and wanting to hear your dh say “happy Mother’s Day! Thank you for what you do.”
Dh asked me this week, what do you want to do for Mother’s Day. I’ve learned to get over disappointment that he’s not a cook breakfast in bed or gift giver or craft project maker with the kids. He asked what I wanted, I told him.

I’m not going to feel bad about wanting that, asking for it, and subsequently feeling disappointed that I didn’t get it.


You are making yourself unhappy for it though. I get where you’re coming from and understand the frustration. But don’t lose your day to falling into a pit of resentment.


I decided to work out a little, do a meditation, and order myself a nice lunch.
Choosing to ignore txts from dh asking if I ordered new socks and underwear for the kids.

Mature!
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2022 11:20     Subject: Not even a card
My husband has been out of town for a week and was too busy to set anything up before leaving. And I feeling way more resilient about it than anything else. Enjoying a day with my kid in pjs.

Also appreciate that you get to have a family. There are so many that have tried and cannot. Your pity party is excessively self indulgent. Maybe take a nap and reassess later?
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2022 11:18     Subject: Not even a card
I don’t understand men who won’t celebrate Mother’s Day. It’s such an easy way to show your wife you give AF. My H cleaned the house, got me flowers and my favorite coffee, cooked my favorite breakfast, helped the kids make a card. And now he’s my damn hero, and will be getting laid like tile for weeks. Fathers Day is going to be VERY fun for him.

Keep stomping your foot and pouting “but she’s not MY mom!” and see how much sex that gets you.
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2022 11:16     Subject: Re:Not even a card
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If I didn’t ask for the me time this am, I wouldnt have gotten it.
If I didn’t plan the nice date and quality time Friday, we woudint have done it.
There is nothing wrong with wanting a card and wanting to hear your dh say “happy Mother’s Day! Thank you for what you do.”
Dh asked me this week, what do you want to do for Mother’s Day. I’ve learned to get over disappointment that he’s not a cook breakfast in bed or gift giver or craft project maker with the kids. He asked what I wanted, I told him.

I’m not going to feel bad about wanting that, asking for it, and subsequently feeling disappointed that I didn’t get it.


You are making yourself unhappy for it though. I get where you’re coming from and understand the frustration. But don’t lose your day to falling into a pit of resentment.


I decided to work out a little, do a meditation, and order myself a nice lunch.
Choosing to ignore txts from dh asking if I ordered new socks and underwear for the kids.
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2022 11:14     Subject: Not even a card
Anonymous wrote:This is why Father's Day should come before Mother's Day in the calendar. Not the other way around. Moms would do a better job of remembering and setting expectations


Oh god no. Instead moms would put on big celebrations for Father’s Day and then receive nothing for Mother’s Day anyway. At least now, women who get nothing can not waste their time celebrating Father’s Day.

The answer is men need to make it a priority if they want a good marriage. It’s not difficult at all.

Blows my mind that men claim they built this world, created countries and governments and massive corporations, but celebrating a holiday is somehow too difficult.